Hi W.,
Here's my "top 10" that have been helping me (I need to lose 40 lbs by July, have lost 8 in the last 3 weeks since 'getting serious'). My #1 tip is don't skip breakfast -even if it's just a nonfat yogurt. I have been a breakfast skipper for many years and only just began making a point to have them daily (normal sized meal or a snack sized something.. with protein in it). I have to lose weight for surgery and am very motivated by that to drop weight I've let pile on. My #2 is to either skip late night snacking or to snack on something low cal like grapes or fresh orange slices (my 2 fave night snacks), but never eat anything close to when you're going to bed. #3 is start making fruit smoothies in your blender everyday (or every other). They're quick and easy to make, add more fresh fruit into your diet, help fill you up super low cal, and even add more water in (I just blend fresh fruit and ice, nothing else --unless it's for breakfast, then I add yogurt in). #4 have a green salad everyday, light on the dressing (and, preferrably, a light dressing to start w/) -and add a little bit of your favorite nut to it, chopped up --lean meat (chicken, fish..) if you can. #5 cook several days worth of your main meal &/or protein and store it portioned for the next several days, easy to grab or reheat (and watching portions goes in w/ that one). #6 whatever exercise you enjoy, find time for it daily even if it's just 10 minutes in the morning and another 10 at night. I can't exercise "normally" right now (my surgery is for lessened mobility problems), but try to do whatever I possibly can -everyday (no matter how piddly). #7 make sure you have protein in every meal, or every meal that you can manage it (lean protein, of course). #8 drink lots of water and decaf beverages (and skip soda all together if you can --I gave it up almost 6 yrs ago and now only have a gingerale or 7up when I have sore throat.. soothing bubbles). #9 don't avoid all the yummy stuff, let yourself have something when you want it, but within reason -and definitely in a moderate portion. And, don't waste your treat on something that isnt' worth it; if you're going to have a yummy treat, make it a worthwhile one and savor it in small portion. #10 for toning, see if you can work in some pilates at home or weight toning at the gym. For me right now, it's physical therapy, but I hope to get back to more 'real' toning when I can. You can use any of these that you want to; they've all been working for me and I've adopted them permanently. I wish you luck!