Hanukkah Ideas Wanted

Updated on November 19, 2015
E.S. asks from Billerica, MA
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Hi! My daughter's roommate was bemoaning the fact that she is going to completely miss Hanukkah at home this year. Sarah would like to do something but besides giving her a gift a day (which she plans to elaborately wrap) what else can she do? I know we have a couple of dreidels around somewhere and the roommate was planning on buying her own menorah for their window. What else (inexpensively) can she so?
Thanks---E.

PS- I did think of food but they live in a dorm. Maybe we could make something(s) while she is home and freeze to reheat in the microwave as a fun late night pre-finals study munch but I never like anything nuked myself....

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Ladies, thank you ever so much for taking the time and for the great suggestions. I have put everything together and sent it to my daughter and she knows I'll do what I can to make some fun. They aren't freshman so I don't think it is about homesickness but I know the girl has had a very hard year. And yes, my daughter is wonderful, this is typical her!
Thanks so much---E.

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D.B.

answers from Boston on

Does she have a menorah at school? They make some small travel-type menorahs (some take Hanukkah candles, some take birthday candles), although the campus Hillel groups sometimes give them out too especially because Hanukkah often hits during exam stress.

When my son was away at school, I sent him and his roommate 8 little packets wrapped in blue tissue and numbered 1-8. Each packet contained a package of chocolate gelt (milk for my son, dark for his lactose-intolerant roommate) plus something else. My son always loved chocolate Maccabees and I haven't been able to find them locally. I just found them on line but then I read this article from The Forward so I'm a little dismayed at what's happened here! http://forward.com/the-assimilator/324637/the-war-on-hann... But maybe there's time for you to pursue it.

I also enclosed small packs of cookies. Some of the bakeries or supermarkets make sugar cookies with blue sprinkles in dreidel or Star of David shapes. It's a little dicey sending potato latkes through the mail (!) but you could do some other oil-fried foods like potato chips, even kale chips, or the traditional soufganiyot jelly donuts or jelly-filled "munchkins" if they will ship in a reasonable amount of time. You could make those for Night 1 so they aren't sitting around the room getting stale.

I think dreidels are a bit overdone for kids this age but if she would get a charge out of it, find a neat design at any Jewish gift store. Some people start collections to bring out every year, so you might start a trend. One of my son's favorites is an Israeli one with the different letter in the last position. Instead of the Hebrew letters "Nun-gimel-hay-shin" for "A great miracle happened there", the Israeli dreidels have "nun-gimel-hay-peh" for "A great miracle happened HERE." Most American and European kids don't have those. You could throw in a pack of M&Ms as dreidel game tokens - they may play with friends just for a good study break. They make blue and white M&Ms to sell in the Jewish gift shops, but our local "secular" candy shop sells them in batches of any weight (typical bulk candy style). You could do blue & white or throw in some yellow too. Those keep and could be given in the last few days even if shipped ahead of time.

Maybe a CD or downloaded iTune for some of the traditional music ("Maoz Tzur" or other traditional tune, or even the Peter/Paul/Mary "Light One Candle")?? That's pretty inspiring especially as we follow the news lately.

I doubt you'll find much at any synagogue in the area - it's not much of a synagogue holiday, as you know - it's a home holiday. It's just a tough time of year for a college student to steal away to a synagogue that has a Hanukkah dinner anyway - exams and papers due. But check with the Hillel or other Jewish student organization. One year my son's Hillel gave 15 minute chair massages for stressed out kids!

Maybe a Hanukkah decoration for the dorm door? Not every kid celebrates Christmas and sometimes their doors look a little dull when others are putting up Christmas decor.

What a nice daughter you have!

ETA: I read another response about looking into the Chabad organization. If there is one in the area, they will likely have a public menorah lighting and many other activities. However, be advised that this is an ultra-Orthodox sect of Judaism, with separations between men and women for certain things and strict modesty codes for women. There are bans on men hearing women's voices during singing, no shaking of hands, etc. They are traditionally extremely welcoming but they are not without controversy, so there should be an awareness of their views before jumping in to celebrate that may not be what these young college women expect.

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S.T.

answers from Washington DC on

without knowing much about hanukkah, i'd suggest to your daughter that she sit down with the roommate and pick out the traditions that she loves and will miss the most, and then you can get cracking on figuring out ways of tweaking them for dorm life. if it's anything like yule or christmas there are a bunch of generic things that would be nice, but to make it special for THIS girl and help her with her homesick yearnings, i'd do a little detecting and then personalize it.
for example, my kids really loved take-out-chicken-and-put-up-the-tree day. my husband loves breaking out the TSO cds and filling the house with our favorite christmas music. my single brother who spends most of christmas here now that my parents are out of the picture loves his stocking. i'm a fan of the treats. :)
find a couple of things that this girl loves especially, whether it be blue lights in the window or special candies or musical selections and go from there.
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D.K.

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Most college communities have at least one temple that is open to college kids. They may have a Chanukah dinner or other function that is open to non-members. When I was a resident the local temple took names of families interested in hosting a student for Chanukah dinner. Our current temple does a Chanukah on ice - a nice break from studying. Does her dorm not have a small kitchen? They can certainly light candles together.

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B.C.

answers from Norfolk on

I suppose this will depend on how the friend usually celebrates (can your daughter ask her?).
It might be fun to do this together as oppose to surprising the friend.
They can pick some favorite recipes/foods to make.

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K.C.

answers from Los Angeles on

A lot of colleges/areas have an organization called Chabad. They usually put on something for all the big holidays. Maybe your daughter could go there with her for a dinner on the first or second night. I would get a menorah and candles so they can light those every night. Though tradition says you don't blow out the candles, they may need to do so in order to leave the room to go to dinner or something. We do that at my house sometimes if the kids have activities we have to go to.

Decorating the door of the room is a cute idea. She could buy Hanukkah Gelt (chocolate coins) to give her. The only other real Hanukkah food is latkes (potato pancakes), but those probably wouldn't be very good heated in the microwave because they would lose their crispiness.

Does your daughter ever have any contact with her roommate's family? Maybe she could find out what one or two of their traditions are and try to replicate it in the dorm.

If they go to college in a bigger city, the city might have a place where they light a giant menorah in the evenings. She should look into that, assuming they have transportation to get somewhere. In the past, they have had one in Boston Common, so maybe they will again (assuming they are in Boston); if not, look for something similar near their town. I live in a huge suburb (250,000 people) and we have one here. If they have a local Chabad, they would probably know of one.

Your daughter sounds like a really good friend. : )

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