Having a Baby in Early October and Want to Tell My Almost 4 Year Old Son

Mom, daddy is in de NILE

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Just ask him if he would like a new baby?
thn say Guess what your new baby brother , or sister will be here in October. then say how do you feel about that.

listen to him, he might say yeah or not really understand, but preparation counts. he needs to know and have time to deal with it all.

let him help you pick things out for the baby, and if your using his stuff say can the baby borrow your Crib?

When you were a baby. we used to do this.

This blanket was yours when you were a baby,

Also very good things to say are, We are getting you a BIG BOY BED, your the best helper and I know your going to be a great big brother.

things like that go a long way to comforting his anxiety's

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As for DAD.

talk to him about the pregnancy and make it real for him.

also give him space and time to deal with it.
when he sees you and your son excitedly sharing ideas and plans for the new baby, he will undoubtedly cheer up.

And when he see's how much your little boy loves his new sibling, and is so loving and caring with him, he will love him too.

It affects every man diffrently.

My husband was very unhappy about our second pregnancy, as i was still nursing at the time.

BUt as soon as the baby was born, he just fell in love with him, and got all protective over him. and up until he was born he was still strugglig to deal.

Also we were pregnant with twins, and initially he was scared beyond belief, he acted like he could care less and was extremely dissapointed ----Unfortunately I lost my babies . and he was devastated, and guilt ridden.

I am sharing this because you can never really tell why they react the way they do and how they are feeling about it all.

BUT, each baby just seems to fit in , like they've always been there.

So no worries, Tell your baby and his new baby, and start enjoying the pregnancy with or with out daddy,your child will be excited about being a new big brother and will equally enjoy preparing for the baby. MAke it real for him. and Daddy will realize its real aswell.

Good Luck

M

This is a very exciting time for your family and your son should be a part of the celebration!!! A four year old is plenty old enough to understand about a baby coming and help you prepare. Making him a part of it will make him feel special, plus the longer he has to adjust to the idea of being a big brother the better, because no matter how prepared you think he is there will be some jealousy issues in the beginning. I agree that waiting a while to make sure you had a healthy pregnancy was a good idea, but 4 year olds are smarter than you think and if he is asking questions it is definately time to tell him. You don't need for him to feel like he is being left out or you are hiding things from him which is bound to happen as you start to show more and he overhears conversations. They hear you even when you think they are not listening. I would start with a very simple conversation and then answer his questions after he asks them. Good luck and congratulations!

Why does your son have to ask daddy? If you have already purchased a book on being a big brother, why don't you and your husband read it to him and present the facts together. Your son is obviously smart as he has already taken it upon himself to ask you outright. Perhaps reading the story as a family will make it all the more real to your husband as well as confirming what your son already seems to know. Good Luck.

Why all the drama? We told my daughter right away and she came w/ me to every doctor's visit. We talked about it all the time, how she's gonna be a big sister, mommy's belly is gonna get really big :) the baby is gonna be small and cry a lot yadda yadda yadda If you make it a stressful situation he may have a hard time w/ it and wonder why it's not such a happy thing. You don't want to do that. Keep it lite and happy. No big deal, have fun w/ it. Don't you want your son to be excited about having a baby in the house?
I don't understand dad though, tell him to lighten up.

Make him part of the celebration! This is a joyous time and he will be fine knowing he is going to be a big brother. Have him help you and be a part in every and any way possible. Have him help with the room, any new purchases for the baby. I took my son to ceramics and have him make something for the baby. Talk about it, let him feel your belly....anything you can do to have him be a part of it. I also purchased a little something for him the day the baby came home. Let him help you with the baby too. HE needs to be a part of this too. The transition will probably be more heartwarming than you ever expected. Good luck and enjoy!

Hi
My 2 daughters were 6 and 4 when we told them their brother was coming in October...they were thrilled!! They told EVERYONE!!! My only issue was the "middle child syndrome" and that you won't have to worry about. By making your child part of the pregnancy now, he won't be resentful toward the baby when he/she is here. I know of a situation where that has happened and that you want to avoid!!
They say daddy will come around once the baby is here but you need him to come around now b/c as you get bigger, you will be able to do less and need his help. Especially in these hot summer months!!
Good luck to you and get your son involved now :)

what's to worry really ... the baby will come regardless and everybody will be able to see at some point..
I had a best friend when I was 10 yrs old. We didnt know that her mom was having a baby.. she went to the hospital had it and we were all shocked .. including my friend...
In this world of planning .. we have to do everything right now. you will have plenty of time to read books... let it happen on its own ..tomorrow comes regardless