Miscarriage Emotions

I had a miscarriage back in March(9weeks)and a D& C done at the very beginning of May, I was told as soon as I had one normal regular cycle, I could go ahead and try again. So basically once I had my normal cycle most of my body went back to normal, no more pregnancy symptoms etc. But I do agree with the last response, everyone is different and goes through it differently.
Wishing you the best... And just know you are not alone...

M.,
I can really relate to what you are going through and Yes i believe what your mother says to be true for some of us. I had the same experience at 37 y/o and misscarried at 3 months. It took me a year to get myself back into a centered state. I dont believe it should take everyone that long, as everyone is a different emotional being. All i can say is honor yourself and your feelings and dont push them away because that will just make the process last longer. I would recommend to try and eat well and do some exercise as that will also help the chemical stress on your body and will help you to move through the emotions with more grace and ease. I ended up pregnant again at 40 and now have a very happy and healthy 22 mos old. Have faith and Trust in your process.
peace & blessings...A.

I experienced one at 6 weeks. (I've since had a baby boy). Anyway, big hugs for you and you have my total sympathy. But, no, I have NOT heard of what your Mom has told you. However, maybe that is how she was trained in her field???? The best thing, would be to ask your own OB/GYN. Yes, you will feel emotional for a bit of time... each person being different...and yes, the body, biologically, has to revert back to pre-pregnancy and the body is going through a LOT of changes. It takes time. Just don't feel you are the only one. If you need to, seek out like minded women who have gone through the same thing, or ask your doctor. Perhaps there are support groups or something? Ideally, you should have seen your doctor when you had the miscarriage??? And he/she should have follow-up appointments with you and explained everything to you. If you're not feeling well etc, you should contact your doctor and get the answers to what you are wondering about. Also, online research has great resources too. Reading books or articles about it helped me, it's reassuring. Each woman's experience is different.... I wish you all the best and remember to take care of yourself and seek out the support you need, friends, or close one's, or your doctor. It will pass & get better. Really.
~Susan
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I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I know you can try again after you've given your body a 3 month rest. It's good you've started your cycles again, that means you're ovulating and you can conceive again. It won't take away from this loss to have another, but it sure will keep your mind off of it more. I had 2 miscarriages before my now 11-month-old son was born. If you're already trying, maybe you're more depressed you're not pregnant again yet. Don't worry, it's better to wait the 3 months so your lining is more ready to keep the baby. If this feeling doesn't go away and you're not going to try again for awhile, perhaps some anti-depressants will help you. I've never heard that the body will think you're pregnant for the entire 9 months if you miscarry. I don't think that's exactly true, if it was, you wouldn't be ovulating and menstruating already. She could mean you might morn the loss of the baby that long because you'll tell yourself things like, "I would have been 6 month pregnant," or "The baby was due today." Trust me, it will get easier and you will feel better about this. Talk to your OB/GYN about how you're still feeling. It's OK to grieve, cry, and remember, but if it is interfering with your daily life, it's time to do something different about it. Take care of yourself and I promise you, if you have another baby or adopt, you will wonder how you ever lived without the new baby. There are times when I'm thankful my body didn't keep the babies that were obviously not normal pregnancies because I wouldn't have the exact son I have now. Your pain is temporary, I hope that will comfort you to know there will be an end to it, even though it doesn't seem like it right now.

I too had a miscarriage it was actually a tubal pregnancy and I was rushed to emergency for immediate surgery due to where the baby was in my fallopian tube got to big and punctured it and it caused internal bleeding.I was 9 weeks pregnant. They did a procedure called"salpingectomy" I still till this day feel like they gave a total hysterectomy because we've tried to have another baby and still no luck. I feel exactly what your going through and I am truly sorry for your lost.

M.,

First let me say I am deeply sorry for your loss. I had never heard of this before but now that I think back to when I had my miscarrages I felt that way atleast a year after. I couldn't even look at pregnant women without being a little emotional. I had two miscarrages before I got pregnant with my daughter, one at 11 weeks and one around 5 weeks. You are going through a very personal time of grief, so I'm sure your emotions are everywhere. I remember it had been about a year, and I was crying on the "anniversary date" of the miscarriage. It's wierd how your body senses these things. Don't be too hard on yourself, let yourself be sad and grieve. I have faith one day you'll carry a baby full term and be a great mommy! Never give up! Remember, most women who have miscarrages go on to have healthy babies and the good thing is now you know you CAN get pregnant! I beat the odds twice! J. K

Hi M.;

I am sorry about your miscarriage. It is such a painful experience.Unfortunately, people will belittle your pain by telling thoughtless comments; such as "oh you were only 7 weeks you will have more"! It doesn't hurt any less. The painful part for me in my 2 miscarriages was that my breasts produced milk. Not only was i hurting emotionally, I was also hurting physically. I guess your mom is right, my body still thought I was either pregnant and ready to nurse a baby that was not going to exist.My thoughts are with you.

What your mother said is true for some moms. In fact, my own mother miscarried and her milk came in at the end of the nine months.Didn't happen to me though. I had a miscarriage last year in March and got pregnant again 6 months later. I have twin boys that were born in June. What helped me the most to get through the grief was prayer and for some time to pass. Also, if you haven't already, give the miscarried baby a name to honor him/her.
That really helped me. God's best to you...
A.