Kissing at Age 8? - Queen Creek,AZ

My father drives a school bus part time, and he has told me some CRAZY stories about very young children kissing and doing other inappropriate things in the back of the bus. 4th and 5th graders in his district are caught kissing and "feeling" each other on a regular basis. The thought is that these young girls want to impress and get the boys to like them! I was floored listening to the stories. Kids these days are way too quick to pretend to be older than they are. And it makes you wonder where they even learn this stuff?

The other day I was talking to my 8 year old cousin who just recently found out that I was pregnant. Here was our conversation:

"I can't wait till I have my baby," my cousin said.

I laughed and replied, "Jillian, you don't even know how to have a baby."

"Yes, I do!"

"Oh, ya? So how do you do it?"

"First a girl gets naked and lies on a bed with a guy. Then she kisses him a lot and they make funny noises. Then a baby get's in the girl's tummy. When Tommy (Her best friend) sleeps over next weekend, I'm gonna make him give me a baby."

I was shocked! And don't worry, I called her mom up and told her to think twice before letting Tommy sleep over again. So ya, kids are definitely doing things a lot younger now a days. I remember the days when I was shocked that a 9th grader in my school was pregnant. I found out a few days ago that there is a 6th grader in my sisters' school that is pregnant!

I suggest talking to both your son and your daughter and just letting them know that they are too young to be doing things like that.

Last year when my now 7 year old son was in kindergarten, I recieved a call from his teacher saying him and a girl in his class had kissed in class. She told them that it was inaropriate and called both sets of parents. The teacher laughed and said it was very cute actually, My son is a very affectionate kid who is every bodys friend, very outgoing. I'm sure he or the girl meant nothing by it just expressing friendship. We sat him down and explained that this wasn;t allowed in school and he was too young for this. There has been no problems since. I never had a problem with it as I know they didn't mean anything by it and how do kids learn what is exceptable behavior if we don't tell them. They are exposed to plenty of unappectable behavior all the time. Just have a talk with your son about what your expectations are and his as well.

that is scary! I don't have a child in school yet, but I didn't kiss until I was 15 :) I know that it is normal for young ones to experiment, but just have a conversation that kissing usually is between older people who dearly love each other GOOD LUCK

Our school district starts middle school at 6th grade, where many of the children are only 10. And yes hand holding and kissing do take place.

Well, when I was 7 I had a boyfriend and we kissed a lot under the tire things in the playground. We even had a friend of his tell us about when he was on vacation he saw a couple naked in the pool together. So we then kissed with our shirts up. Fastforward 13 years and here I am a single mom. I was really a good girl about no sex until I realized I never rebelled against anything in my teen years. I really think you should worry only if his personality warrants a concern. He could just be following instructions of the girl. He might be bullied into it. So perhaps ask him if that's his doing or her telling him.

No WAY! my son is 9. I havent heard anything like this ?!? I am going to ask him.

"No WHY? " "No" thats what my 9 year old says.

We have a small school 450 kids. its a public school.

Great now he may go try it out :(

NO! My daughter is in 3rd grade and I have not heard that yet. My son is in 6th grade and I have not heard it from him either. Both my kids are pretty open to telling me things like that. I haven't heard it from other mothers either. I too would have a heart attack if that was happening in my kids elementary class. Good Luck

i caught my son kissing the neighbor girl at 3. no big deal they are just now realizing that the other sex doesnt have cooties. I wouldnt worry.

You may want to have a talk with the school so that they can have a talk with the whole grade on what is and isn't appropriate. A friend of mine said her daughter's class (5th grade) had a boy who was saying inappropriate things about the teacher behind her back. She said a counselor came in to discuss sexual harassment (in age appropriate terms). You know your kids and probably have a good idea about their personalities and what the intent was. But, it is a good idea to let them know that they can get into a lot of trouble at school for kissing. And, make sure they know of a more age appropriate way of showing someone they like them. Make sure your kids know they can get sick (at the least) from kissing someone else too.

Funny story: A boy from my elementary school friended me on facebook about 6 months ago. It brought back a lot of memories. I can remember that when I was in kindergarten and he was in first grade he asked me to go behind the bushes and he would give me a lollipop. I went behind the bushes grabbed the lollipop and climbed out. I knew what he was up to!!

I would suggest that you talk to your son and ask him what was going on. If you jump to conclusions then you may be causing yourself some undo stress. Start the communication process. It will become a lot more intense as time goes on and things are easier when you communicate with your kids.

Hi! I have a 2nd and 4th grader and I think I too would have a heart attack if they came home saying they were kissing/being kissed. The school they attend has a "no touching" rule. Other than field trips or instructed by teachers, they are not allowed to hold hands on school grounds. I believe this is to deter the 6th graders, that I hear hold hands on the bus. Although I am sure this is harmless, I would speak with the teacher about this. If it is happening on the playground, then maybe they can alert the yard supervisors. Good luck!