Is Anyone Happily Married Anymore? Taking a Poll.

Hi Mom
1.Married for 5 yrs.
2.We have a very happy,peaceful home and take great pride in achieving this.
3.Yes my hubby is a great husband,very kind and considerate.
4.I would marry him again in a heartbeat,one of the best decisions I have ever made. We got married 9 mths after we met.

All the best
B.

10 years
Very happy house with two busy little boys!
My husband is the best! Comes home, kisses all of us, we eat dinner and play ;-) He gives me and the kids 100% of himself ;-)
I WOULD defiantly marry him all over again ;-)))

1. - married 6 years, been together 11

2. - yes - happy. Hubby only home 2 days a week. We learned we have to make the best of those 2 days.

3. - Yes. My husband works his butt off professionally and personally for his family

4. Hell yes I would marry him again. Love him to pieces!!

Yup - it can be bad out there. I am surprised at all the positive reponses. It's nice to see, though. At first I was being a scrooge about all of the positive responses. But, you know - good for all of you! This site is for good and bad. We rarely hear about the good things (why complain about that?!) I think we are so used to venting about the bad, we forget about the good, so at least you gave people an outlet for the good. After all, how often do people complain about bad service, but forget to call about the great service (ie - restaurants, customer service, etc.?)
For the rest, I will just bite my own tounge and let the mamas and wives out there enjoy their time to celebrate a happy partnership.

<laughing> People don't ask questions in despair/ confusion about their HAPPY marriages :)

How long have you been married?
- Married 7, together 10

Would you describe your house as a happy home for everyone who lives there?
- Nope.

Do you consider your husband a good husband // who is concerned about you // and the well being of his family?

-No, no, yes. (He tries... but he has to actually TRY not to see us as "burdens trying to ruin his life" and he has to work REALLY hard not to be mean/ violent/ angry. When he relaxes ... look out. Misery.

Would you marry your husband all over again or choose differently given the chance?

- Currently... absolutely not.

I agree with seeing ALL those depressing un-happily married posts! There are too many:(

1) 10 years
2)me, my four kids and he is happy
3)I really truly think he is the best husband any husband can be- he has ALL the qualities for it- humble, manly, loving, thoughtful, funny, very good in bed, attractive, fun, great father, talented at his job, concerned, always in touch with me, best friend, and there are so many more traits! Just THINKING about him, gets me "excited" ;)
4)OH YES!

I think a good marriage has TRUE LOVE, TRUST, FRIENDSHIP. The spark was there right away for me. We were only 20, but knew him when I was 15. NOTHING HAS FADED, only gotten stronger. We are very close. There isn't ONE thing about him that makes me "cringe". He truly is my one. I'm very fortunate:)

1. Married 7 years, together 10.
2. Kids are mostly happy, I can find happiness with just about anything, husband will always be the "I will be happy when" person, but he has mental health issues.
3. Husband is a good father, mediocre spouse.
4. No, neither one of us would choose the other again. Ever. And we're OK with that.

It's good to hear about the strong and healthy marriages - of course here people will ask questions when they are having problems so it's a little lopsided.

Married 15 years. I am more in love with my husband today than when I married him. He is truly my best friend. We are raising our two daughters together and we buried our son together. I can not imagine being with anyone else. He is not only my husband but my boyfriend which is what I think keeps me happy. I try to be his girlfriend besides his wife. My husband works from home so I see him all the time except when he occasionally travels.

My girls are now almost 8 and 13. They are great kids and I believe they would say our home is a happy one. I sure hope so anyway. Additionally, they are so much more independent now so my husband and I have time to nurture our relationship by going on lots of date with and w/out friends. We also do lots of fun things together as a family. We also have an active, fun sex life which I thinks makes us both better people.

How long have you been married? Met when we were 13. This fall we will celebrate 30th anniversary.

Would you describe your house as a happy home for everyone who lives there? Yes, we are always laughing. He does get on my last nerve, but he puts up with me too..

Do you consider your husband a good husband who is concerned about you and the well being of his family? I know my husband works hard and loves us all very much.

Would you marry your husband all over again or choose differently given the chance? Yes, we were married 10 years before we had our daughter. There was a time when we had not had a conversation in weeks, because we were both working full time and she was still an infant, but as we were sitting here across the room from each other, he looked at me and winked.. I looked at him and mouthed I love you.. We knew we were going to be just fine.

It does take work and the realization, you married him for a reason, he has grown and so have you. Accept him as he is and let him love you for who you are..

Restoring your faith in the institution of marriage. ... here goes ...

I love my husband. I would marry him again today. We've been together for seven and 1/2 years and I want to still be near him and smoochin' him when he's an old grandpa. I love that he's so hands-on with our children. Even my other mom friends are amazed at how much effort he puts into being Dad. He keeps me sane, happy, provided for, loved and full of joy each day.

When I hear about other women having marital problems, it breaks my heart too. I married late and had children late and I am all the better for it. I waited for the man I couldn't just live with. I waited for the man I couldn't live without.

What can I say, he's my Sweetie.

J.

1. Married 8 years. Dated 5 years before that.

2. We are very fortunate that we have a very fun and happy home.

3. My husband is very involved with every aspect of our family. His #1 priority is the safety of our son and myself. There isn't anything he loves more than his family and taking care of his family.

4. I would marry him over and over.

Couples need to make having a happy home a priority. Children pick up on everything and know if they aren't living in a happy environment. Turn off the tv and computer and just sit on the floor as a family and play. There isn't anything as important as just all being together.

14 years yesterday :)
Yes.
Yes.
Yes!

I am very happy in my marriage. My husband might not be "Mr. Excitement" but I've had enough excitement in my life! LOL
And he really makes me laugh.
And he accepts my (somewhat) dysfunctional family as his own.
He is a loyal, hard working, great provider and a great dad who takes time to play sports with our son and build model planes with him, etc.

My son and I have all we could ever want.

Overall, I wouldn't change a thing. Maybe that he wouldn't work as much, but his motivation is coming from the right place.

1. Married 4 years
2. Yes, happy home. We have small children running around - how can you not be happy when you see their smiling faces?! Even if hubby and I aren't happy with one another, they make it all better. Hubby comes home directly after work each night, eats dinner with the family and plays with the kids. I would love more help, but overall, we have a great time together as a family.
3. I do think hubby is a good hubby and great father.
4. If I had to do it all over, I would definitely marry him again. No matter what issues we have, he is honest, loving, loyal and loves me, and I him. He may not cook, clean or help me around the house, but I would take that over someone who lies or cheats. Each marriage has their issue(s).

Of course you are going to hear more of the negative on mamasource - it is where many women, including myself, go for help and advice regarding issues they may be having. Doesn't mean we don't love our men! We just want to strangle them sometimes! Kidding =)

I agree with you about all the posts about husbands. I know they for the most part are not the same as they were years ago. It seems that no one takes time to stop and smell the roses. We all just pick them and keep on going including me.

1. I have been married for a long while.
2. Yes we have a very happy home for everyone who lives there (and the neighbors kids if you ask them LOL)
3. My husband I think is not the norm any more. He helps fix dinner and clean up. He is a family man and spends almost all of his free time with us. On occassion when his buddy's are in town he goes out, but maybe 3 or 4 times a year is all.
4. I would marry my husband again if ever given the chance. He is my best friend and we get along great. We have our little tiff's, but see things pretty much the same.

How long have you been married?
15 years - and we still very much enjoy each other's company.

Would you describe your house as a happy home for everyone who lives there?
Yes. Sometimes I feel sorry my husband, he's surrounded by females! We have 3 daughters (12, 9, 8).

Do you consider your husband a good husband who is concerned about you and the well being of his family?
Yes. Whenever we have problems, we discuss how to handle them together. We are a team.

Would you marry your husband all over again or choose differently given the chance?
I would marry him again in a heartbeat! He's a wonderful friend, husband and father.

Humm, sorry I didn't read all 70+ responses but here's mine.

My dear husband and I will be together 25 years next month, married 22. I don't understand "soul mate" but he is my best friend and I would marry him again in a heartbeat! He is an amazing husband and father not to mention a saint of a son in law! I can't imagine my life without him.

I too have noticed all the posts and especially the ones about the disappointment about Valentines day. My husband and I rarely give each other things. Sure, I have beautiful pieces of jewelry I don't wear. He used to buy me a rose for every year I was old for my birthday until I saw the bill - what a waste of money! But what we do do for each other is show our children our mutual love and respect for each other and our marriage. I hope our children are seeing that you don't have to buy stuff to show your love for someone.

My husband and I have been married a little over 5 years. He is the best, best provider, husband, and friend. Sure, there are times when we look at eachother and think "What the heck did I do, marrying this crazy person." But, at the end of every day when I tuck my kids in and snuggle with my husband (if he's not traveling for work!) I know that there is absolutely no place else in the world I'd rather be. I am very fortunate to have him in my life. Very blessed indeed.

Lynsey

7 years this summer
I would describe our house as very happy
My husband is awesome and very concerned about the well-being of all of us
I'd marry him all over again

You're right-marriage is hard, but I wouldn't choose to navigate it with anyone else! Fun post!

I adore my husband and him me. We fell in love at a Telecom conference in '93 when he was here on business from Sweden and never looked back. Fast courtship; married within 3 months. We have two beautiful children (16 yrs old and a 2 yr old).
He still brings me roses to brighten my day and does the little things that make me happy...helping with the kids, making sure every day I get time to myself, helps with washing dishes, taking out trash...etc. We enjoy going out once a month to get time to ourselves bowling, dancing, playing laser tag, museums etc. We don't do movies that often because that's just sitting in the dark, we'd rather look into each others eyes, talk, and laugh.
We also go on walks with the kids to the park or around the neighborhood when weather is wonderful.
And I do little things for him: give him his 5 to 10 minutes alone to unwind from work, always take his opinions and voice into consideration, buy him little things that make him smile from a new shirt, candy, to red wine.
I encourage him to go to work after 5 functions and to have a hobby he enjoys. We call each other during the day and even send each other love notes. And even when we fight or have an argument we end up always laughing during it. He always has my back and I his.
My husband is my better half, my soul mate, the complete package. We feel in love so fast, no doubts and I would definitely do it again. My man is my heart and best friend; and he tells everyone the same.

We have been married almost 15 years.

Yes, it is a happy home...we have a great routine. My husband is home every night for a sit down dinner with the family. He does the dishes...I bathe the kids and get them to bed. Then we hang out together.

Our family is my husband's number one priority. He is currently giving me support as I recover from a severe back injury that has caused some depression and anxiety. He totally has my back in the healing process.

Yes, I would marry him all over again. He says he would me too. I have to say though we are so well matched in intelligence, personality, likes, ambitions, spirituality, the really biggies that can make or break a marriage...we agree on money (both wish there was more...but more important on how we spend it)...agree on sex (both wish there was more...but back injury and exhaustion running a family can tire us both out)...family (he likes mine and I like his...parts of both we both dislike we avoid.).

My husband is my best friend in the world. I can tell him anything. He is my soft place to fall.

How long have you been married? 11.5 years

Would you describe your house as a happy home for everyone who lives there? Yes, unless it's chore time :)

Do you consider your husband a good husband who is concerned about you and the well being of his family? Absolutely. I don't know another man who's willing to work so hard to provide for his family like mine does.

Would you marry your husband all over again or choose differently given the chance? I'd marry mine again in a heartbeat. My only regret is that I didn't meet him sooner :) I fall in love with him more and more each day :)

-I've been married 6 years
-My home has never been anything, but happy. Not perfect, but very happy.
-My husband is an AWESOME husband. I truly hit the jackpot.
-YES!! I would marry him again!

How long have you been married?
5 years

Would you describe your house as a happy home for everyone who lives there?
Most of the time

Do you consider your husband a good husband who is concerned about you and the well being of his family?
Yes - he makes mistakes, but he means well

Would you marry your husband all over again or choose differently given the chance?
I would marry him all over again

Married for 13+years.

Yes, I think we have a happy home, for all that live here.

Yes, hubby cares about me and our children, he is concerned about all of us and our well-being.

Yes, I would marry him all over again!

~If given the chance, I would 'fix' his picky eating habits and the fact that he not very helpful around the house! I so blame his mother for his inability to help w/the household chores! Growing up he had NO chores and was ridiculously catered to! Hubby's only chores are garbage and the
bathrooms, which he does once a week...during the summer add to that the lawn and pool maintenance and that's it, that's all he does!...But I love him, none the less! ;)

How long have you been married? 14 years

Would you describe your house as a happy home for everyone who lives there? I guess it depends on how you define "happy" - while neither my husband or I is a naturally cheerful optimistic type, I think we'd both agree that our home is a loving, committed, supportive, nurturing one

Do you consider your husband a good husband who is concerned about you and the well being of his family? Definitely yes He works hard at his job and is also diligent about maintaining and fixing things around the house, and tries hard to strike a balance between work time and family time - he intentionally chose a job that was not as lucrative as many in his field because he didn't want his job to be so time-consuming that he never had time for our family and church.

Would you marry your husband all over again or choose differently given the chance? Would absolutely marry him over again! It is such a blessing to be sharing my life with someone who shares a similarly quirky sense of humor, the same commitment to raising our kids to be well-rounded, compassionate, and responsible citizens, the same faith, and same heart for social justice. Someone who is honest about his shortcomings and patient with my shortcomings. Someone who takes his faith and his responsibilities seriously but doesn't take *himself* too seriously. Someone who frequently lets me know he appreciates me and what I do with the kids - he honestly values and appreciates what I do as a SAHM and never makes me feel that my work is any less important to our family than his paid work. Someone who even cleans the toilets in our house almost every week, without me ever having to ask him to! :-D

Yes. Married for 10 together for 14. Never perfect but exactly what I want and need. My hubs always asks what I am thinking and can tell when I am holding back. was he great when son first born? No. Is he a phenomonal father now? Yes. Does he love and adore me and our family? A big fat YES!
I'd marry him again in a hot second!

I have been with my hubby for 8 years, married for almost 5. I have to say we have a great marriage. He is home every night for dinner, we watch tv, movies, play games together all the time. I'm not much for going out, but every once in awhile, he will hang out with his guy friends, who are also married, for a little bit...maybe once a month. He's a great hubby and great father...and from what my parents and sister have said, he's a great son in law and brother in law! heehee...I joke with him because he takes my little sister on 'dates'. We are 31, she's 21 and they get along like a brother and sister! They both LOVE Harry Potter(I don't) and they go to all the movies together once they come out! It's very cute!

I think we work because we went thru hell and made it out just fine. We got pregnant before we were married, had no money...he was still in college, working nights and supporting us! We had no money and now we have a house, pets, cars, one (perfect) daughter and another child on the way. We're very happy! I can't imagine my life without him in it!

How long have you been married? 21 years (but we've known each other for 31 years).
Would you describe your house as a happy home for everyone who lives there? Yes!
Do you consider your husband a good husband who is concerned about you and the well being of his family? Yes!
Would you marry your husband all over again or choose differently given the chance? Yes - and I wish we could have married sooner but he had to finish collage and he wanted to work a year before we married. It gave us a good engagement period.
We both feel we've perfectly matched to each other and we're very happy.

We just celebrated our 12th wedding anniversary & have been together for over 14 years which at the age of 34 is pretty good I think. We've had at least our share of issues over the years, but we've essentially grown up together.

He is a very good husband & overall we do have a happy home for everyone. His main concern is & has always been taking care of his family which has been known to become a downfall when because he can tend to lean towards depression when he doesn't feel like we're financially where we should/could be at this stage in our lives.

With everything we've been through, I still wake up every morning happy I married the man I did!

I have been married to my best friend for 6 1/2 years now and we have been together for almost 11. He truly is my best friend and I would for sure marry him again in a heartbeat. He is the best father and most loving and supportive husband. A great provider and the glue that holds this family together.

Great question. It's sad to see so many of my friends get divorced. It's also quite interesting as often, I will see it coming before they even get engaged. I seem to hear a lot of "I shouldn't have married him" or "I should have listened to my mom or whoever." And when kids are involved - it's heartbreaking. I think that women have a false sense of marriage, especially when it comes to money - there is more to a man than how big his wallet is. I have always said that I would rather struggle financially with the man I love then have boatloads of money and a worthless marriage. There are things that I have done for my husband and his family that I can't ever have imagined doing (hospice care at my home) - and it's because I love my husband and respect him.

So to answer your questions:

How long have you been married? Almost 7 years. Together 10. 5 year old daughter.

Would you describe your house as a happy home for everyone who lives there? Yes.

Do you consider your husband a good husband who is concerned about you and the well being of his family? Absolutely.

Would you marry your husband all over again or choose differently given the chance? In a heartbeat!

My husband and I have been married for 4 years. We have a 2 yo daughter and a second child on the way.

I realize that we haven't been married all that long, but we've had our trials. My husband is in the army and has spent a year of our marriage (the first year of our daughter's life) deployed.

That said, he is the most loving, caring, and considerate man that I have ever met. When he comes home from work, he always goes and plays with our daughter. I'm usually finishing up cooking dinner, but our living room and kitchen are connected so I can watch them play while I cook. He is an amazing father.

He's said before (and I agree) that he thinks that we are less prone to "take things for granted" since we deal with having a lot of time apart. (Even when not deployed, there is training every so often where he has to be away.)

I would, without a doubt, marry my husband again given the choice. Being in the military realm, there are a lot of marriages that don't survive deployments (as I learned during the year he was gone). So I definitely understand what you mean about wondering what has happened. I think we get out of it what we put in, but unfortunately, it can't just be one person putting in all the effort. Best wishes and prayers for all those who are currently struggling!

i've had the same thoughts around here lately :)

married 8.5 years; home is mostly happy (hey, we aren't perfect!)
hubby is **mostly** a wonderful husband, sometimes he can get a little, umm, selfish, but it's nothing to really complain about--and he always makes up for it; family is definitely a priority to both of us.
would i marry him again? in a heartbeat!!!

I have been married for 17 1/2 years. We have three children that range in age from 11 to 17 months.

Yes, I would describe my home is a happy place for everyone who lives there.

I do consider my husband a good husband. He shows that he cares about me and the children even though he works a ton. When he is home, he helps out with the children, is a boy scout leader, gardens, barbeques, and fixes things that need attention. He never complains about how I spend money even though he is the only one bringing it in since I am a stay at home mom.

I would choose him again if I had to do it all over. We have now known each other for twenty one years. During our dating time, I broke up with him three times. Mainly because I could tell that my friends did not think he was a 'catch'. The last time we became boyfriend/girlfriend again I told him that it would come from him if the relationship were to end. It hasn't all these years later.

The joke was really on my college 'friends'. Many of these individuals have divorced and been cheated on or have not begun to purchase homes or other nicities a college education should give you.

Why do I think my relationship works? My husband and I are dedicated to not only to each other but to our children to make it work as a unit. We know that there will be times of great passion and times when we cool off for a while. It still does not change our focus on us as a family.

We rarely argue. Why? Because we choose to save our arguments for things that really matter. Very little is worth arguing about since we know our ultimate goals are the same.

Been married almost 8 years!

Happy home with the usual stresses here and there! :)
Yes hubby is concerned about our family. We do not watch tons of TV and read regularly and pray with our kids. Because we both work fulltime we make it a point to play with the kids as much as we can.

I would marry him again in a heartbeat.

It'll be 11 years this year.

I would describe my home as content and happy most of the time - like 90% of the time.

Yes, my husband is a good man who is concerned about us and does try to make all of us happy. He is very attentive (however - it's a whole other story when it's hunting season - during that time I become a single parent - so you could consider that the remaining 10% of the 100. lol)

Yes I would marry him again.

I would say that we have a good marriage overall. However, one of our downfalls is communication which we are always working on. I think a lot of couples issues comes from poor communication or the lack of it. It's work to keep a good marriage going but the results are so worth the effort.

I have been married 8 years, we've been together for 14 years.
My husband is a wonderful husband & father. He is nearly perfect, in my opinion. We have a very happy home with our 2 kids. We love each other dearly & will absolutely be celebrating our 50th anniversary some day.

So my questions are: How long have you been married? 13 years

Would you describe your house as a happy home for everyone who lives there? Very happy!! We are like the normal family. We have had our problems... ups and downs... etc. But that only makes us stronger.

Do you consider your husband a good husband who is concerned about you and the well being of his family? Oh yes! He works his butt off for the good of the family.

Would you marry your husband all over again or choose differently given the chance? Yes! He's a hunk!

Yes yes yes! I have been married 8.5 years and together for 11.5. I would marry him over and over. Is our relationship perfect? Of course not -whose is? But we are committed to each other, our family and building our lives successfully. We do explore our own interests separate from each other but we support each other in those ventures. I think one of our secrets is staying considerate, doing the little things for each other. Saying please and thank you. But also talking through are hopes, goals and concerns. I also believe in supporting friends marriages. I support them working through a problem before giving up. I try and ask tough questions and play devils advocate to get them to think from a different perspective in effort to help them work through an issue. I also believe happiness is a choice. I can choose how I respond but not control him. I also remind myself he is unable to read my mind and attempt to tell him what I need.

Hopefully we are not small in our numbers.

We've been married 5 1/2 years, together 8 1/2.
We have a very happy house.
My husband is excellent. He may not be the most organized or helpful (around the house) all the time, but he is a very loving and involved husband and father!
I would 100% marry him again!

We are not perfect! We argue and sometimes pick on eachother, but we get over it! When we took premarriage classes through our church, our sponsor couple gave us 2 excellent suggestions:
1. Don't tell your family about your arguements/disagreements/fights! You may forgive and forget, but it is nearly impossible for your family to!
2. Marriage is not 50-50...It's 100-100!

Married: 8.5 years. Together 10.5
Happy? Aside from a few stressors, yes.
Good husband/concerned?: yes and YES!
Marry him again?: Absolutely.
:)

So my questions are: How long have you been married?
Would you describe your house as a happy home for everyone who lives there?
- Mostly. There are some stubborn personalities and so we aren't 'Leave it to Beaver'.

Do you consider your husband a good husband who is concerned about you and the well being of his family?
- He's a good Dad and prefers harmony in the home.

Would you marry your husband all over again or choose differently given the chance?
- Probably. If I hadn't married him I wouldn't have my kids. I don't know if HE'd want to marry me tho. (i.e. quirks/personalities)

Celebrating our 14th wedding anniversary today; together for 18; would do it all over again most definitely! Married my best friend and still consider him such. He's a wonderful husband, funny, handsome, hard worker, FANTASTIC daddy, tons of integrity, chooses his family over hanging out w/ the guys all the time. I'm blessed! Of course we have our ups and downs, don't we all. But we choose each other and we choose to make it work. I don't imagine that will ever change.

I've been with my honey 12 years but truly committed, sharing our lives completely as a married couple 2 years. My kids are much happier with us together. I'm happier him with than without him, but I wouldn't say we are happily married. It's rocky and we have a lot of ups and downs.
My husband is a good father who is concerned for the health, happiness, and well being of his children. Me - he could probably do without!
I would marry him again, but knowing what I do now, I probably would not have started dating him way back when. By the time we got married, I was too deep in love to turn back, but had I not gone down this path..... well, I guess I can't say that because I wouldn't have my sugar babies.
So far as the institution - I am much better off and so are my children for being married. Our life has a rythm and a balance that was missing before. However it seems that everything works but the relationship part. We are good parents and we have divided the bills and work fairly. We support each other and we're there for each other in any major events. But on a day to day basis, we just don't have much to say to each other.

I am happily married. We have been married for 13.5 years. In October we celebrate our 14th. I remember the date we meant and so does he - he brings me flowers on that date. He also does it on the day he asked me to marry him....

My husband strives to be the best dad and husband - he works hard so I don't have to work outside the home. He fixes all the stuff I break (and I can break a bowling ball!!)

He coached little league baseball as well. he fixes things around the house and makes sure we are all safe - he's my "he-man!" :)
I would marry him all over again. He said the same thing to me a few weeks ago. My birthday is next week and he and my best friend worked it to fly me to Las Vegas for my birthday!! HOW COOL IS THAT!?

Does he drop the ball sometimes? Oh heck yeah!! Do I drop the ball sometimes? Oh heck yeah!!

Has he cheated on me? Nope.
Have I cheated on him? Nope.
Do we talk about other people - i.e. does that girl look nice? yes. we do. I tell him he can bring them home!!! LOL!!! But that's the beauty of our marriage - it fits US! Is it perfect? for us - yes, for others? maybe not. but I wouldn't trade him in (now on the days that he has dropped the ball - I might call you and ask you if you want another husband!!! I do that do my bestie - then I dump and we're all good).

We don't have sex as often as I'd like - but I can't have sex for 3 more weeks anyway because of my hysterectomy!

What would I change about him? I'd love it if he could gain some weight!! I think in the 16 years total we've known each other - he's gained one pound each year! DOG!!!

I would go back and change a few things I did that hurt us financially...but otherwise - I wouldn't go back and change much...the hurt of loosing three babies - one at 20 weeks, it's made me and us who we are today!!!

We've been together since 1989, married in 1998 and have a 4-YO boy.

I think our family is fairly happy. We spend most of our free time together around the house - but we also enjoy doing our own things.

My husband is a good person. Not necessarily a good husband - in that he is a little lackadaisical about helping out with the boy, doesn't pick up after himself, spends money carelessly sometimes, loses his stuff (and MINE, when i lend him my things, like my ATM card)... but he will always stop and give me a back rub, sends me sexy text messages, and rarely, if ever, criticizes my way of doing things. Does he drive me crazy? Often. Do I drive him crazy? I'm sure I do.

I "chose" my husband the first time around (I was in college, and had another serious relationship, that could've easily turned into marriage), but my husband was my first boyfriend/lover and a great friend. Our crazy romantic sexy years seem to be in the past, but occasionally, we'll surprise ourselves with how much we still enjoy eachother's company. Right now, for us, it's all about the boy, and his future, and what we have to do to get there together.

Very happily married! for 11.5 years and 6 kids! All our kids are happy- My husband is the most wonderful person! and I would marry him all over again without hesitation! We have made each other and our kids the priorities in our lives- that means that I get to stay home and we get to live on a small one income- but it is worth it! I treasure every day that I get to spend with my husband and our children! Not that our family is leave it to beaver or the brady bunch! but I wouldn't trade them for the world!
~C.

I have been married to my best friend and favorite person for over 21 years.

Everyone in my house is not happy, I have a 14 year old girl, and she is happy, and then she is not, and then she is happy, and then she is not...we make her less happy than she would like to be (all our fault, oh well.) The rest of us are happy, most of the time. Pissed off sometimes, sure, but nothing terrible.

My husbands biggest concern is the well being of our family, he gauges his self worth, as do most men, on how well he provides for us. I try to tell him every chance I get that he does a terrific job as a provider, and that he is the best husband and father in the world. Does not matter if he really is or not, he is great to me, and this makes him feel good. Men who feel good about themselves when they are around their wives want to be there, and try to do more for them. Having done it both ways (nagging, complaining, lecturing and making excuses for not wanting sex) I found that the opposite really works wonders, and now that he is as happy as I am, I like life the way he does, and I have everything I want.

I would marry him again, I cannot imagine life without him, and the only thing I might do differently is to read the Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands years earlier than I did.

M.

Yes and no!
I have been married for almost 5 years. It will be 5 in June.
I think it is mainly a happy home. My husband and I both work full time, so it can be stressful. We have an older child that is able to help out with chores which helps a great deal. My husband and daughter fight alot, so that brings some tension.
I do think that it would be alot nicer if my husband would help out more. I do most of the housework...all of the cooking. My kids are with me most of the time. But, he does help out.
I definitely consider him to be a good husband and he definitely is concerned about our family and our well being. He definitely wants what is best for our family at all times!
I think I would marry him again :)

I've been married for 5 years. I knew from the moment I met my hubby that I would marry him. We still have our disagreements and fights, but I love this man more today then I did when I met him nearly 7 years ago. We have two smart boys together and they are the light of our lives. When he gets home it is full on family time until the boys go to bed. We do sometimes unwhind seperately (he loves his x box and I have a sewing business on the side) but we are in the same room and enjoy each others company. I would marry my husband over again and again and again, forever. He balances me out and he gets me.

I once read a quote that said "the happiest marriages are those in which both partners believe they got better than they deserved". I love this...and it's exactly how I feel.

My hubs and I have been married for 6 yrs this June. We've been though new jobs, three moves, the loss of our first baby, raising our second in a two-income home...and he's been my partner through it all. He is a tireless provider and helps me with everything - esp once we both had to go back to work. We're very intentional about making time for each other and not letting time go by without "checking in" with each other. Our house isn't very big, so we don't spend much time in separate rooms - ha! We appreciate each other and the time we have together very much.

I think daily that if I had it all to do over, I couldn't imagine anyone else in the world to spend my life with. I am blessed.

PS - We're both fiercely stubborn sometimes and have a motto that "no one is getting out of this marriage alive" - HAHA! Divorce is not an option.

Been married for 6 years. Been with my hubs for 10 years.
He is everything I could ever want. He is a hard worker and provides for his family. He spends every minute he can with our kids. Of course we argue, every couple does. Our home is happy and loving. I would marry him again without even having to think about it. He is an amazing and wonderful man.

I love your question, and I so agree that everyday people are posting about marriage problems. I feel so sad for families living in an unhappy home.

How long have you been married? 19 years, will be 20 in July

Would you describe your house as a happy home for everyone who lives there? Hmm, it isn't perfect, the communication between hubby and our kids could be better, but I think in general, everyone is happy.

Do you consider your husband a good husband who is concerned about you and the well being of his family? Definitely, communication could be improved between him and our children but he is a wonderful husband and truly cares about our children. They are 16,13 and8, so of course being teens, life is a bit more stressful and the attitude on both sides could be better.

Would you marry your husband all over again or choose differently given the chance? I would marry him again in a heartbeat. We were high school sweethearts, met when I was in grade 10 and he was in grade 12, it was at a high school dance, he asked me to dance, something about him made me say yes. We started dating a short time after, we had our ups and downs for the next 6 years, we would break up for a few months and always got back together again. We dated a few others during our months apart but something always brought us back together. We married after I finished college and have been happy ever since. We also have wondeful role models in our families. Our grandparents, parents, his 3 brothers/sisters and my sister have all been happily married to the same person. There are not many families that can say that today!

We are different in many ways, he is a spender while I am a saver, the kids are more important to me, although he is a good dad and we have other differences but we make marriage a priority and we work hard for our family.

We have been married for (almost) 24 years - together for 29. Yikes :)
Yes, a happy home (most of the time!). At least, that's what we strive for.
Yes, my husband always puts our needs above and before his own - he really is one of the most selfless people I've ever met.
Yes, I would marry him again...he's the only person who's ever been able to put up with me this long :)

How long have you been married? 14 years

Would you describe your house as a happy home for everyone who lives there? Yes, definitely

Do you consider your husband a good husband who is concerned about you and the well being of his family? Yes, definitely

Would you marry your husband all over again or choose differently given the chance? I tease I would run...however, I have no regrets. I don't believe in renewing vows because I stand by our original vows.

Married eight years together 9.
I would say that we are happy most of the time, and when we are not we deal and move on with forgiveness.

We play a lot. We dance in the living room to old songs, we cook together on weekends, and we have tickle fights with our kids all of the time! My Husband absolutely has our best interest at heart as a Husband and Father. However, he is a workaholic and that would be my only complaint, not enough time with him. We have definitley saught counseling for past issues, we absolutely have HUGE arguements sometimes...but we get throught it. That's what matters right? Not giving up?

I would marry the man that my Husband is today all over again, but I would NEVER go back to who we once were. All of the fun stuff happens in the middle. The struggles made us stronger.

How long have you been married?
almost 8 years

Would you describe your house as a happy home for everyone who lives there?
very

Do you consider your husband a good husband who is concerned about you and the well being of his family?
definitely

Would you marry your husband all over again or choose differently given the chance?
yes

My husband works full time, I work on the weekends. We split all daily tasks. We rotate cooking dinner every other night. I wash the laundry, he folds it, we put it away together... all of our chores are pretty equal. We don't have chore charts, we just help each other out.

We take turns putting the kids to bed, we take turns giving baths... we do everything pretty equally. Obviously, since I am home with them, I do more, but when he gets home, he will encourage me to go out a few nights a week to go shopping or to the library or something so I can have mommy alone time.

We have certainly had a very down time in marraige about 3 years ago. We almost divorced... it was an extremely stressful time of our lives that we allowed to effect our marriage. We got help and though we still get into a little 'tiff' every now and then, it's never anything that lasts more than a few hours and it's never over anything serious. We both have very active consciences and do all we can to please each other and put our family as the number one priority in our lives. We make everything a matter of prayer and council each other. We have the same goals for our family, the same morals and all of that. I love we have open communication. We have a few things we lightly disagree on, but over all, we have a very happy and healthy relationship and very honest and open with our communication.

We agreed to make our marriage work and to raise our children in the most loving environment possible. The gospel also keeps us centered on how to treat each other with respect and kindness. Overall, that is why marriages fail, because people become selfish and uncaring for the mates and families.

Hubs and I will celebrate our 17th anniv in August. We've been together for 20 years altogether, since I was 19. I would say that I am *generally* happy in my marriage. I am content with my life. Our kids have their problems, but it's nothing we can't handle. I'm lucky in that I found a good man early on. I knew 2 weeks into dating him that I would marry him. He certainly has his faults (he's a workaholic, he always gets to be "good cop", his family is bordering on disastrous, I could go on, but I won't because I also have plenty of faults). We're making it work. Both our parents have 40 plus year marriages and are great role-models for us (well, maybe my parents more than his parents). I don't ALWAYS see fireworks when he kisses me, but *sometimes* I do. Sometimes he pi$$es me off so bad I just have to go to another room and close the door and NOT TALK TO HIM until I cool down. But generally, I'm a good woman who married a good man and we are content.

Good post! And wow, LOTS of responses :) We've been married 5.5 years, together 10 years... and no, our home is not happy all the time, but there is love and respect and dedication and most days a lot of fun! I would never choose anyone else, my husband is my best friend - for better or worse. My husband is 100% involved in this family and we are a team in everything. We have our separate interests and friends, but we share our lives completely and love eachother passionately (most days lol). And we do fight, but we've learned how to fight right.

I should mention we've had some major stress and gotten through it stronger than before (cancer, infertility, micropreemie twins in the nicu, financial struggles, death of friends, his ex who he has a child with, etc, etc, etc)

I think that most people don't post on sites like these when life is great, they post because they are looking for advice when things are bad, so it looks kind of skewed from reality.
But I always feel so sad for how many posts there are about marriages in turmoil. People have the expectation that life will always be sunshine and roses and aren't willing to fight for their marriage when its less than perfect. People are all too willing to give up. Not saying its ok for someone to tolerate being cheated on or abused, but there is too much emphasis on instant gratification, entitlement and self-centeredness in today's world. Vows are taken way too lightly. I actually had a friend who got engaged quickly and said "well, if it doesn't work out i can always divorce him" like it was nothing more than breaking up with a new boyfriend - really got my blood boiling!!!

Happily married for 6 years, together for 11. We both work, but are home together quite a bit. We eat dinner together every night and usually cook it together. We talk a lot and have "date" nights at home in front of the fire about every 2 weeks. I really, really adore him (and I think he feels the same). He's just the best guy in the world. I encourage him to go out with his friends for drinks (and he encourages the same), but mostly we hang out together. It helps that we genuinely have a lot in common. We have our bumps here and there, but mostly I feel extraordinarily blessed. Of course, I am also the kind of person who knew what I wanted in a partner and didn't didn't make it past the second date with anyone who didn't meet my really high standards. There is no doubt in my mind I won the husband lottery!

My husband and I have been together for 22 years. We have been married for 19. We have a large family and we own and operate a business together. When I am completely overwhelmed, he takes over my job along with his. He has no problem shouldering responsibilities on my bad days and vica versa. We have gone through our share of ups and downs like all relationships. I think that couples shouldn't strive for happy all the time. We get into fights once in a while and our kids have always been told that fighting once in a while is OKAY and actually healthy because it means we work through our problems and not just bottle them up. If I had to do it all over again, I would not change anything. I married him the month after I turned 20 which was pretty young, but I have always know deep down he was the man I was meant to be with. No one knows me like he does!

We will celebrate our tenth anniversary in June... WOW!

Our house is happy MOST of the time.. I am moody so that affects everyone :) We have 2 beautiful girls together and he has 2 boys from a previous marriage... blending families is HARD WORK

My husband provides well for us and would do absolutely anything for me.. without a doubt. Are there things I wish he did differently- sure but I still love him. He works very hard for us and is concerned about our families well being. He has dinner with us most nights, although some are in his chair. He takes part in his hobby about once a week and other than that he does not go out without me. He could use a little rewiring in the parental roles but I have tried and apparently I am not good at rewiring. But he loves his children without a doubt. We just parent a little differently but always on the same page when it comes to the big things

Although we have had some very trying times, I know in my heart I would do it all over again.

I have been married for 6.3 years(been together for 10 years) and we both say were very, very happily married, we also have two kids. And our home is a very happy home, we both give and take. Both of us put effort in to our relationship and both would 100% marry each other again (he tells me weekly how happy he is that he has me and that I was his best birthday present ever, we met the week of his birthday). I really do consider him my soul mate. We don't agree on everything all the time and our life is far from perfect but it is our little life and were proud of it.

YES I would Marry him again in a Heart Beat :-) My husband is an amazing Father, provider, Best Friend, Lover..... this list goes on and on! I guess sometimes I feel badly for 'rubbing it in peoples faces' who do not have such happy marriage ( I have been in one of those-Sucks) .
BUT again, he is a MAN and they're are days I would love to Beat him (Not literally) ... but I'm lucky those days are few and far between.

I have been been married for 4 years and have one 2 yr old. My husband is the greatest husband and father and I everyday I feel so lucky to have him. I consider myself happily married and would marry my husband all over again without hesitation. I honestly believe God made us for each other.

Married 14 together 18 (wow we are getting old)

We have a happy silly house that is for the most part upbeat and happy. We do have our stressful times but thats just life.

He is a wonderful man and husband who still chases after me even after all these years and the kids and I are his biggest priority. I love that we have grown up together and still think he is the best friend and room mate I've ever had. I would totally pick him again and again and again!!

So my questions are: How long have you been married? 4.5 years (together for 6.5)

Would you describe your house as a happy home for everyone who lives there? Yes (me, my husband, our au pair, our 3.5 yo DD, 2 yo DS, baby on the way) -- not always but about 85% of the time (we do have toddler tantrums to deal with!)

Do you consider your husband a good husband who is concerned about you and the well being of his family? YES - he is faithful, faith-oriented, fun, humorous, and a GREAT DAD; does he have his faults - yes, he likes to play video games (at age 34), watch sports a lot, and keeps his feelings to himself, and likes to do chores on his schedule (instead of my nagging one)

Would you marry your husband all over again or choose differently given the chance? YES I would marry him all over again -- we have had our ups and down (mostly my fault) and he needed some time to grow up and mature but he my other half

My two cents... I don't think your poll questions are necessarily appropriate for couples who have a child under the age of 5 in the home. Because small children, especially infants and toddlers, create a huge distraction for the relationship. Not only do their presence create distance between the couple, but there is also sleep deprivation, irritability, increased financial expenses (diapers, formula & daycare), in addition to the everyday demands from work, home maintainence, and personal time.

I think couples tend to develop tunnel vision... The relationship goes on auto-pilot. And you really can't answer or ponder your poll questions under you're out of the trenches.

The adjustment in my marriage after our first born was tough. We were very good at being DINKs. Those first 3.5 years after her birth really tested our determination to stay married. Now with our 2nd, things are less frustrating--because we know what to expect. My husband has many wonderful qualities, but being a primary responder with the baby is not one of them. Letting that expectation go has allowed me to have more patience towards him. But that's a growth process. Some people can do it, and some throw the towel in.

I read statistics that once said the most common time for couples to divorce are within the first 3 years after a child's birth or when children are about to leave/have left the home.

To answer your questions, we've been married 8 years, together 15. I love him madly and have intention of divorcing. But with 2 kids under the age of 5, some months are more trying on us than others.

Married 7.5 wonderful years and and we are both extremely happy!!! Yes, our home is a happy home for all of us and quite quiet too, since we never fight. My husband is extremely kind and caring and my only regret is that I didn't know him when I was a bit younger!

Respect is the key, and that goes for both men and women, not just the man showing it to the woman!!

I have a great marriage and am very happy. I'd pick him over and over again. We've known each other for 10 years and been married for 9. I like to think our house is a happy home. We do not have an enmeshed relationship; he has things he likes to do without me, I have things I like to do without him, and we're both okay with maintaining our own identities without always have to be 'us'. At the same time, we also have many things we like to do together. We both pull our weight equally around the house (reading women complain on websites like these were really helpful for me in establishing guidelines with my husband BEFORE we brought the children home!) We rarely fight and if there is stress it is more in the form of a disagreement rather than the frigid emotional withdrawal. It's really awesome to have this sort of harmony.

I think happy people are out being happy with their spouses while unhappy people are sitting online b!tching about their spouses?

I have been married for 14 years

I would describe my home as a happy home for everyone who lives there - we have our ups and downs, but we are both committed to our marriage and each other. We put each other first. I think that is a big part of what makes a marriage work. I still get up every mroning and make my hubby's lunch for him, or I do it the ngiht before. It is not something that is REQUIRED of me, I do it so that he knows that I LOVE him and that he is a priority to me.

I do consider my husband to be a good husband who is concerned about me and the wel being of our family. We talk to each other throughout the day through texts. He is always checking in on how the kids and I are doing. We are his #1 priority, and I have no doubt about that.

I would definately do it all over again. There were times when we have had our issues and I am glad that I pushed through. We are so much stronger as a couple now. I think it is really important to learn to communicate EFFECTIVELY with your partner. What works for one couple, may not work for another couple. I think that you need to figure out what works for you and then DO IT!! Communication is the key to a happy marriage in my opinion. It took me a long time to figure out that my husband is not a mind reader. I thought that he should be able to see that I need help, it was obvious. And probably any other woman would see it. But men are different. All I had to do to get help from him was ASK HIM!! Go figure! LOL

Hope that helped to restore your faith

going on 9 years married, 14 years together (dang!), happier than ever. Mutual respect, active sex life, like to talk to each other. wasnt always this way

Not yet married but I have been with the man I do wish to marry for a little over 6yrs and we have a VERY happy home, we actually look at what our friends do when they have rocky times and discuss how to NOT get ourselves into those situations.
Yes, he is a good man, care giver and he has concerns about everything even if he does not voice them constantly like women do.
I can not wait until we are married but we both want things in OUR life before we need that peice of paper that says we are married. His parents call me thier DIL and mine thier SIL etc so yeah it will be nice when it is 'official' but we have other joint goals to accomplish first.

I've been married 3 yrs. Known my husband for 5. I dated his best friend, and when that was not going well, I always wished I had met my husband first but thought we would never be together. Well he decided to take a chance on us and everything is right in the universe and we are all great friends. Sounds weird I know. ;) We have 2 daughters with a son on the way and I can't believe how blessed we are. He is my absolute best friend. We make each other crack up, and our witty emails back and forth are enough to make me fall in love with him all over again. He works looooong hours at a job that literally sucks the soul right out of him, but he does it so I can stay home and take care of our home and our children. If I don't cook dinner he never ever would give me a hard time, and will help me with anything I ask.... poopy diapers, teeth brushing, ANYTHING. (Although lucky for him I don't ask TOO often.. LOL!) He always puts me first, above our children, his mother, and makes it known very often. He cares about his health and exercises 4x a week... but isn't obsessed with it. I love when we are just lying on our bed with a glass of wine playing with the kids. He has a great heart, is a wonderful Dad. I really couldn't imagine us not working out, and look forward to our lives with kids and AFTER. Things aren't always perfect, but even when we get into a fight we honestly can get over and move on very quickly. He luckily isn't as stubborn as me! I can trust him, he can trust me, and there is nothing I ever have to hide from him. Even if I had to have a glass of wine at 11 am to keep from going insane! (Pre-pregnancy of course!) I would absolutely marry him again, and pray every night that God keeps us all safe, healthy, and happy, because I cannot imagine my life without him.

We've been married 10 years in October. My husband is home by 5:30pm nearly every night. As soon as he gets home he takes the kids to the park or basement to play while I cook dinner. If I don't feel like cooking, he does. He plays with the kids for at least 2.5 hours straight every night and we do one activity (me included) every night. I usually bathe the kids, do homework with them, brush their teeth, all those typical 'mom' jobs. He helps clean the kitchen and often cleans up the kids rooms before bed. He helps me get the kids to bed and then gives me a back rub every night. We get annoyed with each other from time to time - but overall we have a blast together. Things are hectic with 3 kids, and I can't imagine doing this job without his help . He travels on business from time to time and when he's gone I really feel how much he does and miss it and him!

My husband and I have been married for 7 years, together for 12.5 and have 3 beautiful daughters together. We met at 5 years old, are highschool sweethearts and are each other's *first* everything :o)

We are a very happy family. My husband comes home from work and makes sure he kisses all his girls (saving me for last) before he does anything else. We all eat dinner together every night and after all the girls are asleep, he and I cuddle on the couch and watch a movie or hockey game.

I am SO blessed to have my husband. He is my best friend and I love him more and more every day. He's the best father I could imagine for my girls and I would ABSOLUTELY marry him all over again :o)

We have been married 15 years this sept. We grow to love each other more and more each year. We were married at 19. There is some ups and downs. Few and far inbetween as the time goes on. I would say we are very happily married. We also have a happy home. My kids tell us how much they love being home. Just last night my husband blasted music and danced around the living room with the kids :)

I do feel for the couples that you are talking about. They seem to have lost all enjoyment. I also feel for the ones that have lack of intimacy.... but that is for another post that i am not getting into...lol!

1. We've been married for a little over 8 years.
2. YES!!
3. I honestly couldn't ask for a better husband.
4. DOUBLE YES!!!

We have our occasional arguments that sometimes escalate into a full-blown fight and I would be lying if I said that I had never contemplated separation in the eight years we've been married. BUT i think the best thing about being married is that even if you don't want to, you work through these problems/issues (and sometimes it just ain't pretty), and as you come out of the storm, you see that you are growing and maturing in the relationship and also as a person. I love where we are now in our marriage, and i'm thankful for all the things we've gone through, both good and bad. It is more full, there is more depth, understanding, patience and love.

So my questions are: How long have you been married? Married almost 7 years together for 13

Would you describe your house as a happy home for everyone who lives there? For the most part I hope so, Winter months I go through my normal winter funk but I try to keep a happy face and try to make things fun.. I think it's pretty good

Do you consider your husband a good husband who is concerned about you and the well being of his family? Absolutely, I think I have a great husband, very loving to me and affectionate, very loving with the kids, helps out around the house and even cooks a couple of times a week.. I got a catch I must say..

Would you marry your husband all over again or choose differently given the chance? In a heartbeat, we have our issues from time to time but all in all he's a great guy..

Married almost 10 years.
Yes, it is a happy home, and you will hear laughter more often than shouts or tears. (Although with 3 small children, shouts or tears are not uncommon, either!)
My husband is an awesome husband. Last night he hung out with the kids while I finished dinner, then he changed diapers, put lotion and pj's on them, and made up a bedtime story before heading out for an evening meeting. I definitely am one of the lucky ones!
I would 100% marry my husband again! I would have navigated some of the rocky times differently if I knew then what I know now, but my husband is the love of my life, my best friend, and the one whose face I always seek in a crowd.

Married for 4 years and together for 12. We have two kids, and hoping to be blessed with more. My husband is my soul mate! I can't imagine myself without him. He is the full package. Awesome dad, handy man, most intelligent person I know, and he loves me as much as I love him. I don't have to think twice about marrying him all over again. We are already talking about when we should renew our vows. God has blessed me with my family!! I pray that god can give me many more years of happiness!! I am forever grateful :)

I have been married for 9 years and am so very happy that I married my husband! He is the best husband, I have a lot of friends with husbands that won't lift a finger around the house, but not my husband. He is amazing, he helps clean, even takes the initiative without my asking, he is a great cook, and is very loving and attentive. Good communication is the key to our happy marriage. Of course we fight over things when we disagree, but not by yelling and screaming, although, we did used to do that when we were first married. I would marry him again today. I have faith in marriage, but it is hard work, no one is happy 100% of the time, but if you both put forth the effort you could maybe be happy 98% of the time!

7 years in April, but we've been together for 9 years.

Our house is a very happy home. We have our arguments at times, but it's hard to stay mad at him for very long.

I think my hubby is the best. He works his butt off for his family and will
even do dishes, laundry, and change a poopy diaper when he gets home. My family even loves him too!

I would marry him again in a heartbeat!

We've been married high school sweet hearts for nearly 18 years. Our home is very happy for everyone. I consider my husband a great man who is concerned about the well being of all of us. I would absolutely marry him all over again. There have been very challenging times in our marriage; however, we've worked through it and are now happier than ever. No marriage is perfect, nor is anyone.

How long have you been married? almost 10 years, 5 y/o daughter, 3 y/o son and one on the way.

Would you describe your house as a happy home for everyone who lives there? Yes, we have fun together and enjoy being a family.

Do you consider your husband a good husband who is concerned about you and the well being of his family? I know my husband works hard and loves us all very much.

Would you marry your husband all over again or choose differently given the chance? Yes, there have been challenging times but we are still great friends as well as being very much in love.

Would love to hear from some women who have good things to say about their lives too - please restore my faith in the institution of marriage.

My husband and i have been married for 13 year's! And this may sound cheesy but it still feels like were newlyweds! Even with 3 kids! We live in a cheerful, loving, and active house, we do alot of things together as a family. My husband is my best friend, he is a great father! He tries to go to our kid's school outtings when he can (work related), he devots all of his time on our family.. I would'nt want to know what my life would be like without my husband, so YES i would re-marry him in a heart beat!
I know this post is from Feb. but love that you posted this, it's soo sad to see and hear about alot of mom's-fathers that are'nt putting their all into their relationship, I am hearing about alot of divorce's and their reasons are just soo sad! For example- the husband was laid off from work- or the debt that has added up, alot of people are'nt thinking about their marriage vow's and what they truely mean. Every marriage is going to go through up's and down's, life in general is like that! But thats a test to see how strong your relationship is and your supposed to get through it TOGETHER!
Again, I love this question and reading other mama's answer's!

Married 10 years this June.
Yep, happy household, happy kids, happy parents
Great husband!
I would absolutely marry him all over again!!!

We have been married for 9 years.
Yes we have a happy home most of the time.
Yes my husband puts his family above all else.
Yes I would marry him again :)
He is a good husband and daddy, we all have faults but I can overlook his and I hope he can overlook mine, and I love him more than anything.

I've been married legally for 10 years but have been together for 20 years.. I am very happy don't get me wrong there are ups & downs to marriages but I wouldn't change him in for anything.. I think alot of people for get are the keys to a good marriage..1. communication 2. 50/50 3. love and if you have kids definately 4. alone time make a date night go out with out the kids turn off your phones...even if it's just grocery shopping my husband & I do grocery night every Tuesday we go have dinner & then go shopping alone.. We also have a regular date night once a month were we do something special.. we also sometimes take classes together at church & it just gives us that alone time we had before kids..

Married 4.5 yrs together for 5 LOL ;) My hubs is the best, he's my best bud. We both have our days, but we enjoy living life together. We have two beautiful sons and I would so marry my man all over again! We always say our worst day married is better than our best day single. :D

Married almost 11 years together almost 14 years. Yes we have a happy home. Yes my husband is awesome and is very concerned about me, our daughter, himself and the well being of our family. I would most definitely marry him again. Marriage can be hard and if you are not willing to work at it then it will go south very quickly. My sister is divorced and not to go into specifics she did not work at her marriage at all in my opinion. She gave up too quickly and found an easy way out. I think this applies to a lot of people.

was this one of those questions where you only wanted one answer??? Or were you really taking a poll and wanted both yes's and no's??

I am sooo happy in my marriage. I have been married 8 years and we have been together for 13 years. We have a 4 year old daughter. I am a SAHM and he is a great dad. I am so blessed that he gets off everyday at 3 and comes home and spends time with his family. We do family activities every weekend and I really love my life.

How long have you been married? 10 1/2 years

Would you describe your house as a happy home for everyone who lives there? Yes, except maybe the new puppy because he keeps getting swatted for pooping in the house.

Do you consider your husband a good husband who is concerned about you and the well being of his family? Yes, very much so.

Would you marry your husband all over again or choose differently given the chance? In a heartbeat! Best decision I ever made was to marry my hubby, so many blessings in my life have followed that decision! Of course there are hard times, but we get through them together. I want to see him as a crooked old man hitching his pants up as he shuffles down the hall; I can't wait to grow old with him and I am excited about what our future still holds for us.

So my questions are: How long have you been married? 17 years, and have two sons, ages 6 and 13

Would you describe your house as a happy home for everyone who lives there? Absolutely

Do you consider your husband a good husband who is concerned about you and the well being of his family? Yes

Would you marry your husband all over again or choose differently given the chance? Without a doubt

I am so thankful for the life I have. We have struggles just like everyone else, but at the end of the day we have each other. My husband and I love and respect each other, and we have fun together. We laugh every day. Our children both have an appreciation for the little things in life, and we all enjoy our time with each other.

Married 7 1/2 years, together for 12... I married my very best friend and the same still holds true today! Our love has grown and evolved and we have matured but are still very much in love and very happy. Have 3 kiddos. I notice that about this site also... but you have to figure it is probably about 50/50 when it comes to those who are happy being married, and those who arent. I am sure most of the unhappy people won't reply here :)

I've been married 1 year, but together 6 years total. No, our house isn't happy at all. We have 2 very small children & right after we got married we found out that our eldest was addicted to topical steroids & we've been living a nightmare ever since. My son's skin disorder almost drove me insane therefore; I couldn't handle any other disappointments including my husband's lazy direspectful behavior. I'm not sure what exactly changed him whether it was my son's conditon or my bitter attitude to due to my son's condition, but I feel as though our marriage never started. We separated back in November & the only regret that I have is that our kids are being torn between households & even though they're only 1 & 2 they seem very aware of what's going on & always cry when they leave they're dad's house. They don't cry when they leave mine I think because they're assured that I'm coming back. I would have to say that I think my husband is now concerned about his family's well being after I put him out he finally woke up which really disappoints me because I feel as though his change in behavior is by force. I would have to say no I wouldn't marry my husband all over again. The 2 lowest points of my life were during our relationship & he wasn't there for neither. The second time which was at the beginning of my son's topical steroid withdrawal period was enough for me to walk away without shedding another tear drop.

Hello! My husband and I have a very happy marriage. We have been married for 12 years. He is a good hubby who comes home each day and hangs out with the kids and I. In fact, he can't wait to get home! He often will leave to go into work really early so he can come home earlier and have more time with us. On the weekends we all do things together. He sometimes will sign up for a race and that is something he does by himself. But we usually go and are his support team! I think he is the best husband for me and I feel lucky to have him! Of course we have rocky times in our marriage where we feel like we are not connecting but we both are eager to fix it and we talk about it. We schedule dates or time out alone together. We both love much of the same things so we like to hear live music or go on a ski weekend or camp or hike together. He is extremely supportive of me and is my biggest fan in life. I'm always impressed how he is always willing to take kids when I need a break or how he encourages me to do art or to go out with girlfriends or go work out. Of course I do get annoyed with him at times. I wish he didn't leave his clothes in piles (I've given up on that one!) or wish he would for once even think about cleaning a bathroom. But I realize these things are petty. And he does do plenty of other things around the house (helps w laundry, dishes, trash etc). I read many of these negative posts too and it makes me sad for these people. It makes me appreciate what I've got.

Happily married 10 years and now have two kids. Have a great husband. Have our ups and downs but would definitely do it over again!

I'd choose my husband again every day for going on 29 years now. I've never doubted his love and commitment, and he's never doubted mine. Are either of us perfect? Nope. But we shared over our Valentine's Day dinner the stories of how we realized we were in love with each other. We both "recognized" the other the first time we met, and it's been that way ever since. Some things are meant to be….

I spent 15 years in an earlier marriage that was an agonizing struggle every day. But my amazing daughter would not be in the world if it had happened differently. So I'm even grateful for that one. I learned a lot.

I definitely post on here when things are tough with my husband, because it's a place where I feel like I won't be judged and can get sound advice from people who don't know him or me, not taking sides. On that note...

We have been together for 8.5 years, married 6.5, and have 3 amazing kids (7, 5, and 3). If you did the math right, we got pregnant almost right away, but waited until we were ready to get married. We have had what I call more than our fair share of issues, but I consider myself blessed to have him and he tells me the same thing. But we have a happy home and my husband is a good man, husband, and father. Of course he makes mistakes, but who doesnt? I certainly do! I would marry him all over for sure. I always tell people I feel like one of my biggest blessings is the fact that I have overcome all of the challenges I have to get to today. The bad stuff happens for a reason. I would have waited a bit longer to have kids, or get pregnant in general. One of the problems my hubby and I have are that we really only got 9 months to bond, and I was pregnant, before kids came along....but it is what it is :)

You almost have a 100 posts...a true survey! :)

Been married for almost 10 years, been together for 13. Have a 3 y.o. and a 10 month old. Totally happy home. We're grumpy when we don't get enough sleep, but we communicate.

I have a GREAT husband! We've been through my mother's death and infertility for 6 years. We know that we can survive anything and plan to.

Would totally marry him again. I hope my girls find a man just as good.

Great question!

Thank you...thank you for posting this! I too have been wondering if anyone out there adored their hubby. I understand this is a site where mamas can get advice but very rarely do I read about happy marriages/homes. It has been wonderful to hear of so many happy homes and marriages out there.

I have been married 14 years. We have a very happy home. We talk often about our home being like heaven on earth. We have normal squabbles that happen among siblings but we enjoy one another. My hubby and I have our disagreements but we talk them out.

Yes my husband is a good husband and father...very devoted to our family. We have family dinner together every night, family night every Monday and most our evenings are spent together. We go out often on date nights...and have since we were married. It is sooo important to do this...even when nursing babies...especially when nursing babies.

He provides well and values me being home full time. He builds me up in front of our kids so that they know how to love and respect me. He is an amazing man...very selfless. He serves at our church, is creative with the kids when they play. He takes each of the kids out on individual "dates with daddy." He loves to spend time laughing and playing as a family. I adore him!! For Valentine's day he bought us all little things then hid them around the house then made up clues to help us find our gifts. Sooo cute...so fun...sooo simple...and I love him for it!(and no mine was not a diamond)!

Yes I woul marry him all over again. ANd, I know he would too...cuz he tells me almost every night. Sometimes he will whisper...let's run away to Hawaii and get married all over again. We don't believe in renewing vows...it is just his way of saying I would choose YOU all over again!

Thanks for posting this question!

I hear ya! My Sis just went through a divorce (cheating husband), my very amazing neighbor's husband just moved out and one of my dearest friends' hubby walked out on her and her 3 kids on New Year's. Makes my heart hurt.
Yes, I am still happily married and I love him more today than I did the day I married him (didn't think it was possible)!! My hubby and I have been together 16 years and married for almost 9 of them.
My SD is 16 and our boys are 6 and 2. They are all happy, well adjusted children ~ except for the teenage drama, the 6 y/o finding independence too soon, and the 2 y/o tantrum stage ~ they are a joy!
He is an amazing Father to all 3 of them and spends every moment he can with them. Playing. Reading. Bathing. Sports. Cuddling. You name, he does it. He was the Dad who would get up at night with the baby, change diapers and trim nails. He keeps our 2 y/o home with him on his days off and picks up our 6 y/o the minute school gets out. He adores his Littles.
He works crazy, long hours but if he is off for the evening we always have a family dinner (that most of the time he cooks b/c I am at work on his days off). He does all the laundry, except the folding. He vacuums, takes out the garbage, and will even clean toilets if I ask!
He works very hard to take care of our family. He is a wonderful provider.
Granted, we have had our share of "issues" but we work through them together. We talk about everything and discuss discipline, grades, dating, sports, etc. and make all our decisions together. Our kids know that if Dad said "no" then I will support him 100% and not undermine him and vice versa.
I love him to the moon and back and would most definitely marry him all over again!! He is my rock, strong when I can't be anymore. He is faithful, trustworthy, understanding, patient, loving, sexy. Even the past 2 years while dealing with his medical "stuff" he has done more than he should have. He truly is the most amazing man I have ever known and I am proud to call him my husband.

Have been together 13 years, married coming on 5 years.... I consider our home happy.... do we make each other nuts, YES, but that is why I love him! I wouldn't change anything in our relationship, but maybe him work less hours, but no matter how hard he works, he always makes time for our daughter and I every night.... Every Sunday is our family day, we do fun things around the house.. The best thing to me, is the way I see the father he is, makes me fall in love all over again....

I'm married to my best friend for nine years now, this week. We dated only 8 weeks before we decided to get married (8 weeks later). He and I are the perfect combination: we fill each others' weaknesses. We make each other better. We have three girls plus one on the way--7, 5 1/2, 2, and soon a new one. Of course we're not perfect, but quitting is not something either of us will consider. I'm a sahm and he comes home from work, eats dinner then takes the two big girls to their track practice--he's a coach. He holds me when I cry (a lot lately) and kicks my butt (not literally) when I get stupid. I do the same for him. He's a wonderful man. And I consider myself lucky--he does too. I would marry him again in a heartbeat. I can't imagine the mess I'd be without him. He's my center--my grounding. I'll love him forever.

I've been married 4 years and my home is a very happy one for my children! They are my priority and the reason I am sticking this marriage out. My husband is concerned about our happiness, yes, but has no idea how to provide for us. We are slowly losing everything I've worked so hard for and he refuses to change his irresponsible ways. I would not marry my husband again if given a do-over.

I wish it were true that "All you need is love". . .

I think this question is better served if both partners are asked at the same time in each other's presence. LOL

married: 12 yrs in August
House Happy: Not all the time.
Good husband: Could be a llot better
WOuld I marry him all over again: NO

Great post!!

We have been married 7 years (together 14)

I would say we are a happy home...I mean, stressed out over normal work, money type things but happy none the less

My husband is absolutely a great husband who is concerned about me and the kiddos. He makes me a better person, really. He is amazing. He works a lot and has a super stressful job, but always makes time for us.

If I could choose all over again, I would choose him, no questions asked.

We have our issues, as does every couple. But in the end I think we have a strong marriage that will stand the test of time, kids, and LIFE in general!

Married 10 years.
We are happy, with the occasional spat.
My husband is very dedicated to myself and our child.
I believe that my husband and I are meant to be together--my emotional depth complements his logical scientific mind, and vice versa--and I would absolutely choose him again!

I have mentioned when responding to other posts that my husband and I did marriage counseling last year. There were some deep issues that had always been in our marriage (both mine and his) that having a child exacerbated, and we both threw ourselves into the counseling experience and into making our marriage better. I love him so much for making tremendous effort to do something he was initially skeptical about.

Great Question!

-We've been married 6.5 years, together for 10, didn't start a family til' almost 5 years of marriage.

-I definitely think our home is a happy one. We spend time together riding bikes, walking, working in the yard, cooking, cleaning, playing, dancing to music, etc. Our home is filled with love, memories all over the walls, warmth, lived in and comfortable. I will say that over the past 2 years, we've struggled with geographic change, job and major financial change and stress, and my health and weight concerns-which from time to time all bare down too much. But, we're forever working to make our home and our family, healthier, more secure and stable, and always planning for the future.

-My husband is a great man. He's not perfect, no one is and some of his deeper faults have shown more in times of stress and change. He has his bad habits and so do I. However, he works hard to provide for us, sacrifices some of the finer things in life so that I can stay home and raise our son and keep our house running smoothly. He has never denied me anything material or denied his commitment and love for us and our family. He comes home from work, greets me and our son everyday with a smile and a hug and kiss-even if it was a bad day. He does daddy time so I can have my private time to exercise/shop/whatever. He cooks, helps clean, and isn't afraid to show his emotions or take a very active role in raising our child. He also has his own hobbies and activities which help keep him balanced.

I would marry him again in a heartbeat. Maybe we wouldn't spend so much money to have a fairy-tale wedding, but I'd marry him again for sure. I knew the moment that I saw him that he was the man I was meant to be with forever, we've spent over 1/3 of our lives being best friends, traveling the world, being rich, being poor, and falling deeper in love every day. Life isn't always a picnic, but there is no other man I would rather spend it with!

We have been married for 4 years. I consider our house a very happy home
My husband isn't a good husband - he's a great husband!! Family is first with him. We eat dinner as a family every night and then he either offers to play with the kids while I clean up or he offers to do the dishes. He works increadibly hard to take care of us (both at his job and at home). Words could never express how much I appreciate him. Yes, we have our occasional disagreements like any couple, but he is my best friend and there is no one else I would rather spend time with. In case you couldn't tell, yes I would marry him all over again!! :) Just thinking about him makes me smile and puts me in a good mood.

I have been married for 14 years. We have a 5 year old and a 5 month old. I would absolutely marry him all over again. Is he perfect, no way. However, the things that bother me are not that important. We do everything together on weekends, I tell him everything, he is open with me and we are both very stubborn. He does eat with us, but eats fast and is up before we are done. I believe that they are not going to change in any major way, so if you can't embrace them for who they are (good and bad) you have a problem. He helps with the kids but does nothing around the house. I work too.