I Need to Vent and Would Love Your Opinion!

Just wanted to tell you a funny (well I can laugh now atleast) story.
A few months ago I went to buy a crib for my daughter she was 3 months old, that would make my son 16 months at the time. I live in honey brook, I was on the way to target in exton. Right as we pulled in to the parking lot my son threw up. I mean really threw up. All over himself, the car, the carseat every where! Well I grabbed him left the baby and my husband in the car and here I go into target with a screaming puke covered toddler. I went to the baby section grabbed new clothes for him, ran about the store like a luniatic getting the items I went there for. All the time him still screaming. I was online and as the kid rang my up the clothes I stripped him naked, right there on line, and changed his clothes I had to wait for them to bring the crib up front and the whole time my son was SCREAMING. Just as I got done my husband called my cell from the parking lot..."Hey are you done yet the baby is crying" I can only imagine the looks I was getting!!

It's people like that, that make you apprciate what you have!!!
The lady had to of forgotten what motherhood is like!!!!
Or just is just really mean!!

Hi A.,
You had every right to be upset. Good for you for speaking up. Some people just don't get it. You should have ran over the back of her heels with your cart!!!! HA HA HA, but seriously. Once a kid starts crying because they're tired it's really no way to get them to stop until they fall asleep. I'm glad you stood up for your son!!!!

A.,

Feel free to vent anytime. I sometimes think it is women like her who either had nannies to take care of their kids or did things like give them a little alcohol in their bottles when they were really fussy.

Next time, try to ignore the person. Trying to look at it from an understanding point of view to this woman, she was probably just as frustrated as you over the long line at Kmart with only one cash register being open. On top of that she was hearing your son crying for several minutes and could do nothing to help either situation. I have to ask myself which was actually the greater source of her disagreeableness.

On the other hand, if you do need to say something and they respond as she did with my child was never that badly behaved, look at her and ask her if that was what the Nanny told her. Things look a lot rosier when you are looking back and you don't always remember the struggles. Or you always look at her and say something like "Lady, you really need to get that tick in your neck checked before you hurt yourself." or "He's two, what's your excuse?" Or you could take the high road and say something like, "I really don't understand why they don't open another line. My son is usually very happy but he is exhausted and I don't understand why they only have this one line open. They have to have more employees available than this." In that way, you may find her frustration, although seeming to be at your son, is really at the store. The other person may be more understanding of your situation and may actually be able to offer some helpful advice as to how to distract or console your son that you hadn't thought of. Sometimes an opening like that can help dispense the stress you are both feeling at the situation. Although, sometimes it feels much better to tell someone you are going to slap that look right off of their face if they don't stop. =)

Good luck. I hope my response helps.

What's more childish - your 2 year old being cranky because he's tired or a 40+ woman giving him dirty looks? Something tells me if this is the way she handles kids then her children were not the angels she remembers! So sorry this happened to you. We all go through something similar at one point or another. I hope you are feeling better now that you've 'vented'.

Good for you for sticking up for your child. All or most two-years olds cry at nap time. Way to go for telling her she shouldn't shop where there are children present. Her children are probably frightened of her.

bottom line...people are idiots

we ALL have had crying children in carts on long lines

i'm suprised she can't remember her kids being bad in a store. every parent has one story that tops them all. she must have been having a bad day, but thats not your sons fault. tell her to complain to the manager about there being only one line open. both of you could have got through faster.

Good for you! Kids will be kids!

She should have just kept her mouth shut. She probably is a miserable person who thrives on making other people feel bad. My kids are two and one, so I can relate. We've had to fly a lot, and we've gotten our shares of dirty looks and comments on planes even when my girls were sitting there quietly doing nothing wrong. These people either never had kids or foget how hard it is to be a mom with little ones. I have vowed to myself that when I am older, I will never give a young parent with a crabby child a hard time. Rather, I will try to offer some help because I know it is not easy for the parents to listen to thir kid crying in K-Mart or on a plane. It is stressful and upsetting for us, too. Giving dirty looks and making rude comments doesn't help anyone. Hope your day gets better!

Hugs! Sounds like your son and that "lady" in line were acting about the same maturity level. Big difference being that your son's behavior was age appropriate, and that woman's was not. Way to go standing up for him!

YOU GO GIRL!!! I feel the same way.. Don't shop in place where kids will go if you don't like them crying... People can just be so ignorant..

I would have been I lot meaner then that. I have people look at me like I am crazy sometimes because I am strict with my children out in the store. They are 8years old. But I can't stand it when the children are old enough to know better. Your son is still young and loves his napes. Nothing wronge with that. Kmart needs more workers or ones that are willing to do there job.

So many people are so rude any more. Next time make a sence back to her. She was the one that started it. Make her embarresed then make she will think twice next time.

I am sorry about your experience. This must have been frustrating! I am glad you said something, her making faces and stuff probably didn't help him calm down. Some people just don't think about what they have gone through or they just block it out!

People like that drive me crazy! We go through that in Church sometimes - that really boils my blood - HELLO - YOU"RE IN CHURCH AND GIVING A CHILD DIRTY LOOKS??? Good for you speaking up for your son!!

Maybe I will try the dirty look method on my DD when she cries...it must have worked for this lady's kids...yikes! We just had an episode like that at walmart. The lines were so long that I had my husband wait in line for me while I priced checked something for my gram. I heard a screaming baby half way across the store and thought, that can't be her. Sure enough it was and my poor hubby was panicked. Luckily everyone surrounding us seemed to give us the "poor thing" eyes. Though another cashier immediately opened up a line and took us. Sorry for you and your sticky little guy!

I may be one of the few, but my son WAS very good in public. It was at HOME he was a terror. No, really, kids (toddlers) cry. Adults give dirty looks. Puleeeez! She must have forgotten how children can be, especially around nap time. Try taking the kids out after nap time rather than before. In any case, it was SHE who was the rude one. There are times when we can't avoid taking our babies, angels and hellions out near nap time.
D

I'm really sorry that you had this experience. I'm 45, and I will say that since I no longer have to live with the day-to-day fussiness of little ones, I have much less patience for it in public. BUT, I would never make faces, roll my eyes or comment on it. I understand how fussy tired toddlers get, and when I can't stand crying and whining, I move out of the range of fire, so to speak. I've done my time in the toddler trenches and am now paying my dues in teen land!
Having said that, lets all remember to be as kind as we can. We can tsk, tsk over this woman's rudeness, but we can't make assumptions over whether or not she was/is a good mother. When my boys were little and old ladies gave me the eye about their behavior, I just sucked it up. Saying "I dare you" really does invite a confrontation that you might not want to have in front of the children when they are older. You could end up in a shouting match with someone who is truly foul, especially when the person is already showing rudeness. I'm a firm believer in behaving better than ill-mannered people and in not stooping to their level. It's just not worth it.

I just don't know why people have to be like that. I'm surprised that she said she had children, because now that I have one, I have more patience with other people's kids. Good for you for sticking up for your baby. Some people are just out to criticize the world.

Hello A.,

You mean to tell me that a two year old cries??????? I've never heard of such a thing. I thought all toddlers were happy go lucky... ;-) Just kidding of course. I can relate. My baby just turned 1, and when he is tired, there is nothing that can be done except his crib. Hopefully in the future you will not have too many more occurrences like this past. Most people are understanding, but there are always a few in the pack. Hang in there
K.

I do the same thing and I would have asked her if she ever took her kids to the store. I would have said that your kids was probaly so scared of yu that they never showed feelings. People like that makes me mad also. It is hard to ignore some one like that but that is what my husband tells me too do. People need to mind ther eown business.

((A.))
I have had that happen to me SO manyt times BUT my child has autism so I am on edge no matter what store I am in.

Similar experience, I was at the local supermarket and my son was having a meltdown when this "old hag" starts sucking her teeth behind me!!! So after a few minutes I turned around and cocked my eyebrow as if to dare her to do it to my face. I cold busted her and she made the remark about my son's brattiness. Well I went off like a bomb--I said "he has autism and IF you think you could do beter let me know". She got out of line!!!

Another time--different store we were having issues in the produce isle when this crab came up to me!!! Says " boy he's NOT happy" and I snapped back with "oh this in nothing, you should see a bad day!!!" she left me alone after that.

People have word vomit come out of there mouths ALL the time.

God Bless
I hope you little on felt better after his nap

N.