Let me say first of all that I believe with all my heart (and now there are studies coming out to back my thoughts)that giving your children an allowance is very beneficial in teaching them financial responsibility. My own mother caught much flak from relatives and friends for giving her kids an allowance, setting up savings accounts for us and requiring us to tithe at church....and I can promise you that me and my brothers are the only children from that group that are financially responsible now.
Here are a few things that my mother and father did that I do today with my girls ages 6 and 4
1.) Make a chore chart with chores done for the allowance...though I don't do allowance, but pay them 10 cents for each chore completed. I drew pictures or symbols for my girls when we started because they couldn't read yet. They can read now so I don't do the pictures anymore. Here is a cute chore chart that you can fill out and then print alenkasprintables.com/freeprintables/chore/chorechartbw1.htm
2.) Make sure that they understand that they are contributing members of the household and are expected to help out when asked without getting paid. Part of being a family is helping eachother. They don't get a dime everytime they do something.
3.) We count up the chores on their chart weekly (we use a cute stamp to stamp the chart when they complete a task...adds to the fun)...at that time we figure out how much they need to give back to God at church.
4.) We save some of it. The rest is applied to their goal expenditure. My girls want a hamster. The girls are pooling their money to buy it and all the supplies. We made a chart with blocks that represent each dime they earn. They get to color in the appropriate number of blocks. And that way they can see how close they are getting. Boy they want to color in those blocks.
5.) I give them play money to keep in their wallets and/or piggy banks and then I told them I will cash it in for real money when they reach their goal and we go shopping. (That way I don't worry about them losing it when they decide to take it outside to show their friends.
6.) When they get older we will keep a check register and learn to balance it.
Some weeks the girls work really hard and earn lots of dimes. Other weeks they don't. But they are learning that if they work really hard they earn more.
And I read the responses and one lady commented that she doesn't really pay attention to how much her kids do since salaried people earn the same regardless of their effort. I have to respectfully disagree. I've been salary and so is my husband. He gets bonuses that are directly tied to his performance. He gets merit increases that affected by the performance of the company as a whole. And he has been promoted because of his willingness to put forth more effort than others.
So I think it is crucial to keep track of their efforts and reward them accordingly.
Last take many opportunities to tie their efforts and allowance to the real world. Explain why we need to get paid, why we work hard, why we save, why we tithe (if that's part of your life), why we research what we want so we can keep track of our savings....and teach them to keep track of their money.