I'm SO Bored with My Life

i don't understand boredom.
as long as i can read, cook, garden, run, clean, read, watch tv, go out to lunch with friends, read, nap, groom a horse, lie in the sun and read, i'll never ever be bored.
sorry to be of so little help.
khairete
S.

My husband and I like to always have something to look forward to...date night with an other couple, concert tickets, show tickets, vacation plans, day outing to an amusement park etc.

I also like to have scheduled GNO. This really does the soul good😊.

I have also found a hobby that has become my passion. I never thought I could feel such fulfillment in life until I found something that I love and am so passionate about!!!

It is out there for you too....you just have to make an effort to find it.

If your bored, work on your marriage...just a thought

Also if your "pretty broke" how can your girls be in ballet, gymnastics and swim? Take them out of those things to pay for counseling and dates with your husband.

I would not be so quick to divorce if I were just bored with my life. You can't think solely about you in a decision like that... you have 2 children.

What did you do before you married, had children?

What do you love to do? What are your best skills?

Maybe you should speak with a counselor so you can sort out your thoughts, find a hobby you love, find yourself.

So many moms lose themselves in the marriage and motherhood. It is up to you to keep you healthy and a healthy mom equals a healthy family!

Sales is hard if you have never been in it. You get a whole bunch of no's and very few yes's. Sales can knock someone into a depression pretty quickly if they are not good at what they are selling, have a standing clients and are self motivated. Sales is a LOT of hard work and yes, it has the potential to be extremely rewarding but it takes a lot of sweat equity to get to the rewarding part.

You don't speak much about your husband. Do you ever have date night? couple time?. Every couple needs some time for themselves to keep their bond strong.

I hope you find what you are looking for. Remember that the grass is not always greener on the other side but when you are staring at it from a point of view like you have now..... it looks lovely. Keep it real and focus on your family, especially children.

I feel your pain... hence, I am taking classes at the local community college.. is that something you could consider doing, it needn't be for a degree but rather just for fun... you mention you teach fitness, could you expand that into nutrition (if you haven't already) and take a class in that or even anatomy which might be very interesting... Summer session is generally shorter, albeit accelerated when it comes to the homework, but you could take a course this summer without the long term commitment that a longer semester would require... if you like it, great.. if not, ok on to the next.. it's food for thought..

A sales job can be highly lucrative if you're motivated to sell and have experience with it. This is the universe that I manage in, and our top sellers are those that put in the hours and are committed to making the calls and maintaining their longstanding relationships.
So...it's not a terrible idea. But it takes awhile to build a book of business, unless you are being hired into one. And then, what composes that book is also important. So...those are questions you should be asking.
If you're walking into a cold calling environment with no book and it's mostly commission....run away.

I get the need to do something else.
I reconnected with friends that don't have kids a few years ago, and those are the people I mostly hang out with now. They give me a nice escape from my day to day, and are usually much more available, so they can work around me. Not the other way around. If you have any of those old relationships, I'd go that direction. You might find it refreshing to go out and NOT talk about school, behavior, tuition, extracurriculars, etc...

Failing that...I've gone out ALONE a few times as well. I'll pull up a barstool in a bar or restaurant where I know no one will bother me. Have dinner and read a book for a few hours. It's fantastic!

(and if you'll notice, I do all of this without my husband. I needed to find ME again, now that my kids are older and easier.)

Good ideas below but just wanted to add a thought. Not everyone is meant to be a stay-at-home Mom. Maybe it's just not your thing? ' If Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy.'

What did you do before you were a SAHM? Do you still have contacts in the industry? What are your current skills? What makes your heart sing? What can you do for hours and it feels like only minutes went by because you are so involved in what you are doing. Begin with these thoughts. You can shape your income, extra curriculars and companionship accordingly.

Best,
F. B.

Get a second job.
O. that works around your husband's schedule so you don't have to pay for childcare.
In my experience? The best cure for "bored" is doing for others.
Good luck.

are you sure your marital issues aren't primarily driven by your boredom and loneliness? I would resolve that and work on my marriage before heading towards divorce.

ETA - I agree with "it's me again". I think being home with kids while easier on the family life is extremely boring! I had to go back to work for this and other reasons.

You get to choose. It's your life and you get to choose what you are going to do with it. You already work part time as a fitness instructor, is there any way you can increase your fitness instructing earnings? You have a husband but you sound like a single parent. Time to put the kids into hubby's hands. He helped create them and should be taking a more hands on approach with them. You shouldn't have to hire a sitter if he is there and you want to go out. If he is not there but working, then perhaps scheduling your time with other adults when he is home would work.

What things can you do to gain income? That may or may not equal working for someone else. It may mean providing a service that people will pay a high price for. You may want to consider taking a class or learning something new. A new skill or a new hobby that could possibly translate into income. My cousin loves making bread from scratch so she bakes for extra income. It's another holiday time and her busy season. She bakes the most delicious hot cross buns that ever melted in a mouth. She is currently working on perfecting a glutten free recipie. It could be a big money maker for her. Another woman I know makes the most delicious and interesting cakes. So she does that.

Your kids need to see you thriving not just surviving. So try to thrive. Get counseling or a life coach. Each has its place and could help. Again I tell you it's your life and you get to choose. Choose wisely. I'm also in my 40's.

Well, the secondary question here is why is it just you who would be paying for childcare? If you and your spouse are seriously considering splitting up, then you need to get all finances on the table, including childcare expenses, and child support, and medical care so you know what you really need. You need to determine if you are bored, or depressed, IMO. If you need adult conversation, take the kids to a park or a mommy and me class or a library event. Some of my best friends I met for free at the library. Or do a fitness class that is not about work. Or call a friend. Do you ever just call a friend to come hang out when the kids are in school? That's cheap/free.

This is your husband with a drinking problem, right? What about joining Al-anon? Or doing other charitable work?

Life is what you make it. What did you want to do when you were a little girl? Can you do that now? Take a class that interests you. Do you have a hobby? If not find one you enjoy or want to learn.

Can you increase your instructor hours at the center? That would be my first step. Study up on new ways to help people improve their bodies and make up new routines that they can do after you have done them.

Be positive think about the glass being half full rather than empty. I always want to ride on the merry go round and reach for the golden ring and strive to be better.

You only get one life and make it the best it can be. You are responsible for your own happiness.

the other S.

Being a SAHM is VEtY isolating. Listen to previous posts and look at college courses, etc. Otherwise for the time being and the near future you are going to be along.
What does your husband do? Do you have a close friend to talk to Ob occasion? (Talking to others will help)

Great advice below. You definitely need to do something more than hang out with the kids. For me as a SAHM, community was what relieved the boredom. Both my kids' pre-k and elementary/middle schools were parent participation based, so I was very involved and a part of a wide community.

The job will only help if it's something you find interesting. Other than that, join a group for something you are interested in. Good luck with your marriage. Maybe when you're not so bored, your marriage will start to look better.

You need to do some volunteer work. And check out a church in your area. When you have a good life (classes, the kids at ballet, swim, etc.) and feel liek there's something missing it's because seomthing is. Even if you don't know if you believe in God or not - try out church. YOu might be surprised. Alot of churches have kids programs so the parents can be uninterrupted in the service and you'll find the people in church are not unlike you - some are fitness instructors, some are teachers or nurses and some are executives or business owners. You'll meet alot of mother moms and it's a great place to develope friendships. My closest firends are from my churhc.

Volunteer. Nothing makes you feel so worthwhile and good as when you help other people. Check out the local food pantry, hospital or nursing home. go online to volunteermatch.org - you may find something that works for you - often times you can bring your kids - and it's a good family thing to do. You will be amazed at how quickly you being to feel better about life when you help other people - it gives you perspective on life that you don't otherwise have. And you may meet people who know about jobs. It's surprising how things come together when you're doing for others.

It sounds like you need to find your passion in something! What do you love to do? Can you take a class? I get very excited when I sign up for art classes to learn different techniques. I have taken pottery, wood cut printing, intaglio printing, silk screen printing, botanical watercolor painting, etc. I also occasionally sign up for a yoga retreat or a women's ski clinic and one time I did a women's fitness clinic. Planning a trip or outing of some kind gets me pumped. A day of cross-country skiing with a girlfriend, hiking to a yurt, an overnight trip to a new and amazing place, a hike up a mountain with friends. I really need to see friends and have some quality time with them every once in a while, but now it takes major planning. It's worth it though. I also will volunteer for our local environmental group. I love the outdoors so I really enjoy doing this. Does doing sales excite you? That kind of job would bore me stiff! Find a job (perhaps part time...or perhaps full time) that you find engaging and are really interested in. If you are passionate about your job and really love it you will not be bored. Good luck finding some things that get you jazzed. :)

I would check meetup.com and join a moms group. Mine is great and I go out at night about 2x month. Maybe expand your role at gym but sales job doesn't sounds good.

How about a life coach? A life coach can help you find your true passions and life purpose. Find one in training for a totally reasonable price. Most coaches do free sample sessions, so you could do a series of sample sessions with different questions.

I also totally agree with the answers that say look for volunteer possibilities. It is a way to make friends and to see others who are worse off than you.