Hi J.,
When my daughter was little, she also hated ear drops, or nose syringing, or anything that messed with her face!
I was successful in getting ear drops in her by one of two methods:
1. I would actually drop the ear drop on the edge of the ear canal, where it would warm up as it rolled in. Worked like magic - she didn't apparently like the cold feeling - who would!
2. When she defied that, I waited until she was asleep at nap time and bed time - then i would put a drop in one ear, and come back 30 minutes later, turn her and do the other ear, it worked every time.
See if either of those work for you!