i have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 yrs. the problem is i think he is talking to other girls. i have found him on dating websites!! he keeps his cell phone on him all the time where as i leave mine lay around and don't care if he looks in it, but he has a fit if i wanna look in his and to me thats a red flag!!! i want things to work but i'm not sure if its gonna. whats ur take on this am i readin to far into it!!
Honestly, that does not sound good. People who have nothing to hide, hide nothing. I think he is cheating. There is no reason whatsoever to be on dating sites if you are not looking, you know?
I would seriously examine why you are with someone who treats you like that. He's hiding something, which is not a good idea.
OMG My ex did the same thing personal ads on the internet, text messages from other women, emails etc.....I caught him red-handed cheating through a voice mail message when our daughter was like 4 months old.....get rid of him now before you waste any more of your time with him!
Bring the issues up once more in a non-accusatory manner. Everyone is entitled to privacy (even in a relationship), but being secretive and sneaky and getting defensive about someone looking at your phone is a red flag to me. If he can't explain himself and agree to be open with you, then I would run as fast as you can in the other direction and don't look back. If this guy is really worth hanging onto, he will validate your concerns and be willing to comporomise. You may have some trust issues yourself you want to explore. Why the need to look through his phone? Has he displayed behavior in the past that is questionable? If the answer is yes (and I think it is since you have seen him looking at dating websites) then in this situation I say you are right to be on alert. When you are in a relationship that you feel secure in and you are secure with yourself, you won't feel the need to check up on the other person unless they give you cause to do so. You deserve that, and don't stick around and let him treat you less because you love his kids. =) Hope this helps.
If you can't think clearly for yourself, think about your daughter and ask yourself these questions. If the answer is 'No' then, well, you know what you have to do.
Would you want your daughter dating a man who treats her like this? Would you want your daughter to be with a man who is hiding his other relationships with females?
If this type of relationship behavior isn't good enough for your daughter, then it isn't good enough for you.
.you and your daughter deserve sooo much more.....a womans intuition is usually dead on, so go with your gutt ........and what would you tell your daughter to do if this was happening to her.
Hi! I hate to say this, but he is obviously is doing something he shouldn't. I went out on and off with a guy for almost 11 years. I always had a nagging feeling things weren't "right" and boy was I right. What a waste of my life! Have a talk with him and if he denies things and tells tries to make you feel like you are crazy, I would dump him. Don't waste time on him like I did.
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HELLO I know you do not want to believe this but he IS cheating!!! The signs are all there and I know its tough but let him go! If you don't want your daughter to date someone that would treat her badly,lie,and cheat on her then why would you? You are worth more!!!!! Do NOT think you need to settle because you have a child. There are tons of single parents out there and even men without children are open to dating ladies with children. Do NOT get pregnant!!! You don't want any stds from this guy or aids!
Sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. If he is and you are sexually active with him, you need to be checked for STDs.
Him being on dating websites would be a dealbreaker for me. You could always ask him if he minds if you see other guys too. I wonder what kind of reaction he would have to that.
Good luck.
