Help Crys and Is Sick All the Time

I would tell, not ask, the pediatrician to order a glucose test for diabetes. The big thing I saw was the "always thirsty" comment, which is a red flag for diabetes. It may be that he has undiagnosed diabetes.

J.:

I'm truly sorry about this. It must be very hard mentally and physically to have a child so high maintenance! (sorry - but true).

I would take him to the doctor and have him checked out COMPLETELY - blood tests to rule out any chemical imbalance (I don't know how early bi-polar rears its head) and ask for a reference to a child psychologist or psychiatrist as well as family counseling so that you can learn how to deal with him and he can be given the tools to help him help himself...(man that's a mouthful!)...

I would demand things like an MRI or a CAT scan to rule out any deformity that you can't see with the eye - especially if this has been going on since birth - is it possible he has something like Crones disease that actually causes him physical pain?
does he have something else in his brain that triggers the emotion?
If he has speech problems, are you following through with a therapist? Have they determined what caused the speech problems?
have they tried to figure out why he is sick all the time?
Has his immune system been compromised?
Do you constantly clean everything so that his body isn't exposed to germs?

So many questions!!! Sorry! you are your sons advocate. You need to find the answers and press doctors to get to the bottom of it - think outside the box and find out WHY THIS IS HAPPENING - it is NOT normal - and you don't want it to be normal for him....help him...I know you are - I know this - but don't give up!!!

I would call your son's Dr. (allergist or pediatrician) immediately and share your concerns with them. A peds office won't know nearly as much as an allergist so if they're the ones that put him on - take him off! And then see an allergist.

My suggestion would be to take him off the allergy meds and see if that doesn't help. I was raised on Benadryl, shots, Prednisone, Flonase, Allegra and Zyrtec (the latter two not at the same time). ALL of those things individually will extremely dehydrate you, as any allergy/asthma med does. He needs to be drinking ALOT of water, but will ALWAYS feel thirsty. Also, Most allergy meds cause behavioral/mood issues. Due to the dehydration, bodily chemical changes, and extreme lethargy caused by these meds, any one of them could cause him to feel overstimulated, exhausted, or so ill that he drags all the time. If he's on *Zyrtec*, one of the TOP side effects is mood disorder. In me, that look like an inability to have any self-control, constant anger and irritation, and a very low "acting out" threshold. As soon as I went off the stuff as a young adult, I was magically transformed from the awful, horrible person my mother always hated to a perfectly normal, happy adult. I only take allergy meds now when I absolutely have to bc I know it means locking myself away for the day from my precious family.

If your son is on singulair, I would suggest taking him off of it immediately. We have several friends (all with sons) who have had to do so as it causes extreme depression, especially in boys.

Allergies are an autoimmune system response to naturally occurring elements. The theory I've heard of late goes we've killed everything our body is "supposed" to naturally fight - water borne bacteria, etc - which is why you don't find allergies in developing countries but rather trending in industrial nations. Because one's body has nothing to fight, it starts fighting itself, in congruence with things one naturally comes in contact with - typically ragweed, grasses, trees, etc.... This body fighting itself lowers the immune system and in turn allows one to get sicker than most, and get sick more often.

Regardless, People with allergies have a much lower immune system than is normal and will be sick much more often - and have stronger reactions. For instance, if you get a mild cold, the same cold in your child may result in a week in bed, bronchitis, and a sinus infection.

At three, i don't think he can have speech problems that are indicative of his age. I could certainly be wrong but I have a girlfriend who is an occupational therapist and her son has had speech issues (now five) and only just started therapy. I don't think they consider it an issue until about five....

Take him off the meds. Esp if they were prescribed by a pediatrician. Peds don't know very much about allergies and in my opinion have no business prescribing allergy/asthma meds. Talk to your allergist!

Good luck mama!

Sad to say but it sounds like diabetes. Sooner you find out the better. Good luck, it does get better.

When I don't feel good EVERYTHING is more dramatic, a setback at work is the end of the world, snapping at my kids means "I'm the WORST Mom EVER" etc, etc. So I'd be willing to bet that if you get to the bottom of his health issues that the crying will take care of its self. It sounds like there is some under lying issue that a) makes him susceptible to other illnesses and b) leaves him never feeling GOOD and makes him very prone to crying. So I'd pursue that doggedly until I got answers that make sense

I have no idea when hay season is over but I would get him in there now. There are so many tests I can think of right now that are important, some listed below. If your pediatrician doesn't take this seriously, get a new one. Don't stop until you have solid answers. Good luck!

I love this book: "Healing the New Childhood Epidemics: Autism, ADHD, Asthma, and Allergies: The Groundbreaking Program for the 4-A Disorders" by Kenneth Bock, M.D. and Cameron Stauth. Your library might have it. He discusses many different childhood ailments and issues.

I would also ask my ped or doctor about diabetes.

Good luck - I hope you can find some real answers for your little guy.

you say he is sick all the time. Have you had him medically evaluated? This sounds like some kind of systemic difficulty that has less to do with crying than with his generally feeling AWFUL - If there is no medical issue, you might take him to an early development specialist.

a couple of things struck me here you need to check on. He is always crying (could be a sign of allergies)sick all the time meaning what? think about this realistically. sinus problems could be allergies. allergy meds could be connected to the speech problems. If he is on allergy meds the allergies could be draining into his ears and causing his speech problems. I think you need an ent in my opinion. Just to make sure. Does he have an ear infection? fluid? more things going on unseen? I totally agree with sarah c and the questions about to much sugar or diabetes.