MY little one has become attached to me, actually I don't think she has ever been detached from me, lol. She is at the point now that if I even sit her down on the ground next to me she starts crying, but as soon as I put her back in my lap she immediately stops and giggles and smiles and starts playing again. No one... and I mean no one (including dad) can hold her - only me. All is the same reaction with immediately melting down with big tears and as soon as she is back in my arms tears stop and she giggles and smiles again. I think she knows that crying equals mom.
Can I or should I stop this behavior or just let it be? I am not overly frustrated by it (occasionally when I HAVE to get something done it is a bit frustrating, but other then that no biggie). So should I just hold her/be with her like she wants or should I try to encourage more alone time for her. I also can not leave a room with out her. If my older kids are with her she is fine , but she freaks out/melts down if left alone in a room.
Thanks!
Normal. At this age she has no concept of time or that when you step out of the room you are right there on the other side of the wall. Try putting her down then step out of sight and then pop right back in and make a game of it. Or talk to her the entire time you are out of sight. I would do this while taking a shower, singing songs and acting crazy to let her know I was still there.
she's normal.
This is all developmental based.
You do not 'scold' for this.
She is only a baby.
Get the book "What To Expect The First Year" and "What To Expect The Toddler Years."
Separation-Anxiety and concepts of "object permanence" are things that are being experienced by a baby this age. They cannot help it. Babies DO NOT have, "impulse-control."
Make sure your 'expectations' of her, is age appropriate.. .otherwise, she and you will get frustrated.
She is a baby.
This is normal.
Bonding with a Mom, is very important... for the development of a child and for their self-confidence.
My daughter is 7 months and does this to some degree. I have been putting her in the sling and going about my business! She loves still being with me and I have two hands free to keep getting everything done I need to get done...
Sounds normal to me. If it is not a problem then I wouldn't worry about it.
my child hasn't done this yet, he is six months, but I am waiting. from all my reading "stranger aniexty", even with people she knows at this age, starts to take affect. That means they do always want to be held by the parent they are with most, and not eft, etc. it is a stage and it will pass. some suggestions are to still let her cry a little while, tell her it is okay, after a little bit soothe her, etc. I'm sure there are books at your local library about this
This is my son too! Wants only mommy at night after work. I attribute it to him being away from me all day and missing me, so I do my best to catch up with housework on the weekends so I can devote myself and my arms to him each weeknight. I know he needs that bonding right now, so I am willing. I have learned to do almost ANYTHING one handed! I hate wearing my son in a sling - so uncomfortable!
I wouldn't try too hard to stop the behavior because, guess what, it probably won't work! A baby that young needs us. You will miss these days before you know it! I know how frustrating it is when I need to get stuff done, but I have just learned to do most things on the weekends when baby is OK being put down for a minute, or letting some things go!
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