Help in Getting Through a Struggle with My Son

I COMPLETELY understand! I have two little boys. One is 5 (the one we're having issues with) and the other is 3 (and so easy to handle)! We have found out that many of our sons issues come from some biological imbalances mixed w/ environmental toxins and the huge assualt of toxins put in his body by vaccines. So we are actively working on getting him well through natural supplements and homeopathy.

All of that aside...I understand how this emotionally effects you as a mother. I can tell you there are so many days when I just don't want to get out of bed and face the day. My child's behavior is such a roller coaster. He won't obey the most simple requests or even walk a majority of the time! It is completely exhausting and exasperating! I adore him, but there are days when I want to go back to the hospital and ask for a refund or exchange! (Just kidding!) It is such a conflict to have that mother's love and adore your baby and at the same time they completely exasperate you and then you have the compounded worries of disciplining correctly and wondering what's going to happen in the next 10 years! I recommend counselling with a really great counsellor who understands these situations for both of us and getting together with other mom's who understand and/or are in similar situations!

By the way I live in Grapevine also and would love to get together...maybe we could let our boys have a play date and work out their problems with each other!!! :)

my 15 year old son had problems since the age of 1 years old. He was constantley in everything & I thought it was just the age. By the time he was 4 he already had a broken arm, huge bumps & bruises due to him so hyper.He started acting out, anger outburst, kicking & hitting things, I took him for testing to find out he was ADHD, we then started to expierence different medications (I hated giving him drugs).To add to the problems his father , my husband passed away 2 months after he turned 5. I was dealing with alot more problems from this little boy who didnt deserve this. What I have learned over the years is sometimes diet has alot to do with theyre behavior, giving them structure, responsibilities, attention. My sons brain was missing something in the fact that he didnt think like a typical boy his age. He is smart but it takes alot of effort on my part & his siblings. I have to be constantley on him but at 15 he hardly needs any medication & I love spending time with him. Dont get to discouraged, I know it's hard but be strong in GOD & HE will get your son, you & your family through it.

As hard as it might seem dont encourage it but dont punish him for it either. He may be going through some sort of aingst for something you dont even know happened to him. Talk to him, ask him why he wants to do this, tell him you love him no matter what and give him the chance to talk to you about it. Dont force him, just give him the opportunity, if he thinks he's bad he may think you wont love him and that may actually make him do it more. Make a big deal of his propper behaivior to reinforce it. Sorry for the poor spelling, never really was good at it. Good luck.

You mentioned that he is in the process of psychological and physical testing. Though the school system will provide some testing for free, it may take a while. I would recommend asking for a referral from his pediatrician. That may get the ball rolling a lot quicker. Good Luck!

Have him tested for celiac disease. Also track whether or not when he has down behavior if he has had any red dye 40. It is in a lot of stuff. Those are things to try first. Once I elimated wheat and red dye 40 from my 3 year olds diet then he got much much better. Still goes down but i can handle it now.

I hope that helps some.

R.

I have a seven an a half year old daughter that sounds alot like your son. I have found that when she is upset the best why to deal with her was to be firm about my decision and stay calm.( soft voice and calm body language...kids really pick up on it.) I would give her time to calm down (in her room or we have a thinking chair in the kitchen) and then I would go back and talk to her about her behavior. If I tried talking to her while she was upset it would just make her more upset...I had to give her time to calm down. When she was happy I would talk to her about choice and consciences and what to do when she is upset and how important it is to show self control. I would try during our day to find opportunity to guide her in showing self control. I think they have a harder time with self control than other personalities. I don't think there is anything wrong with them physically or mentally...I think its a type of personality. If they do not learn self control at a young age it is only going to get harder for them later....the cost will be greater when they are older. It is not easy. It can really drain your energy. She is doing so much better about controlling her self when she is upset. It also take time they don't learn it over night. One more thing...this type of personallity do better if they have plenty of rest (9-10 hours of sleep per night) and a more structured schedule....they need to know what to expect. They don't like to be rushed....that really puts them into a state of frustration. Also, I found that if my daughter did not get a proper amount of protien in her meals she was more difficult to reason with. It is also important that you get a break to BREATH!!!! I hope this helps. Hang in there, it gets better as they mature...just keep guiding him. A little about me. I am married for 12 year and have three children. 9 yr old son, 7 yr old daughter and 3yr old son. I stay at home with them. You are welcome to e-mail me. ____@____.com