Kids Learning.

Updated on October 19, 2011
R.B. asks from Decorah, IA
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This morning I had the parent/ teacher conferences with my 4 yr old. She said that he needs to work on his alphabet more as he doesn't know most of the letters. Also his numbers 1-10. Counting he is ok, he can count to 15 with no problems but identifying them he has problems. She said that he isn't able to pick out the letters to his name when mixed in a pile with other letters.

So... I left there and went to buy some flash cards. I checked two stores and they didn't have any... so I bought plain index cards and made my own. Did the alphabet and numbers 1-20. Then they also want them to be able to look and know how many objects are on a table with out counting each one out 1-10. So I made card with dots.

We went through all of them twice. On the "dots" he had a hard time after 7. I even jumbled them up so they were out of order and he had them all correct each time. I laid all of the alphabet out on a table and asked him to get the letters to his name. He picked them right out, in the right order and spelled his name.

So do you think kids do better with mom and maybe a little more reserved with teachers? I was just wondering if your kids are like this?

** They go over the alphabet and number every M/W/F when the 3yr olds are not in class with them. So they are working together 3x a week, its not just on the "test" days this is happening with her . **

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M.M.

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Maybe the test was taken at an earlier date when he wasn't sure or not too comfortable with the teacher yet. My first daughter in preschool did this. She was so shy but I explained to her that she can trust her teacher because her teacher was there to help her learn. She did great so maybe just make sure you keep working with him at home for self confidence and let him know that the teachers are there to help him learn. Hope everything works out good luck!!!

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S.T.

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SO SO SO many t hings can impact a 4 yr old. was he having a bad day, does he feel intimidated by the teacher, or by being on the spot? There are many different learning styles and some people can be exposed to a thing for a long time - then one day the lightbulb just oges on!

don't get yourself stressed at this age. Kids learn different things at different times. Some kids are excellent at math, others at reading/writing others are great musicians or athletes. We all have our skills and school based math & language skills are only 2 of many.

Good luck mama - being involved is 90% of it for kids!

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H.M.

answers from Dallas on

Kids all learn differently. My son was really bad with that stuff too especally at prek. There was too much going on around him to distract him from concentraiting. Most kids do much better learning better one on one.

Good Luck and God Bless

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C.L.

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This made me laugh because I have the opposite problem. My daughter does great at school, but can't do it at home for me.

I agree that it might be a distraction at school; the pressure of being put on the spot, too many people, or other things going on that are pulling his attention away. When you're working with him at home, there's less pressure and less distractions.

I would talk to the teacher and let her know that he seems to be able to identify letters and numbers at home, and see what she might suggest to help him excel at school.

My daughter had an IEP in kindergarten to help her with her letter sounds. Maybe your sons school can offer something similar. Kids all learn at different rates, we just need to give them the tools and encouragement to excel! Good Luck.

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C.B.

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He just may be a little insecure with the teacher right now and makes mistakes because he's nervous. Even if it's not "test" day, he may feel "on the spot" when the teacher asks him to do it. My granddaughter is not a good test taker - she gets sooooo nervous even though she always does well. The schools make such a big deal about those annual tests they give the kids now that it literally has my granddaughter's stomach in knots. I explain to her each year that this test is really testing the teacher - this test will not determine whether you proceed to the next grade, but it does impact whether your teacher will keep her job. So, don't let the teacher get you this nervous - she is only thinking of herself! And then I let the teacher know that she is NOT to put that pressure on my granddaughter and that if she feels she has done her job well throughout the year, there is no need for any pressure! It's her problem, not the kids and she needs to keep it that way!

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J.P.

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I think some kids this age like the extra attention from the teachers, sometimes I think they are distracted by other things going on in the room. My son does some of the same things. We've been working on him writing his name, and at home it seems like he's pretty good for his age, but then I see the papers that he gets back from school I see how the teachers are dotting the letters for him to trace, and then when he free hand writes it, it looks way more chicken scratch then when he does it at home (which is still chicken scratchy, but a bit clearer). Anyway, I think they definetly act a little different in school than at home. It is the teachers job to alert you tho, so I would be thankful you have a teacher that is paying attention. Sometimes these classes have so many kids that things like this could fall through the cracks in instances where it may actually be an issue. I would call her and let her know what he can do at home, so that she knows.
My son told me the other day that he could button his sweater by himself, but only at school! lol. It reminded me that he has a lot of skills and that I should probably stop doing so much for him so he can develop them more...at home!

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