We too need a new vehicle. We have a 2.5 year old and twins on the way. Our Civic and Accord just aren't going to work anymore!
We have always said we would never buy a MiniVan. During our "car search" I told my husband we should at least LOOK at a minivan so we know we absolutely don't want it. We did. We looked at the mini van, and honestly, for our situation, I don't see the big deal about them. Ok, the sliding doors are probably easier to get kids in and out.
I wanted something where we could get all three car seats in the middle row and have PLENTY of room for storage in the back. My parents live 5 hours away, so when we go to visit... it's typically for several days and we have a lot of stuff. Our "travel stuff" was diminishing with our 2.5 year old...but now with twins on the way ... we'll have more again.
The dealer told me you could not get 3 car seats across in the middle row with the MiniVan. One would HAVE to go in the back. Which means, my daughter is climbing into the back, I have to climb into the back and then buckle her in. Now, I can't remember exactly, but I THINK the Oddessy did have a clear floor if you took out the middle bit of the second seat. I know the Toyota does not...so you're climbing over this cup holder thing, which just seemed like a BIG pain in the pattoot!
In addition, the "trunk" space just didn't seem like it was going to be accomodating for us... double stroller, packnplay, big diaper bag, suitcases, etc....
I LOVE the Pilot. We are leasing a new one within the next few weeks and turning in our Accord.
I'm almost positive the 2010 DOES have a shoulder belt in the middle seat, 3rd row. Also, depending on what car seats you have, you CAN get 3 across in the second row, which was key for me. Sure, it will be tight...but it can be done. I really didn't want 1 small child ALL the way in the 3rd row when it was just me and kids driving around. I also like that we have the option to have someone in the 3rd row if we need it. My husbands parents live overseas, when they visit, we have the option of putting up the 3rd row, and either I or my MIL can sit back there and the other one in the 2cd row with the twins. I've sat in the 3rd row... for trips around town, it's fine. I certainly wouldn't want to drive to my parents house, 5 hours away back there...but around town when we have visitors...sure. It's fine. And I'm 5'10" ! Which was the consideration with crawling into the back with the minivan... severely uncomfortable for me and cumbersome. Now, I know a 5'2" woman who ADORES her minivan. She also only has 2 kids and can almost stand up straight on the inside. ;-)
If you have older kids, who can buckle themselves and have less "stuff" then, I can see how a mini van might be a plausible option. But for us, the SUV was definitely the way to go.