S.S.
Oral surgery is no fun, for sure. I know, because my son has had five between the ages of 10 and 15. (He had a lot more problems than it sounds like your son has.) However, imagine your son going into his teen years without front teeth. That is just asking to be harrassed, in my opinion. I think this is one of those rock and a hard place situations from the mommy perspective. When I find myself there, I try to consider not only how I'll worry, but what is right in the long run.
Best wishes