Mother Out Law

How did this plan get started? Did you say something that wasn't interpreted correctly? Do they need assistance? Show them how they can get that assistance. I take it they are young and may need some direction.

Best to just let it be known as soon as possible and if they have to call the wedding off and wait, then that is what they have to do (hopefully there is no baby on the way). However, good for you for recognizing this isn't something you want.

Just be direct, but short and sweet...hopefully any ill feelings will pass soon.

C.

Wow, I guess it all depends and the circumstances. Do they work? do they have the money to move and not move back. Do they pay your rent or are they just bums? Once they move you want to make sure they are set up and won't move back. Our they young or mature? If it is your home, you set the law down. Tell them you need your space and it time they start looking for some other place to live. Reassure them that you love them, but the time has come to move on.

It hard to answer a question, not knowing the whole picture.

Good Luck.

It's quite simple,T.. You say NO. The fact is, A large majority of individuals today,are fearful of the repercussions,of denying A request, They fear rejection and are more concerned, what others will think of them. Oddly enough,the majority will tell you they would prefer honesty,too attempting to spare their feelings,with a fib,fabrication,or sugar coating your response. Tell your son,you don't believe it will work out,and you cherish your privacy.If you are able,and willing to help them,wether it be financially,or just sound advice,that would be wonderful.I wish you the best. J.

just tell him and her striaght up. explain to them that this will stress your relationship with them (and it will im 23yrs and lived with my hubbies parents and had to move out because they treated me like i was 16 and were severely over bearring with my daughter). if they have to live with you for a short time say look your both working (i hope) you have 3 months to find another place to live. then explain what your ground rules are. i know its hard to tell an adult when they have to be home but since im sure you work too explain that if they are comming home late to be quiet because you need your sleep. theres no easy way to say it so you kinda got to be blunt. good luck!

T.,

I agree with Julie S., so many questions come to mind.

But, if you don't want them there and know that's the best thing for everyone, it's just a matter of being honest. I would suggest sitting down with your son over coffee or tea or lunch and explaining to him your reasoning. He's an adult (I'm assuming) and if he's been on his own he should be able to understand that Mom and Dad have done their work, now it's his turn to be the 'grown-up' and take care of his new family.

At least, that's what I'd hope my Mom would do for me now. It might hurt his feelings and upset him for a bit, but at least you're not just telling him 'NO' without a reason.

Good Luck.

This sure is a difficult one, especially minus all the details, but ..... someone who is married should be able to provide for themselves. Yes, there are emergencies, but they can't last forever. You are going to have to sit down with them and be honest. You need your space. Maybe you already know the answer, but why do they want to live there? Is it a matter of prioritizing money spent, ie ... not on nice cars, but on an acceptable place to live? I love it when my parents come to visit, but I love it when they go home - I feel like my husband and I need our own space to live as a married couple without anyone's help. Just be sure to make it clear your reasons - not a lack of love - but just for love - relationships with family are so much better when you have some space - then you truly appreciate them.

Good luck - I can't imagine how difficult this is for you.