Just Don't Know What to Do - Elk City,OK

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Jess,

Ask to speak to the social worker at the Children's hospital and see if they can suggest some help for you. There are classes for siblings and respite services, as well as counseling and behavioral services that may help.

God Bless,
M.

Call in the troups...do you have family or close friend to take them out for a bit to get some fresh air? Such a difficult situation. It is totally understandable you are at the hospital. Can you leave for an hour to sit and eat with them or tuck them in at night?

I hope everyone gets better.

I am so sorry. I hope all of you are well soon.
You really do need to be with baby and there is no way dad can be there..

This is the time to ask for help from everyone..
You can call your kids, Tell them to be good helpers, tell them you know they can behave and you need them to help take care of dad and each other.. Maybe someone could drive them to the hospital so you could have lunch with them in the hospital cafeteria or a place super close by?

Do you have easy activities for your kids to do at home? Like coloring a get well card for your 22 month old? What are they doing? Keep them occupied (which is hard while sick. I know) and they will ask for you less and will be easier to deal with.

I'm not sure what to tell you...is there another family member than can come stay for a bit and let you go give them baths and put them to bed, or maybe stay while you go to eat with the kids.
I can imagine it's hard, but they will survive it and maybe daddy will be more aprreciative of the control you have over the household.

Can you have a relative or close friend come say with you little one for a few hours to give your others some attention?

prayers to you and your family so you can be all together soon!

I am sorry you are going through this. With hubby not feeling well and all the extra stuff, he must be feeling the pressure at home.

My first thought was he is really going to appreciate what you do all day when you finally get to come home.

You are going to have to accept he isn't going to do the same job as you or even half as well. And then let him do what he can. The kids will get by with only dad for a while, they aren't going hungry, maybe not the best meals in the world but they are eating, they will eventually go to sleep at night without you being there too. Calling them and reading a story to them might help or it might make them too stirred up if it's too close to bedtime, you'll just have to see what it does. Letting them come visit often. Even if they only get to look through the glass windows they will get to see you for a moment.

I know this is hard for you but dad will eventually get it and do okay. He is dad after all and they do love him, they are just really missing their routine and mommy right now.