How common is it for infants not to have eye contact or interest in faces at 1 month of age? My first son had periods of good eye contact starting from the day he was born -- literally. I know kids develop at different rates, but I'm starting to get worried that I'm still not getting any eye contact from my second son. I know that they can only see up to about 12 inches away, but even when I hold him close, his eyes are everywhere but on me. He does seem to see things, as he reacts to lights and to his toys. Am I worrying too early? Is the lack of eye contact still within normal for this age?
Thank you everyone for your comments! I made a lot of effort to create eye contact when he was in a good mood this week, and I've seen some improvement, so I feel much better. I'll mention it at his 2 month visit if it still seems like he's not interested enough in faces, but I think I was worried for no reason. Thanks!!
Hi,
My third son did the same thing. He was 3 months before he would make eye contact or look at my face. I began to worry too. But eventually he did. He is now 6 years old and is completely normal. He has no developmental problems. I also worried that he would not be attached to me, but he did bond with me just fine. Hope this helps!
I was very concerned about the same thing with my son. I had made myself sick over it. At the 2 month visit, our pediatrician let me know that everything was perfectly normal and that I had no reason to worry.
I think since you are an experienced mom that our instincts tell us and they have spoken. So even the slight warnings need to be addressed. Ask your doctor. Smart mom to be on top of it. So many times I asked nurses and doctors about my son growing up and yet my instincts were right. I worried over and over about was he normal. Today he is homeless and still not sure what we all could have done. Today they have so many more answers. It could be nothing but better to have peace of mind. My son had tubes in his ears and never talked well, delayed a lot in maturing and still to this day at 34 is still not matured. Living on the streets I can do nothing about his drugs or whatever it is up to him to find his way. Just love those babies and keep on top of their situations. God Bless G. W
I think that's really young.........
I would address your concern with your pediatrian at his 2 month visit. I know everything is still fuzzy to them right now and they cannot recognize faces so this sounds completely normal. However, it is always good to share your observations with your physician because it nice to get that piece of mind and/or if there is something wrong then you can address it early.
I would contact your pediatrician as soon as possible to discuss your concern and also get a referral for an Early Intervention referral. You are right to trust your instincts. Hopefully all will turn out just fine, but it is best to get extra opinions.
Congratulations on your baby! They are such a joy. I suggest that you call your peditrician's office tomorrow. It may not be anything, but like anything it is always best to catch and correct a problem early. If there is one lesson in life that I have learned it is always follow your instincts. The call won't be wasted either way because even if they say not to worry you get peace of mind out of the action! Please let us know how it turns out.
I would check with your doctor. It is likely that there is nothing wrong, but it would still be good to have it checked out. As a mom of boys that have had some significant delays I would advise you to be very careful about toxins until you know what is causing the lack of eye contact. Do your own research on vaccines and household chemicals and make sure you are making informed choices about what he is exposed to. I wish I had done my research sooner. Congratulations on your baby boy! You are a great mom to be worried about him!
You can always contact Early Childhood Intervention (http://www.mhmrtc.org/ECI/) about your concerns. They will do a free evaluation. Of course, your pediatrician may also be a good source of information.
C.,
My second daughter was the same way as your second son and my first just like yours...don't worry. They are all different and I'm sure he is just fine.
this could simply be that his ocular (eye) muscles are still too weak to focus in on you yet
he is still very young, give him some time
if he is not making eye contact or does not seem to be able to focus in on a person or object or track (follow) objects by 2-3 months, give your pedi a call
Hi C.,
Please try not to worry, yes all babies are different. If your baby is responding to other things, then it just might be he's looking at things around you. It's also known that babies still see angels and that might be what he's looking at. They are so innocent and their Veil to the other side is still open. I have a niece that is like that. She is a crystal child, what a wonderful gift. Please check with the doctor just for your peace of mind.
I would also recommend to anyone with babies to read up on crystal children by Doreen Virtue. This can help some parents understand their child better and to care for them.
Love and Light,
Rev. G. Hudson, Reiki Master.
www.reikigailhudson.com
