Help! My Baby Won't Go to Anyone

Kids all have their little personalties they are born with and will react in different ways. Infants need their mommie's and this is their way of bonding which is still so important right now, don't worry about it and enjoy this time, I know it can be hard, you need a break but this will go quickly! Hang in there and don't worry about the issue, an infant needs her mommy!

Well I posted on here a bit ago kinda about the same thing. I am leaving town for a few days alone and was feeling bad that my little girl pretty much only likes to be with me.
I didn't get the responses I was hoping for. Some were down right mean and said I was horrid for keeping my daughter all to myself... yadda yadda yadda.
HOWEVER I understand as a stay at home mom how that can happen. So I'll try and offer some kind advice.
What I have been trying to do is make play dates or just set up a time with a neighbor or friend with the sole purpose of leaving her for a bit. I don't really go anywhere much for now. It isn't really about me getting out to do something but instead getting her to accept others. Like tomorrow a neighbor is going to take her for an hour and half. I know she will be unhappy but I also want her to learn that I am not the only person out there for her. The neighbor knows it will probably not be the funnest hour of her life, but she is willing to help and so have other family and friends.
In the same manner I am helping a neighbor do the same thing with her little one, so it is a nice trade off :)
I wish you luck in working on this and just know in the end she will be fine.
It is great we are able to stay home with them and give them so much love that all they want to do is be with us :) but I realize that I need to get her used to others in a safe and happy way.

My daughter was the same way. Now that she is one she has totally grown out of it and will pretty much go to anyone. Well atleast for a minute then she wants down to crawl around. but that is more because she is active.

My daughter who is now 10 months did the same thing. We didn't have any major changes, so it was just part of her development. She wouldn't even go to her grandmas and that was hard for me because I wanted them to see how wonderful she is. But I kept trying and letting other people hold her - even just for a few minutes. I think that helped her realize I would come back to her soon. There is one lady at church that has held her every week for a few months and now my daughter enjoys being with her, even if I am sitting close by. My advice is to keep trying and to be patient. It will get better as she continues to learn to trust you. Be sure Dad spends a lot of time with her, too. That will give you a break and let her be away from you with someone she already likes.

It's a phase. Don't force her to go to anyone. If you have to leave her with a sitter, kiss her and tell her you will be back and then leave. She'll be fine. She'll start to realize that you'll be back. Keep letting her be help by others, this phase will pass. It's totally normal for this to happen and most people know not to take it personally. My kids are still a bit like that, no one can do anything for them but mom and they are 2 and almost 5! Even my husband can't do much for them. But don't worry, she won't be like this always. Get involved in a Mom's group so she can be around others and be social with other babies and kids and moms. That might help. I know how it is, I'm a stay at home mom too. And I think that might be part of the reason my kids want me to do everything it's because that's what they're used to! But you never know at this age, she might be all about daddy next month. Kids just do that. Just breath and love your baby. She'll be ok.

That's the age for her to do it and with the move it's just natural. Hold her as much as you can and use massages to help her calm down. At the moment we are visiting another state and my 17 month old son is doing the same thing to me. Babies have no say so they need something to comfort them, and right now you're it. Lots of physical contact will help her feel more secure.

We went thru something similiar with our son. We moved cross-country from VA to ID when he was 5 months old, only our problem was with his sleeping. The move was rather hard on him as we went from sleeping thru the night at four months old back to waking 2-3 times a night when we got to Idaho.
It has taken over three months to get him back to sleeping thru the night again, and he is still not consistent with it.
Our remedy was just being VERY consistent with a schedule.
For you and your daughter, I would recomend getting involved with a play group. There are several groups out there that meet once a week with other tots your daughters age. This will give her a chance to "socialize" with other kids her age, all while being close to you. This is also good for you has her mommy as you get to socialize with other moms too. Hopefully this will help her break out of her shell. good luck!

She's so little, I'd indulge her. A carrier might help her feel super close to you, without fear of being handed off to someone else, so she can interact with other people from a place of safety. She's too young to cry it out or anything like that. But try to have people over when you can, so she will know that her world doesn't only consist of you and her! Even though you probably don't feel it yet, you need the interaction, too. It gets old after a few years...

It's probably more her age than the fact that you've moved. Babies go through different stages...sometimes they have more "stranger anxiety" than others. Babies are pretty easygoing at 2 months old...as long as they are fed and clean and warm.... By 5 months they are becoming more aware of their surroundings and when Mom is around and when she tries to leave the room. It is just a phase. It will pass.

In the meantime, expose her to different people. Have her around others - with you. You can even leave her with a babysitter when necessary. As a child care provider and former teacher, I can tell you that I have seen several children upset when parents leave and they are usually fine within minutes of Mom or Dad leaving. The transition time is usually the most difficult....but most children adjust pretty well.

Same thing happened with my fourth. None of the other three had issues with going to other people, but she did. Like you, I moved when she was just less than two months old, too. Then we moved again twice before she was nine months old. It's only now (she's just 14 months) that she has started to accept strangers. Most of the time, when someone looks at her she scowls at them as if to say "What are you looking at, mister." But before now, if I handed her to anyone else, or left her in a room with other people, she would cry and scream and look absolutely terrified. I would guess that it was because there was so much change so quickly in her short lifetime. Now that we're in a permanent home and have more of a routine and more familiar faces, she is becoming a little social butterfly. I would agree with the other posters that say to set up playdates at your home or small little outings, especially with people you want her to become familiar with, to get her used to feeling safe with someone else. So far, you are the only constant person in her life. The more she sees the same people, the more comfortable she'll feel. Good luck with it. It is normal, but frustrating at the same time.

It is normal, a phase, she will go through it a few times.
Seperation anxiety is so normal. Play peek a boo with her and stuff so she can see you will be right back. Let her have just you or reassure you if someone else is holding her.
She just is realizing strangers and that mommy isn't right there. I think my daugther went through it like three times once at 5 or 6 mos, again after the year mark and even again around 18 mos. It will pass very soon.

My 5 month old is the same way and has been since she could focus on a face about 2 months old. both grandmas have a complex from her so it is a bummer. good luck, I guess we just be patient.

I babysat a little boy like that once. His mom just took a few months and held him a lot until he didn't need it any more. I think it took about 2 or 3 months, but then he was fine and could be left again with anyone. He's a well-adjusted college student today. You could just wear her in a carrier of some kind while you do work, or you might try finding a mom and tots' group to just hang out with even if all she does is sit in your lap, at least she'd be getting used to other people. Since she's as old as she is, it may get worse before it gets better since she'll have separation anxiety soon, too. GL! I hope she adjusts soon.

My first daughter was the same way, except she was like that from birth. Be patient and resourceful; it will get better if you work at it. Make sure you let her see people on her terms and don't push it. I couldn't hire a babysitter until my daughter was 18 months old, but I think it would have been longer if we hadn't slowly introduced her to other people without pushing her limits. We had to find something that she loved to do more than she was afraid. At about 10 months we discovered she was extremely inquisitive and also loved to go running with mom. She made friends with one of my sisters by my sister taking her running to see me. After that she was much less apprehensive of my sister. When she was about a year old my uncle discovered she loved getting "tours" of wherever she was. He would take her from me and before she could start screaming he was showing her everything in the room. You could tell she was nervous, but her curiosity was stronger than her fear. I was always right there with her and if she got too scared I always took her back so that she knew I would always be there and there was nothing to be afraid of. I would also always take her out in social situations. It helped when people interacted with her from a bit of a distance so she didn't feel like they were going to take her away from my. I was working with 12 year old girls during this period (about 12 months and on) and they were great with her. They all payed attention to her, but they always stood about 5 feet away and never tried to hold her (I had warned them in advance). Because she saw these same girls all of the time and they fawned over her in such a non-threatening way she was ready to accept them as babysitters after a few months. I was so thrilled with the liberation of finally being able to go out and do something without a baby. It took a long time and a lot of patience, but eventually it got better and now she is a very delightful, independent, social girl. I really think if I hadn't done things so gradually and let her know that I was always right there she would still be insecure. Your baby is still too young for these things, but be patient for now and find out what she loves and what type of personality she has. The two of you will have more than plenty of time to figure that out over the next few months. My husband and I always say it's a wonder we had any more kids after her because she was such a hard baby.

This is very normal...in fact you want her like this ...for now. Since you are at home with her...very normal...you are teaching her security, trust and stranger danger. She will grow more experimental with months to come, but for now, be glad!!!!!