Friend Issues

Let her know you are there to listen if she needs to talk about her feelings. Otherwise stay out. It's the best for both of you.

It must be an age thing my daughter is going through the same thing with her friends. One minute they like her and next time they dont want nothing to do with her which bothers my daughter. She is going through where they think if you are a friend with one of them you cant be friends with all of them. It bothers her and she ends up coming home from school, cuz her friends make her the outsider.
As far as advice just be there for her when she needs to talk.
Debbie

I would stay out of it and just watch your daughter for any sign of depression.

This is such a hard thing to deal with at any age. I was talking to my 6th grade son about a very similar situation and here was his advice. " Open your self up and invite them over to your house. Be the best friend you can to all of them and maybe they will see that it was unfair to leave you out." I believe that if your daughter kills them with kindness they will be reminded of the reason they have her as a friend. My friend's father truly believes that you have to live your life to the fullest and be the best person that you can be, if you can do that, all the rest of it will eventually fall in place. This is so true. Also a hard lesson to learn when you are so young but if she can grasp this early she will be better off in the future! Good luck!

I raised a step-daughter through these times. And honestly even though you want to step in, don't. It will just put her in a bad position with the other girs, and you don't want them to hang around your daughter because her mom said so. I really honestly know how hard it is, you want to protect her and have her happy all of the time, but this is the things kids have to go through and honestly, it will make her a stronger person and add to who she becomes as an adult.
But be there for her at all times if she needs to talk. Have her invite other girls over that are not with that group and encourage her to make a new circle of friends. If she seems to be getting depressed, and she won't talk to you, I would make an appointment with her guidance counselor (if they have those for that age group) or her teacher and kind of let them know whats going on so they keep on eye out for her. More than one adult caring can't be a bad thing.
Good Luck!

Definitely let her work it out on her own with friends. I got involved one time in a friend situation that my daughter had. All of us parents got involved and it became a situation of your kid v. my kid and who is right and who is wrong. Needless to say, the girls worked it out on their own, but some of the parents still aren't speaking to one another.

My opinion is to stay out of it. #1 - there is nothing quite as "uncool" as having your mom trying to solve your problems with your friends. #2 - let her find new friends. Chances are, if these girls are like this they aren't very good friends anyways and she should definitely find a more loyal group of people to hang with. #3 - girls, unfortunately, don't need a reason to "de-friend" each other at that age. I remember my friends "kicking" friends out of the group because of one stupid reason or another and it usually resolved itself within a few weeks and if it didn't, the "kicked" person usually found a group of friends they meshed with better anyways. Definitely just let her deal with it and encourage her to make more & new friends - even if she does make up with the old ones. You can never have to many friends at that age.

Does she have other friends? How's she behaving otherwise? How's she doing in school? She may very well be fine with it. I remember the exact same thing happening to me at the same age. I moved on, and your daughter probably can also. My 16 year old daughter has been through "friend issues" often. There are always haters. As long as your daughter can find nice girls and boys to hang out with, she'll be fine.

I have always told my children (both girls so I feel all the emotions you're going through) that when girls such as your daughters old friend, do things like this, it's a reflection of them. Maybe she felt threatened by your daughter, maybe she was jealous, maybe she has some 7th grade self esteem issues and being the leader and leaving your daughter out is making her feel better right now. If you help your daughter find some possible reasons behind the actions, it might help her deal with the situation better and be a bit less hurt.

I think the suggestions regarding getting her involved in activities outside of school are wonderful ideas.

Good Luck. I think it happens to them all.

I also say stay out of it and let her work through the feelings on her own. However, be involved in other ways, try to get her to join club or take guitar/dance/gymnastics/swim lessons. Find out what she is interested in and get her involved with it. Your community programs are a great way to do this, inexpensively. She will meet some new kids her age almost instantly, they will have the same interests as her and she will have a different, better fit group of friends. The other thing that I did with my 13 yr old boy was to discuss how he has the power to choose his friends. How do you feel when you are with this person or that person? Do you laugh or are you quiet, and do you like yourself better or worse when you are with them? He now talks to me about it, and this will transfer over to picking a boyfriend. Good conversation to start now. I stress the words pick/choose instead of find. One shows power and the other shows passivity. Just a thought.