R.B.
Based on what you've written, it sounds as if Montesorri is the best bet for your daughter. She needs to be learning at her own pace, learning what she wants, which is the focus of Montesorri (as you know). I am a public school teacher, and the students I have had who came from a Montesorri background are better learners than those who went to a "traditional" preschool. I wish you luck.