Home Schooling My Children

Updated on November 09, 2008
T.L. asks from West Palm Beach, FL
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I would love to home school my 2 1/2 year old son and my daughter when she gets older. Does anyone know how I can get started? I would rather do this than try to afford daycare or later on, send him to a public school.

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With all the responses I received, and I am thankful for every one of them, my husband and I have invested in something we saw on the T.V. "Your Baby Can Read" We invested in the 5 DVD pack, and will use that first. I will update everyone as to how our son is doing.

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K.B.

answers from Orlando on

Everyone has different opinions about home schooling and different motivations but I think at 2 1/2 the educational part of school is not the important focus but rather the social interaction, sharing, listening to others in authority besides mom, separating from mom and knowing it is ok and she will return. I had a difficult time letting go of my little one when she was 3 but as an only child that had most of her interaction with me only I knew she had to get into the real world. She is now 8 yrs old in public school and an A student that is reading at 7th grade level. She read the most book over the summer for the whole 3rd grade, she has joined the school chorus, plays the piano, is a Brownie has a lot of great friends and is having a marvelous childhood.

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N.L.

answers from Boca Raton on

Hi T.-

I am a homeschool mom too! My oldest is 3 years old. I do lots of workbooks (you can purchase nice ones at the dollar tree, coscto, etc.). We also do lapbooking. If you go to lapbooklessons.com we are working on the alphabugs which is the alphabet. Also at 2 1/2 years Montessori activities are good to:
http://chasingcheerios.blogspot.com/search/label/homemade...

There are lots of nice activities on her blog. I have a playgroup/homeschooling group if you are interested in joining:
https://www.bigtent.com/groups/ltlblessings

Hope all this helps!
N.

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F.R.

answers from Pensacola on

Everything is a teaching situation. By having them at home, you are the one teaching them already. My first suggestion is simply talk to them. Be like a life narrator. Explain what you're doing, where you're at, what's around you, etc. Use the proper terms and proper grammar and please don't forget manners. That will give them a huge leg up in the world. It's usually the kids whose parents used too many slang words or nicknames for regular items that slip behind in their schooling. Because they then have to re-learn what those objects really are.
I've got some links that my dear friend has given me for my own use. My two older are in public school. My 3rd is about to turn 4 and my youngest is 21 months. I'm thinking about homeschooling the 4 year old because of his personality. I think he would thrive that way. So these are montessori methods that really work. Check them out.
http://www.ux1.eiu.edu/~cfsjy/mts/_link.htm
http://www.shillermath.com/sm/home.php?src=index.htm
http://members.shaw.ca/montessori4all/homeschooling.htm
Good luck! Don't let people discourage you.

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H.B.

answers from Jacksonville on

Just curious to know why you woudn't do public school. I would give a school a chance first before signing on for such a huge resposibility.

I don't homeschool myself but I just want to remind you that giving them an education at home is ok but a childs interaction with others their age and with other authority figures w/o you around is very important. It is a way they develop so many skills that are not truly "teachable" but required for living as an adult. (For example, there are not many jobs out there where they let you take your work home and not interact with co-workers or customers)

If you can make sure that they have access to this as well as you homeschooling then sure. Plus when they are 4 Preschool (VPK) is free anyway so you don't have to worry about cost. also look into playgroups too where the moms take turns supervising while you can leave and run errands. Having the little ones home all day to teach etc can be taxing on you too. My mom tried it with my little sister and it was just too much.

i also noticed now that my oldest is in VPK (and preschool 2 yrs before) and always seemed willing to learn stuff from his teachers but not so much with me. it was almost like it was too much pressure to please me. I finally backed off and he has learned so much at school and is reading at an elementary level. i just enjoy working with him when he gets home. Then he feels like he gets to show off to me all that he has learned.

good luck with whatever you choose and just see which way helps your little ones grow mentaly and socially the best.

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C.R.

answers from Boca Raton on

I have recently toyed with the idea myself so have started to do some research. The Public library is a great way to start because there are a lot of books that you can read without having to buy them. Here are a few that I have been looking at
Homeschooling--Take a Deep Breath--You can do this! By Terrie Lynn Bittner
Homeschooling on a Shoe String by Melissa L. Morgan & Judith Waite Allee

In Florida, you don't have to report your child as being homeschooled until Kindergarten I believe. You can check out the Florida Department of Education Website for more info on all of the laws. I still haven't gotten too far there yet. The state has many laws so you want to make sure that you comply with the record keeping and declaring your child at the right time. There are many homeschool groups in the area so check out www.parentseducatingchildren.com This is a great resource for homeschooling parents.

Since you don't have to report a preschooler as home schooled take that opportunity when your oldest turns four to try it out at home. If it doesn't work, atleast you have tried, yet you didn't have to go through the work to get him declared as homeschooled and then get him back into school. If it works, then you have a year under your belt, you can be more confident in his kindergarten and 1st grade years and have a great foundation for his education.

There will be a lot of things to determine if homeschooling is right for you, so starting now is good, so you can really think and pray about this decision. And even give a little dry run for preschool. Aside from the library, go to teacher supply stores...don't be tempted to buy up the store, but talk to other teachers and the owner to see what they would recommend. The Terrie Bittner book was very helpful and I would suggest reading that first before buying any supplies.

We have decided for the time being that we are probably going to send the kids to public school but try what Terrie B ittner suggested in her book, afterschooling. We will b e able to supplement what the kids are learning in school with fun activites and then add our elements of subjects that aren't taught in school or touched on very little. With our work schedules we couldn't work out the home schooling schedule.

The socialization in homeschooling is more than you would think. With homeschooling groups, children are able to socialize with peers of all ages and not just one age group. This has some benefits and drawbacks so you will have to weigh those out as well.
Whatever you decide, you are making the choice for your children and it will be the right one for them. Many families homeschool some children while others in the same family go to public school, so your children may be different as well.
Let us know what you decide to do. There are some other threads on here from the past through years. Those have some good advice too, but going to the library to look has been the best advice for me. the books are in the non-fiction stacks and Homeschooling books are located in the 371 area in the dewey decimal system.

Hope this helps!

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C.M.

answers from Gainesville on

Dear T.,
Check out free-to-homeschool.com! It is a great resource!
C.

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D.T.

answers from Orlando on

Hi T.:

I was reading through some of your advices and enjoyed Virginia's thoughts. You have lots to sort through I'm sure. My son is now 14 and I started homeschooling him since he was 2 with such great results. He bagan reading when he was 3 and I didn't push him. It didn't cost me much, I really couldn't have afforded a lot. It has been the best thing I've ever done or could have done for him.

Every child is different, but the most important thing is that you have the ability to give your children your moral values as well and they will listen to you because you are their teacher.

I don't know what area you are from but if you are in the Orlando area, I happen to be at a store that offers homeschooling materials, discounted and we offer a seminar to parents to get started in homeschooling to go through all your different options. Giving you lots of information about what is in your area and find you valuable resources, groups and teachers for evaluations, testing or tutoring.

Our shop is called the Homeschool Corner, ###-###-####. It's nestled inside another shop called Family Value$ Resale that is a resale store for everything for the family.

Whatever you do, take lots of time with your children, you will certainly be glad you did! They do remember and it does matter! I could certainly say more good things and benefits of homeschooling but I know you are getting the idea from lots of different sources.
D.

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G.G.

answers from Orlando on

If you go to Yahoo Groups and type in "Homeschool Orlando" you will get tons of groups to chose from. This is the best way to get started and get tons of resources and advice on the many curriculums and methods of homeschooling you can use. I am homeschooling my 6 year old using Laurel Springs School distance education and like the support of a "Learning coach" to determine my daughter's progress. We also get an official transcript at the end of the year, or whenever we finish the curriculum which will probably be before the end of the year.

I also belong to Seminole Learning Community which has a Yahoo Group and have been happy with the group and activities planned.

Best of luck,
G. G.

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T.S.

answers from Panama City on

T.,

You can begin by ordering materials. ABEKA books is one of the best. You can go to ABEKA.com and check out what they have for that age group. Make sure you don't push too hard at first, but do establish a routine.

Any other questions, feel free to message me. I have homeschooled pre-K and highschool.

Take Care,
T.

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M.B.

answers from Orlando on

If you are looking for a curriculum, try ABEKA. It is a Christian based program, so if you are not a Christian you need to take that into consideration. They offer very user friendly materials and have the best phonics program out there that I am aware of. They do start with a Pre-K program, so you could get him started right away if he is developmentally ready.

My other recommendation would be to find a homeschool network in your area. Not only could they be an unlimited source of information, but they will offer opportunities for you and your child to socialize with other homeschool families. It is important not to isolate yourselves too much.

You may also want to consider enrolling him in sports or other programs where he will have the opportunity to interact with his peers.

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Y.F.

answers from Orlando on

First of all CONGRATULATIONS for making this decision. I homeschool in the Orange County, Orlando Fl area. I have a 7 year old and a 15 month old. I DO NOT regret it! My son is such a well behaved child and EXTREMELY social. One trait you notice instantly about homeschool childre is that they are NOT shy around adults and have NO problem making friends. They topic of socialization and interaction ALWAYS comes up when you speak to parents that have there children in public/private school. My answer is that these children (pucbil/private school children) are in school for up to 8 hours a day. They sit in a chair in class, have a 15 min recess and many schools dont even let them talk at lunch time. I have family that are teachers and I know this for a fact. SO WHERE DOES THE "INTERACTION HAPPEN"? Basicly NEVER! My son is part of a homeschool group on the East side of Orlando and we have already in the begining of this year had 2 field trips. We have PE every monday and we have park day once a month. He has a great time with the other 60 kids that are in the group and the primary reason why I homeschool he gets the values and the upbringing that I know is best for him. I am not batteling the influences of other teachers and there beliefs. I am giving him a STRONG foundation so when he becomes older in his teens and has to make tough decisions he will make the RIGHT ones.

In regards to "how to get started", go to the http://fpea.com/ website. This is the Florida Parents Educators Association. It will help you with any legal questions you have. If you do not live in Florida go to your city or county website and they should have homeschooling information for your area. Find a homeschool group for moms. This is a support that you NEED when you are starting and specially when you are new to this.

Curriculums. There are hundreds out there. Look for one that appeals to you and the things you want him to and her to learn. Start NOW with pre-k stuff. Go to the dollar store or walmart (kids toy section) and start with the basics. 20 minutes or less a day is fine for pre -k. The FPEA has a homeschool convention every year and they have hundreds of vendors that come out to sell there product. Look into that.

I hope this information continues to motivate you to homeschool and is helpful to your journey! Dont listen to what others have to say.... FOLLOW your HEART for the benefit of YOUR CHILDREN.

Many blessings!

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N.A.

answers from Panama City on

Try Calvert homeschool in Baltimore , MD. This is the number one hs source in the country. They are also the oldest. They have virtual online classes also.

Hope this will help you and that you are blessed in all you do.

N-

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V.

answers from Melbourne on

I am a new teacher myself. I was subbing in several public and charter schools, and just started working in a preschool. I have 2 kids that are not home schooled, but we do a lot of educational stuff at home. While I considered homeschooling them if the schools were all that bad, I have not seen the need. The experience they are getting in school here is far better than what I had in school when I was young. I have always implemented little extras at home and use as many teachable moments as I see arise, but I do not feel they are being stifled at all in school.

Someone on here claimed that the social interaction in schools is almost nothing, but that is really untrue. There are a few teachers that insist on a quiet controlled class, which does cut any real socialization, but most teachers and classes I've been in are not like that. Most encourage a little noise, some fun, and plenty of interaction.

My honest opinion is that some people are absolutely right to home school their kids. It depends on what works best for your kids, your family, and yourself. I only encourage it if you are willing to put in the necessary work to make sure they are taught well enough to compete with anyone else, socialize well with other children (including knowing how to deal with conflict), get lots of hands on, fit into a school setting in case anything happens to need to be in one, and learn any important life lessons you can think of that need to be learned.

I only stress this because I have in-laws that rightfully pulled their children out of school, because of the schools there in PA being unwilling to work with her on some serious problems that were occurring with her oldest daughter. Now that I agreed with, what I found awful was that every time I talked to her she would brag about ways she was cutting as much as she could from required teaching, then later on as her oldest got older came to find out she had reading deficiencies that the mom was refusing to deal with or even acknowledge, was handing her daughter a pile of text and expecting her to work on it all herself with no help because "She's in 5th grade and shouldn't need any help anymore." She was not doing anything to socialize them, not even taking them to the library or playground. The closest thing they have to socialization is spending the night at relatives houses and going to church on Sunday. Beyond that they stay at home, in the house, don't use hands on lessons, intrinsic motivation, or any of the things that I think are important about being able to home school. I mean homeschooling should provide so much opportunity to do all sorts of wonderful lessons without the constraints of a public school, a strict curriculum, or even a principle or director. You can use everyday activities, trips, business, the outdoors, and any number of other life's activities to provide a very enriching education that fully covers every area they need to learn. Plus there is lots of one on one attention that often is missing in a school setting. Yet some people are not willing to put in the work to make these things happen.

I doubt you would home school the way my in-laws have, but I didn't think they would either. If you are willing to put in the time and work though, I think it can be a wonderful opportunity to give them a very good education with all the one on one attention they need, and at the pace and level they need. Plus here in Florida, you have lots of resources available to give kids plenty of socialization. Now someone on here said their kids do PE once a week, and playgroup once a month. That seems far too insufficient to me. I think kids should be provided some form of physical activity daily, not just weekly. Even at the preschool I'm in, we do music and movement every day and go outside for recess at least once a day.

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S.G.

answers from Boca Raton on

Google Home school and your location.
It is very easy here. The state has relatively easy requirements, there is lots of support on line and in community groups. ALl you need is the will and the patience!
All the best!
: )

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D.S.

answers from Gainesville on

Hi,

My name is D. and I homeschool my two kids and have for the last 3 years. You're right about becoming easily discouraged but, its not impossible. There is a lot of hoe-school materials out there. There are a lot of websites that offer home-school materials help.

www.time4learning.com
www.homeschooldiscount.com

There is lots more than these.
You can call to see if your area has a local Home-schoolers association. They have lots of resources and help.

D.

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V.A.

answers from Tallahassee on

Hi Teresa!
We have 4 children and are homeschooling and I can tell you, it's been awesome!
Please don't let anyone tell you that your children will not be socialized if they don't go to a "traditional" school or won't "fit in". That's completely untrue. YOU socialize your children and teach them how to interact with others. Just think about it, Do you want other children, (that you don't know what kind of homelife they have) to teach your children things that you don't want them to learn yet?
One thing that I would like to encourage you NOT to do that I did and learned the hard way is to NOT RUSH YOUR CHILDREN INTO FORMAL LEARNING. All children are different and learn at different paces. I rushed my oldest almost in a burn out, and we have taken several steps back, and it's been much better. They don't have to use so many work books at such a young age. One thing I can tell you to do with them and start now is READ, READ, READ to them! Just reading several times a day with them is really going to get them the start they need, then use the home and the outside as their classroom. Every moment is a learning experience, and let them help you with the chores, matching clothes, picking out the food, shopping, asking them questions, and letting them ask you questions. This is really the best way to start them and they will LOVE learning that way! And always ask God for the guidance to get you through the day. He is wonderful and will help you through this wonderful time in your children's lives. Take care, and feel free to e-mail me with any other questions. I have a book at home that has helped me a lot and helped me to take some steps back from the pressure that I put on my oldest, that you could probaby find online or in a bookstore that's by Christian authors called "The Successful Homeschool Family Handbook-A Creative and STRESS-FREE Approach to HomeSchooling"
By Dr. Raymond and Dorothy Moore.
Good luck in your venture and may God Bless!
V.

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A.S.

answers from Boca Raton on

Hi T.,

For your 2 1/2 year old you really just need to focus on teaching him the basics (colors, shapes, abc's, sounds, numbers, object names, etc.). It is really basic stuff at that age. Books, puzzles, coloring books, constuction paper, crayons, educational videos, blocks are all fun. The library is an awesome resource. I currently homeschool three children (6,3, 1 1/2) and have one on the way. As he gets older you will need to work with a curriculm or several of them, but thats not until kindergarten or first grade. If you have any other questions feel free to ask. Good luck and God Bless :)

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S.B.

answers from Pensacola on

Wow T.,

I am very proud of you with your honourable
desire to homeschool...have you tryed your church? As many offer help in getting started/
share-teaching,etc. I don't know how your local school system is, but you might also try calling them for help in meeting their requirements,etc.
If you need more help; re-post this along with what is the state your'e in & I'll talk here in FL to afew people who might can give suggetions.

PS: Yari gives' excellent advice! :~D

Thank you for honouring God.
S.

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M.C.

answers from Fort Walton Beach on

Teresa,

I found a really great site that starts a baby age and goes up to 8 yrs for lesson plans and ideas for homeschooling. It's what I use for my kids who are 3 and 5. It is www.letteroftheweek.com and I also use www.starfall.com for interactive letters and sounds.

Good luck! We love homeschooling our kids.
M. Curtis
Personal Publishing Consultant

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P.E.

answers from Panama City on

go to your local school board. They should have a home schooling department. Home schooled and private school kids have a veryhard time fitting into society or if switched to aregular school.Your son is too young for formal home schooling. Take your kids places and give them experences. Read to them.

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L.W.

answers from Orlando on

Homeschooling isn't for everyone, but if you enjoy the company of your children it can be the best thing ever. At this age you certainly don't need a curriculum -- if ever -- but researching what's available will give you ideas. Bear in mind that there are many different approaches to homeschooling; three books I would recommend to get you started on your research would be John Holt's "Teach Your Own," Raymond and Dorothy Moore's "The Successful Homeschool Family Handbook," and "The Well-Trained Mind" by Jessie Wise and Susan Wise Bauer. There are many others, so become friends with the library and book sellers as well as the Internet. You have plenty of time to do research.

Let me encourage you, however, not to try to emulate a school. The advantage of learning at home is that it is NOT a school. One thing I would not recommend is "trying out" a few years of school and then making your decision; by then the "school mentality" ("other people teach me") has set in, and can take months if not years to recover from. We began homeschooling when our kids were going into third and sixth grades, and though they both did fantastically well, both at home and when they later returned to school, the younger one clearly got the "I'm responsible for my own education and can learn anything I put my mind to" attitude more quickly and thoroughly.

Oh, and be prepared to work hard. :) Even "unschooling" actually requires quite a bit of preparation and attention on the part of the parents.

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