J.C.
Hello, I also have a 2 yr old, I actually wash his teeth first and then let him try to do it himself. Sometimes its really hard, but you have to keep on trying and trying. I dont recommend the "finger tooth brush" because it is really soft and it wont clean as well as a toothbrush. Also, if you are afraid that she will swallow the tothpaste, there is a training toothpaste that is safe to swallow. I believe the brand is Oral-B. That paste is the one I use, since my boy swallows it and still doesnt know how to spit it out. Good luck!