Have Ever Had to "Ban" One of Your Neighborhood Kids from Your Home and Yard?

Yes!
Most of the neighborhood ended up doing the same, esp w/the boy...

(did they move there? they'd be much bigger now)

When they come over and want to play. Tell them sorry not today. After a few times they'll hopefully get the hint. If they start asking why they can't play be honest. "Sorry, but the last time you were here you could not follow the rules, etc. If their mom starts to question you be upfront and tell her the same. I know all of this is easier said than done, but for the sake of your sanity this summer do it. Good luck.

We have a similar problem here and I have set very clear boundaries and am not afraid to discuss the bad behavior with the neighbor girl (thanks to Mamapedia's advice!). We have to be very firm with telling her when the kids can play too. For example, in your situation, I wouldn't allow them to play unless you happen to have an hour to monitor them all. In our case we've had to make new rules of doing all homework and piano practice before play time with friends, and making sure our family has enough family alone time together too. After being firm, it's working out much better. We were letting the 10 year old neighbor rule the roost since we were afraid to discipline someone else's kid.

We've banned two boys that live down the street. One is my daughter's age and the other is a year younger. They live with their grandmother and they are mean and out of control. They are always mean to my kids and usually one of my kids ends up getting hurt when they would come to play. So we decided a while back that we were done. When they came to play I told them that they weren't allowed to play at our house any more because they didn't know how to be nice. They came back a few times, but we never let them in and just kept telling them over and over that they couldn't play here because they didn't know how to be nice. They have stopped coming by now.

If I were you, I'd say no more inside playing. Only outside. When they come over, you sit them down and look at them straight in the eye and tell them the rules. Tell them if they break the rules, they have to go home. Don't go in the house. Sit there and watch them. Make these playdates only one hour long.

This way, you can have a positive influence on these kids. If you live there for a long time, they will become teens and if you have banned them from your yard, they may start vandalizing. Being kind but VERY firm with them now may save you from this kind of heartache later. If she is doing things from HER yard, just bring your kids in.

You don't have to have to have anything to do with the mom. Sounds like she's a user.

Quite frankly, if it weren't for being very worried about what they will do to your house and kids as teens, I'd agree to banning them. But I don't think it's a good idea. I hope that the next few years might bring the opportunity to move somewhere else...

Haven't had to do it... but in your situation I probably would. Explain to your kids why the others can't play and how much nicer/easier it will be without the drama, and then stick to your plan. Tell the banned kids nicely that they're not going to be able to play at your house anymore because they don't follow your rules, and leave it at that. If you let them play some of the time but not others, you'll still have them knocking all the time.

Yep, ban them.

Your home and family and your own kids, should not have to suffer because of them.
And yep, do NOT create a friendship with the Mom.
Either.
This is all just so toxic.

Just do NOT let them in your house or on your property.
And if there is trouble, call the Cops.
I mean, they ring the door bell millions of times and harassing people from their yard etc. and going into your backyard and refusing to leave?!
Call the Cops.

Yes. My flaky neighborhood friend's son. We're really good friends, but her son's behavior has always left a lot to be desired. I've almost always been able to control his behavior because he respects me and respects any discipline I give him but he's not always respectful to my daughters or our property. He has some severe impulse issues, ODD, ADHD, and general attitude problems because his father abandoned him before birth. I give him a lot of leeway, but I won't allow him to harm my daughters. Or my cats.

So I gave him an edict: you can come onto my property and into my home when you decide that you'll be respectful of my daughters, my cats, and my property. I had hoped that would encourage him, since he adores my husband and spending time with him. But it's been two years since he set foot in my home. For what it's worth, his mother supports me in this and has no hard feelings. She says he listens to me better than he listens to her. :-)

Who's house is this, Yours or there's. You disabled the doorbell b/c of them. Once again who's house is this? I'm asking myself. Why are you putting up with this. You say all these things drive you nuts, I think you proabaly have panic attacks just thinking they might show up. Do you have trouble sleeping?

My son friends can come and play outside, but NO one is allowed in the house. When he gets older and want to have friends come in the house, I will have to do a background check on the kid and parents. My home is my castle. I can't control other people behavior, but I can sure control who comes into my home.

I've never banned them, but I have 3 kids across the street who are all sisters and when one comes, they all come. I told my dd that they can go to the park, but it's too hard to have all of them over. They are a bit misbehaved and some back talk too...they open my refrigerator and take food without asking and if I say no they get mad...enough is enough.

They don't ask to come over anymore....I'm sure they think I'm mean, but life has been much better without them

Not too many kids in our neighborhood, so I've never had to ban anyone. However, I got banned from my neighbors when I was about 4 years old. I was horrible. Saying terrible things, being mean, etc. My first bit of freedom away from mom and I BLEW IT! The kids nor the mom at the house were not amused by me and collectively banned me. About a week later they let me apologize for my behavior and accepted me back. I always did have to learn the hard way. Peer pressure was quite effective.

I've not dealt with a neighborhood kid to this extent, because I simply wouldn't put up with it. It's time to put your foot down, momma.

There's a boy in our neighborhood who rides the same school bus as my 6th grader. He's in 8th grade. The boys started out as friends, and the kid seemed okay, but then I realized that I was dealing with a sneaky little sh*t.

He watched over my son's shoulder while my son entered our garage code, and then memorized it. And started entering our home without permission. While my husband and I weren't home.

We changed the garage code and banned the kid from our property. If I see him there again, I'll call the police.

I would ban these children from your home and property, plain and simple. I'd also tell them to stop coming to your door. Reconnect your doorbell. If they are a menace, consider checking into your local city laws regarding property. Write a letter to the mother and send it certified mail outlining the local city ordinances regarding trespass.

If it continues, file a police report.

Those kids are only going to get worse.

Good luck!

There is one boy that is not allowed in my home. If the boys want to play with him outside that is fine, but he can not come in the house or garage. The reason is he stole from me. It was a small item but it has a ton of sentimental value. When it vanished I banned all the kids from my home, and in an attempt to make it right so he could come in again he returned it claiming another child had given it to him. Before this we already suspected him in the disappearance of some nerf guns and a skateboard. I think he only returned it because I cut off his access to steal more toys. I was thankful to get it back, but I can not allow him in my home any longer.

You disabled the doorbell? Re enable it. It's your home, don't let them over.