Mom Needing Advice on Relationships

I have been here. And whenver you start seeing someone else heres a good question to ask yourself. Is this someone i want my son to be around one day. If the answer is no like in this case then get rid of them immediately. Dating again is good, and your son can be an alarm for you. If they arent good enough for himt o be around then they just arent good enough. If hes scared theres a reason. And momma knows best so if she dont like him Get out of there. Its not easy but break it off. Let the police know whats going on. Make sure your parents know of the situation. Maybe see if your son can stay with his dad when you do it for a couple days just in case. Good luck play it smart but get rid of him obviously your gut is already telling you to.

Get as far away from this guy as possible and never look back.

If you are scared that he will do something physically if you leave him, go file a restraining order against him.

The controlling behavior (relationship only on his terms, he can talk to his child's other parent but you can't, the jealousy, etc) are all signs of an abusive person.

trust me, you don't want garbage like that in your life - and you don't want a man like that helping you to raise your son!

I was a battered wife - and you will be too if you don't get yourself and your son away from this guy... like, yesterday!

Hi A.,

I'm going to tell you what you already know yourself....Throw the trash out and don't look back!.

Then make a visit to your local police dept and tell them EVERY threat that he has ever made against you, your child, your parents etc etc etc.
If your parent's will allow you to...get a dog, a big dog, that is kind and loyal to you and yours, not so much to strangers, intruders, mean people.

As much as I hate to admit it, I have been there myself, so I know from where I speak, and if you feel the need to talk, feel free to email me anytime.

YOU ARE BETTER THAN THIS, DO NOT LET HIM CONVINCE YOU OTHERWISE!

Good Luck!

B.

In my opinion, the minute you said that your child was afraid of him, that made up my mind. He this guy has been around for this long and your child is afraid of him -- then he will continue to scare your child. Think about it this way... the feelings you have for the BF are the same scary feelings that your child has toward him as well...

If you decide to get rid of the BF, do it fast and in public or at your parents house. Tell your parents that you are wanting to break it off... If your dad dislikes him as much as you made it seem then I am sure he will be happy to be close by while your are breaking it off. Its better to get out now then later when there may be more fear.

Also, if you feel that breaking up may send this guy off -- have your cell phone on the ready. Just in case! Good luck -- I've been there and I'm glad I got out when I did. Keep us posted.

I think you should ask yourself what future do you have with him? If your son is terrified of him it doesn't sound like you have much of a future together. If you don't agree with his disciplene of his son would you two be compatable long term? If you are looking for a partner for life you want some one with the same values as you. It doesn't sound like he is a good fit for you. I would consider leaving him alone if I were you. It sounds like a waste of time with him.

Honey take my advice, get out and stay out. I have been in these types of relationships, as a matter of fact I am going through a lot of stress right now because, I didn't use my gut feeling. If your child feels unsafe around this man there is something wrong.

Sometimew we have to make decisions that are hard, and some relationships you never get over. But, YOU have to make the decision for your best, no matter how bad it hurt or how much you love the person. You may always love him, I don't know, but,you can not make him change. If he has not seen he needs to change and is not trying to don't put yourself through it. Why be unhappy? You can find love and their are good guys out there, just because you have a child is no reason to settle for less than you deserve! I pray you make the right decision and that you and your child will find happiness.