How Do I Get My 3 Year Old to Listen - Warren,MI

Every child is different, but what works for us is separation. I put my kids on their bed and tell them not to come out until they are ready to do what they need to do. Unfortunately, I'm not always at home, or we are in a hurry to leave to go somewhere. I do feel your frustration though. I just have to remember that no matter what, I cannot make my child do anything, but I can come up with inventive ways to make them want to do what I ask. Also, remember that your child loves you, and she will want to please you. Say things like, "It would make mommy so happy if you did. . . " or "Would you be a big girl and help mommy . . .?" or "If you do . . .for mommy, I will take you to get an ice cream cone later." Reverse psychology also works well on my 3 year old. We tell her she is not allowed to help us clean up (in a joking kind of way), and she will start helping. In my experience, spanking does not work and only makes everyone feel upset.

I had the same problem when my now 6 yr. old when she was about 3. I think it is typical of most children to act a little more wild to the moms then to the dads. I remember crying to my husband about how bad of a mom i was and so on. What has worked for me so far, which there has been a massive improvement was the 1,2,3 deal. You also have to be consistant and firm. She will most definetly push it the first couple times, but when you get to 3 have her sit in time out (or what ever method of punishment you use) but have her do it everytime. Have a firm but not yell voice. My daughter now knows when I am mad, and I don't have to count as much. I know it is hard not to yell because sometimes it is inevitable. Also try to reward her when she does do something good. Show her enthusiasm when she is behaving or done something that was right or good, that will help her self confidence as well. Good luck!

You are not a failure!Has Dad talked to her and told her she must listen to Mom? Maybe that would help. Especially if Dad took time to call during the day. Maybe talk to her for just a couple of minutes. My ex is a truck driver. The kids always looked forward to his calls. I too have a "daddy's girl", and she is 14! Other than that taking away privliges is something I always did. Perhaps an earlier bedtime threat? That always got their attention. Let me know if any of this helps. Don't forget to reward good behavior! Put your feet up after bedtime(her's). It will all be O.K.! L.

We have gone through the same thing. It is not you!! It is your child beinging 3. Try the book 1,2,3 Magic. It worked for us. Good luck.