How Can I Fix This Problem?

So you guys read fairy tales that help young children see that good prevails over bad. He is more likely working out that he does like the way some things are being done at school right now all children go through periods of of being "really good" at school and time where defiance is in the forecast. You don't really have blame anyone but remind him that at school we listen to the teachers and speak with kind words or whatever you say to get that message across. Good luck and keep reading all different kinds of stories.
J.

Hi B.,

Sounds like you were given some good advice. In response to your follow-up, I feel the same way you do. I dropped everything when our son was diagnosed and grabbed the bull by the horns, the autism that is. I still after 3 years have family members that don't think he has autism, of course these are the relatives that spend the least time with my son. My son is where he is because of the care and the theraputic treatments that he and I have done together. Autism is so complex, half the battle is understanding it as a parent and implementing his therapy into every day living. I have no patience for people in my family that aren't willing to even ask questions, let alone commit time to spend with my son.

I understand your heartache, I feel it every day. Don't let anyone get you down.

Take care and hang in there!

Sounds to me that your hubby is just being a jerk........he isn't doing anything, so it's your fault.....period...........Men do that and I don't know if it is out of guilt or just plain stupidity.

In any event, you might find out if this was just a bad day for him or if he is having trouble with associating fantasy from reality. If that is the case, you need to explain to him the difference, just like a movie versus real life......etc.

It sounds like he is really doing great, so pat yourself on the back for his reading level! You go!

As for your hubby, I would nicely but firmly tell him if he would like to make time to step in and read some books to your son, that's great, please let you know when.............you'd be more than happy to give them some father son time......

Good Luck and you hang in there.

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B., both of my sons are on the autism spectrum. We have definitely learned that they go through rough patches of behavior that can last weeks. Somteimes it is as simple as they get "stuck" onj repeating a video that we got them (similar to your son acting out fairy tales), or it could be something deeper going on and they are having trouble expressing their emotions and so they act out (we have worked on getting them to say "I'm angry" or "I'm sad" etc. to help them)
All I can say is try to redirect him with how to act at school. Consult with a trusted source like a special ed teacher or therapist for help if needed. And certainly don't beat yourself up at all, kids with autism are unique.

Your husband needs to stop playing the blame game and realize that your son is growing up. Boys want to play rough and tumble games. It's normal. Sassing the teaching is not ok. He needs to know that you will not allow that. But, trying to make him not play what all kids do, is setting yourself up for a battle that you cannot win. I work in an elementary school with kids his age and they are all testing the limits right now.

Hang in there and be strong. You are doing a great job with your son.

Men can be jerks. Enough said?

I would like to say your husband is wrong for pointing the finger. All children have an imagination, however maybe you need to sit your son down and explain to him that there's a time and place for everything. You can only play or act out when the teacher says it's recess other than that you have to do what you are told. Maybe this would help.

It is great that you are reading to him and yes autistic children are very intelligent.

Books that are interesting and not violent are by Michael Glen Monroe. For example M is for Mitten and it is about the state of Michigan. There are other books he has that are about other states too (ie A is for Alaska). The pictures are amazing, Mike Monroe does the artwork, and is a great way to learn and they aren't violent.

Most children would not interpret them as violent. But your son is autistic and you know he process things different than non autistic children.

Many blessings.