My son, who was 3 in May, has started saying "Go Away" to both myself and my husband. Also, when we're taking a walk or something, he might say it to someone we pass by. He hasn't said it to an adult he doesn't know, but how do I get this to stop before he starts preschool in a few weeks?
A tiny drop of vinegar goes a long way and leaves a lasting impression. I keep a medicine dropper with some in it for quick and easy access. It usually only takes once or twice for them to get the message.
it really is a phase my 4 yr old is going thru it as well. she has also started spouting i hate you at which i respond i love you monkey/angel... her nickname she assigned herself. generally she only spouts it when she is in trouble but spout it she does. she is also a hitter probably due to being the baby of 3 and feels she has to fight for everything except my affection.
My son (2.5 yrs old) started doing that a few months ago. All of a sudden he was saying "leave me alone!" He must've learned it at daycare, bc we never said that at home. So, when he would say it, I would tell him that that's not a nice thing to say, and instead he should say "stop it please" or he should walk away to have some alone time. I know he is young, and thought it might be too much for him to understand, but with me & his dad saying the same thing & being firm about it, making sure noone laughed bc they thought it was "cute", etc, he got the point very quickly! He no longer says that phrase AT ALL, and has also learned to say "excuse me", remembers to say please, etc. I have actually been quite impressed by my little man! lol! It also probably helps that he is sensitive..but, he is also strong willed, so I wasn't sure that just talking to him would work...but it did! :) So good luck with yours!
My best friend's daughter recently turned 3 and went through the at about 2 and 1/2. She usually only did this behavior at home or with complete strangers at the grocery store. We told her that if she has a problem with being around people she needed to excuse herself, not tell others to leave. At first this would result in total meltdowns and screaming fits of "leave me alone" and "go away" and sometimes would turn physical with her hitting people to make them leave. Her father would physically restrain her from hitting and relocate her to her room. He always made sure to tell her she was welcome to come out of her room and spend time with us if she wanted to be polite. It only took a few weeks of doing this every time for her to start asking to be excused. Now she has no problems at all and never tells people to "go away".
Stef,
At 3 years old, he knows that he is not being nice when he says mean things. Therefore, you have to correct him by first, telling him that when he says ___, it hurts peoples feelings and that is wrong and it does not please God when we hurt others (assuming that he has been told that God is in charge over everyone and everything), and second, tell him that when we hurt someone's feelings, we have to apologize to them and really mean it in our hearts. So, when he says something inappropriate, you make him apologize for what he has said or done and ask the person to please forgive him. This is a life long lesson and a habit that he should start developing now. Having to "humble" himself and ask forgiveness will cure any child, or any adult for that matter, of being rude and prideful. This is kind of similar to making a child return a piece of candy to the store clerk if they placed it in their pocket without paying (regardless of whether they understood that it had to be paid for or not). They will know the next time when they think of the lesson in humility.
Take Care,
T. (mother of 4)
As a preschool teacher of three year olds, I've learned that every time there is unacceptable behavior, there MUST be immediante discipline. Just telling him that isn't nice and don't do that will not stop him. Choose a discipline that is appropreate for his personality. I had a mom once that was at her wits end with her daughter and as a preschool teacher I was at my wits end and of corse limited as a teacher as to the type of discipline that I could use. I had a loveingly compassionate talk with the mom about spanking glently with a wooden spoon every time she threw a fit. The mother took my advice and within a week had a totally different calm child on her hands. I know a lot of mothers don't believe in spanking, and you may be one of them, but choose a discipline that will work for your son and stick to it. It must be consistant to bring forth results.
Hope this helps! Blessings to you!
First besure he doesn't hear them from you. Do what he says, get up from what you're doing and go awayleaving him totally alone ( be aware of dangerous situations
My son is two and a half, and it has helped a lot to give him alternatives to express what he is saying. If he says "I hate that!" I remind him we should say "Please stop." or "I don't like that." After a few times, he will usually remember the new phrase. He has something he is feeling and should be able to express it. He just needs to learn a nice way to do it.
My son has done this to me and he still tries to. I tell him that is not nice to say and it hurts people's feelings. I get him to say sorry and say something nice back. If he keeps it up after I talked to him I would take away one favorite toy. If that didn't work I would take a penny from his piggy bank. It will take some time and different ideas to get him to stop but he will stop.
I have caught my 3 yr old son using very bad "ugly" words (mostly cuss words). I try to tell him to use nicer words, and a nice big boy voice. Most of the time he forgets the "bad ugly" words.I also try to watch what words are used around him. Most people cuss so much they don't realize they are doing it. I have a friend who uses the "f' word so often it seems it is almost every other word out of her mouth. I have never once heard her use it in an offensive manner though. Maybe give A new word to use that means almost the same, so he gets his point across, without sounding 'ugly"
