Health Care, Dental, and Frustrated with My Husband.

The only way to solve this is to cure your financial situation. If money is so very tight that you can't take care of the basics of health and dental then it is time to fix this. It is not about whether or not your husband is a good provider or not it is about making sure what is currently wrong doesn't get worse and cost you even more money. If he is not willing to sit down and figure out a plan of attack, and also care for his health then you need to do this for yourself as you will need be healthy enough to earn a living when his healh craps out. You need to call around to dental schools and find out when they have a clinic for either free or cut rate or you may qualify for a county type dental clinic if money is an issue. Also you may wish to take a look at your household budget and figure out one for groceries, utilities, necessaries like a phone but having cable and internet are not necessities, magazines, newspaper subscriptions, soda, coffee drinks. Figure out if you are losing money somewhere and pair back. If there is still not a resolution to money issues then even if you have kids you will both need to work and work a job that offers health and dental, while it may not be immediate it will then put you on a better track financially. The other thing your husband is an adult, he is responsible to take care of his health as a good provider to ensure he doesn't fail and have to stay home ill or get hospitalized because a tooth problem went systemic and he is laid up for a much longer time then he would have and possibly cause other health problems.
You may wish to have him read the responses to your question as sometimes hearing advice from others who are not emotionally invested in a situation will hit home or at least give both of you things to think about.
Good luck and good health.

Look online to see if there are any free or low-cost medical clinics in your area. Remote Area Medical is one group that travels the country helping provide free medical and dental care. They started off helping people in remote areas internationally but realized quickly people in our country are often just as bad off due to lack of healthcare. They were just in Sacramento so maybe they'll be in your area soon.

I also know many communities have permanent clinics to help, so see what you can access. You shouldn't have to suffer in pain.

Good luck!

I am speechless... that your Husband will not, provide this basic need for you.
It is... TERRIBLE.

He is, very mentally off base.
You should not have to go through this.

If I were there, I would tell him off for you.
GEEZ.

CaWriterMom had good spot on suggestions.

Here is a link for you, based on a Google Search for "free dental clinics in Bodega Bay, CA.:
http://www.freedentalcare.us/ci/ca-bodega_bay

You NEED to show your Husband, all of the responses you get, to your question.

He is, being obscenely SELFISH and mean.

I HOPE, you have medical insurance? What if you get sick?
How can he ignore, your well being and health?

Do you have minor age children as well? What about them? Do they have any kind of medical/dental coverage? Or does your Husband not care about that either???

Would you qualify for any type of assistance? Have you called your local health department. are there dental schools or clinics near you?

I hate the "victim role" so I know what you mean.

Most men are problem-solvers. What if you approach it like that? "Hon, I need to do something about this pain. How can we get coverage for me?"

If you have a dental school near you, you might qualify for lower-cost treatment. My mother has done that. As long as you don't mind that your dentist is a resident, it may be the way to go.

There are also places that do sedation dentistry, and your DH should look into those.

As for your spouse's reaction, don't placate him. Hand him the solutions and just be like "This is what it is. This is what we are doing and why" and then do it. You need to take charge of your own dentistry if you are in that much pain. Bad teeth can lead to heart disease and other problems.

Health and safety should NEVER be compromised. You are both taking risks with your health by not seeking good dental care. By putting dental care off, you could be creating more issues which could be way more costly than what you currently need.

Most dentists will give you a cash discount if you have no coverage. As for the fear, you just have to get over that.... you have options with sedation denistry, etc now and there is not an excuse.

Is there a dental school in your area? If so, you could probably get a deeper discount. Also, there are many clinics available for medical and dental care for those who are in need of it.

On a personal note... when we set up our health coverage we opted for NO dental coverage. In our opinion it is a waste of money because you pay a good premium and the more work you need done, the less coverage you have. We are fortunate to all be in good dental health because we never miss a routine check and we have good genes, BUT, when we do go to the dentist, we get about a 30% discount because we are cash pay.

Best wishes and I hope you get yourself out of pain soon!

I am so sorry you're in a lot of pain...Not to be mean...You both need to suck it up and go get your dental issues taken care of...You should not be living like this...If your DH has some serious dental issues and they are not addressed it could lead to other health problems...and more $$ in the long run. Best wishes

The only thing you can do is respond differently, because obviously the way you are currently responding isn't getting you anywhere.