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You to need a night or day without the baby and talk about what things you want and what he wants every person and family is different and just beacause he wants it a different way than you dosn't make it wrong and just beacause that is how your mom did it dosn't mean that is how you have to do it. My husband and i had almost the same problems except he has an older daughter from a previous relationship and everything was This is how we did it with madison so we had major comprimising going on and every couple months we would sit down and discuss how things were going and what each of us wanted to do things. And now our son is a very healthy and active almost 5 year old and we have a nother on the way. I hope this helps you out. Also parents and in laws always have a lot of info but not everything works for your own particular family. My step daughter had a bottle till almost 2 years old my so was off about 11 1/2 months except night time and that ended about 13 1/2 months.