A.S.
A typical feeding schedule for a 9 month old would look something like this:
Wake up - cereal mixed with formula or breast milk plus 1/2 jar fruit
Mid-morning - nurse or bottle feed
Noon time - other 1/2 jar fruit and 1/2 jar veggies
Mid afternoon - nurse or bottle feed
Dinner time - cereal mixed with formula or breast milk plus other 1/2 jar veggies
Evening - nurse or bottle feed
He also may want to nurse a couple other times during the day, but in general it is best to start with food (because as he approaches 1 year old more of his calories should come from food and less from breast milk/formula).
Since your baby is now 9 months old, you are correct that he may start to have meats. You can give a veggie/meat combo, or a meat itself in place of or in addition to the other foods. As he goes from 9-12 months, you may find that he can eat a whole jar of fruit/veggie/meat at a time instead of just 1/2 jar - which is fine.
You will probably find that some days he will eat much more, and other days not be as interested (just like older kids!).
It is a good idea to try to feed an older baby at the same time you eat - that way the baby gets used to meals as a family together, and meals become a pleasant time where people take a break from the demands of the day and truly enjoy each others' presence. That said, it's not worth getting into a battle if your baby is hungry at other times, or does not want to eat at the same time as you and your husband. Turning eating/meal time into a battle often causes food aversion and picky eaters or even disordered eating.
In general, as long as you are offering your baby healthy foods and he is growing well, don't let the "schedules" or the well-meaning advice of family and friends make you crazy - enjoy this time with your beautiful baby - it goes way too fast!!
Alex S. (pediatric resident physician)