R.L.
I would personally go through screenings for this reason. I have two friends who had babies with Down's Syndrome. Friend #1, who was in her 20's, had the screening and knew in advance her baby's condition. Related to advanced ultrasounds, they also knew she had a heart defect that would require special treatment at birth. She and her husband had several months to prepare for their daughter's birth, from finding a pediatric heart specialist, to finding an appropriate hospital to deliver at, establishing a support system, and gaining overall knowledge. I truly believe they had a more positive birth experience and parenting experience as a result. Things were calm, they knew what to expect and how to deal with it, and any grieving over their child not being perfect had been done before she entered the world. Friend #2 did not have the screenings and had a baby with Down's Syndrome as well. They had no idea until after she was born. In addition, she had a serious heart defect they were not prepared for, so while she was recuperating from birth her baby was being rushed across town to a different hospital! It was chaotic, unexpected and devastating, and it took weeks for them to accept and bond with the baby. You have to make the choice that is best for you, but I know what I would choose if it were me. Best of luck.