My 5yr wedding anniversary is in late July. My twins will be one a few weeks later. My husband won a radio contest, and the prize was a night in an upscale local hotel & dinner. Both of my sisters as well as my husbands sister have offered to watch our kids ( for those of you that read my post about the housekeys none of them are the offenders that just let themselves in whenever)
I just dont know if im ready to be away from my kids yet. What age were you kids the first time you left them for a night?
Wow you moms are so helpful! I am so going to do it. I will miss them like crazy but the thought of being able to sleep thru the night...that sounds allmost too good to be true! And some time just me & the hubby will be nice. Thanks again, I needed the push from someone who has spent a night away from the kiddos when they are young.
I still haven't left mine (unless it's due to having a baby), but I would have a hard time leaving one year olds too;-)
my first baby was about 6 months old. the second was about 4 or 5 months.
go have fun!
:) khairete
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I can't remember how old my oldest was but my youngest was 6mos when hubby and I had a vacation to cancun for a week. I missed her like crazy but she and her older sister were in good hands.
i think they are plenty old enough. if you are leaving them in the hands of responsible adults, then you should do it, and do it without guilt. the best gift you can give your babies is a happy/healthy marriage to their father - and some time away to nurture the husband/wife relationship is a great way to do that.
my first was 4 months old when we left overnight, second was about 18 months old, third was 8 months old. we do not live anywhere near family, and i stay home with our children, so on the rare occassion my mom is available to watch our kiddos(maybe a week every other year) - i take her up on it!
I was away from my baby at 9 months when me and my husband went for a week trip. My mother in law stayed with us and he was comfortable staying with her. so she took care of him for a week,he was completely fine. I have done business travel when my son was 14 months for a week again. He was fine again. THis time dad took care of him. Now when he is 22 months, i took a business trip and he did give hard time to his dad(nothing major but wouldn't sleep well and ask for mom all the time, but calmed down after talking to me over phone)
I think taking trips when they are young is great. it is harder as they grow up.
leave your baby with anyone he is comfortable with in your family. And make sure he takes bottles from them when you are not around. Practice multiple separation if you can before leaving.
We plan to do a weekend trip coming up in August and that will be the first time we've left our son for a night - he will be 9 months old. But I'm already dreading it! ;-) Even though I know it will be good for us. I say go for it, it will be good for you!!!
We left our oldest son for the first time when he was 9 months old. It was tough, but it was less than 24 hours. He was with my Mom and he was a perfect angel for her. I was very hesitant about it but ended up having an amazing night with my hubby.
My DD is one... If I had a chance to have a nice dinner and a night in a nice hotel, I would jump on it! Especially if you have someone trustworthy and experienced to care for them. Imagine... getting 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep... *bliss* (oor NOT sleep ;) still good! lol)
LOL! My DD was like a month old. Maybe 2 months. My grandpa had suffered a stroke only a 18 months prior & still needed someone to keep an eye on him. Usually my grandma would do this but she had surgery. Sooooo, the tiny baby stayed with grandma & grandpa for 2 days & I helped my grandparents. My DD did amazing & I didn't cry at all! It wasn't bad. :)
My son was 6 weeks old the first time I left him at my sister's for the night.
How about having family come and watch the children, and go out with your hubby to dinner and check into the hotel and what not. Then later have the family bring the twins by for a short visit just so you know they are alright, and then you can feel more comfortable.
If you feel later on that you just cant stay the night away from them, then dont stress just go home. You didnt pay for the room so no money wasted. And at least you got out for a little while for your anniversary. Just pre warn your hubby that you might have to cut the night short if you get to anxious about your little loves. He should understand, and then at least you tried!
Ah, mine was 10 days old - then I didn't see him again for almost 2 weeks. But, I had to be hospitalized due to C-section complications. What I did learn was that I had wonderful family who took extraordinary care of him while I could not.
If your children are comfortable with the relatives that they would be staying with, then I say go and celebrate your 5 year anniversary. It is only a dinner and a night, and, I am assuming, in the same city in which you live. So, you will not be that far away.
If the twins go to sleep early, you could probably "sneak out" after they are asleep and they may never know you are gone.
Have Fun
Celebrate!!!
They will be fine! You would be crazy if you dont go and enjoy yourself!
2 years old when I was in the hospital giving birth to our second....but I am/was admittedly neurotic about it.
My First child was 7 months old when we left him with my parents overnight. He did great with them. My second was 4 months old. Of course we left them with my parents and so we knew they were safe and I trust my parents to handle what ever needs to be handled. I also know if something happened, they would call us if it was really important. If you have someone like that, then I would say, GO FOR IT!!!!
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My oldest was exactly 12 months old. We had my BIL's wedding out of town, kids not invited. We were gone two nights. I was still nursing. But at that point he would take BM or juice out of a bottle. I left him with my sister who was thrilled to death to spend the weekend alone with him.
It went off without a glitch. My husband and I had a blast, my son enjoyed the special weekend with his Aunt GiGi. I pumped while we were away, and nursing fell right back in when I got back.
Have a WONDERFUL night out with your husband! THe way I see it, it's a WIN WIN for everyone involved!
:)
Wait! After reading your take on SLEEPING, I also want to say, my husband and I DRANK for the first time in two YEARS, and we had FABULOUS SEX since there was no baby about to wake up, and slept LATE, and WELL both nights!
he was 6 weeks old. It was my wedding night (we got pregnant 3 weeks after getting engaged so it changed alot, but I didnt was it to change the wedding night!) we tried again when he was 13mnths during our one year anniversary, but he got sick and we had to pick him up. We plan on leaving him overnight again the first week of june, because its my bday and I want to go camping....oh and so you know even though it was my wedding night, the first time he slept somewhere else (my mom's) I kept telling my hubby "lets go get him, he needs me, he needs his mommy, I can tell its like a sixth sense." lol
My twins were six months old when I spent a night away. I was breastfeeding, too, and they were fine. Go, have fun with your husband!
My 5 yr anniversary is today! O, and she's 4, still waiting...............
With my first, she was 5 years old....with my second (who is 2) i haven't yet. But im just really freaked out by that, i probably should have. I would recommend doing it. Our marriages need attention too.
My 3 are 10,7 & 23 months and they've not spent the night somewhere I wasn't once. Not had the need or desire.
When I wasn't delivering a baby or hospitalized?
My youngest daughter was 5 years old before I slept a night without her in the house. She's 6 yrs old now. That's probably the average age for my older daughters as well. They've only slept over my mother's house and my best friend's house. The first time my 10 year old vacationed without me was with my best friend last summer when she was 9 yrs old and they went to Virginia for a few days. I was a complete wreck and her sisters missed her like mad.
It's easy for me to be away from my eldest for single nights or double nights if she's in-state. I could even handle her sleeping at a friend's house if it's one of her Girl Scout sisters.
My 8 year old, well, I only trust family that is able to handle her and my best friend (who is a SpEd teacher and has known my children since birth, and me since we were 10 years old). I have trouble being away from her for more than a night especially since she has medical issues and needs important meds. She also has Autism and being her mom, I'm best equipped to handle any, ah, incidents that might occur.
And with my 6 year old, she's my baby. Not having her with me is like losing my heart. She's so sweet and pleasant and is my little homemaker. If she's not here though, then her sisters aren't here either.
We have only left them kind of for the night one time, but got there late in the evening and woke up at 6am to hurry home (sooo not ideal). That was when they were 1, 4 and 5. Now that my youngest is almost 3 I am totally ready for a REAL overnight with my hunny. If I had family to watch them for one I would be on it in a heartbeat :) Go and have an amazing time with your hubby! :)
3 months. My parents watched my son while I surprised my husband with a baby-free night at a hotel for our anniversary. We missed him, but he didn't know the difference and my parents loved having him.
