False Positive...not Sure I Want to Be Pregnant

I have had a false positive many years ago. FYI Dollar Tree Preg tests are just as good as all the others.

No, you're pregnant dear. I'm a pro-life lady so I say if you don't want this baby, please let someone who would LOVE to adopt him/her, adopt!!!
As far as your mom, let her know that you are 27 years old and able to make your own choices. I'm 29 with an 11 year old and a 4 year old.... You can do this!! I was still in high school when I gave birth and 11 years later she's an amazing little 5th grade soccer player who loves animals and has a compassion for kids like you've never seen. I can't imagine a world without her precious spirit!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm really struggling with my answer. I want to stay far away from the abortion issue ...well you didn't really ask anyway. But I also think some tough love is in order.

You're 27. You live with your mom. That's ok - lots of us have been there after life throws a curve ball. What are you doing to regain your independence?

You have a job? Why not?

The past is in the past, and we can't change that now. But the fact that you got pregnant, while living with your mom, is worrisome. According to your questions, you had a pregnancy scare 4-5 months ago. So were you not MORE careful after the scare? Were you not MORE careful knowing you are living with your mom?

But we're here now. So here's my advice. You asked "please help me" - so I'm going to suggest some homework.

Please write out a budget of all expenses. Estimate expenses that you don't have right now. Tape this to your mirror. I suggest this so that you have a realistic number to aim for each month.

Child support - square that away with the father in Texas. Your daughter deserves that money, she needs it.

Job - if you don't have one, get one.

Social Services - call the local social services office. Find out what programs are available to help your daughter and you right now. Also ask what is available for pregnant moms, and what would be available should you decide to expand your family.

After all that is done, you should have a much better idea on what your next step is.

And please keep in mind - none of us pays your bills or lives in your shoes. Including your mom. Whatever the decision, it is yours and yours alone.

I wish you the best. :)

I just read some of your previous questions, do you think it is possible you had implantation bleeding rather than an actual period? Some of the symptoms you have had in the past sound like you could have gotten pregnant prior to this post. I would for sure call your doctor ASAP and get a blood test.

Your mom is just reacting to the situation, I am sure she doesn't mean that. She is just concerned (I hope), and making stupid comments.

Good luck, take care.

Awww, hang in there girl! As others have said, a false positive is very rare unless you are on some specific meds that can cause it. Most likely you are pregnant and it's gonna be ok :) You definitely don't have to have an abortion. Just make your doc's appt and go from there. Relax and take care of yourself, a year from now this won't be nearly so rough and everyone will be telling you how gorgeous your little chunk of love is.

Only way to get a false positive is if you had an HCG trigger shot. Otherwise, you either have the pregnancy hormone in your body (pregnant) or you don't (not pregnant).

Some people will get a light positive and then go on to have a period. THat doesn't mean that they had a false positive, it only means that they had an early miscarriage (a chemical pregnancy). With a dark positive that happened right away - that's not going to be the case.

i remember asking a question about a flaase positive right after i took my first (of many) tests.. everyone told me there cant be a false positive only a fase negative.. my test was positive but the line was very faint.. the best advice i got was to go buy a digital test.. if u want to be totally sure thats the way to go-no colors, no lines just pregnant or not pregnant , i took like 3 tests n 2 digital ones before i was finally out of my denial .. im 23 years old and expecting in july and my fiance and i went from living with his parents and saving to buy an apartment in vermont to living with mine in new jersey once work ran out for him in vt .. everyone left the decision completely up to us... we knew that financially and emotionally the thing to do woulve been to get an abortion but neither of us could do that.. when we first told everyone they were all a little bit shocked but now everyones so excited its awesome.. my best advice.. dont make a decision based on how someone else feels.. if you were to have an abortion because its what your mother wants and not what you want i can guarantee u your relationship will never be the same.. your 27, even though u live with her she has no say in the matter .. theres a difference between you saying u dont want a baby and your not sure.. think about it

Actually there can be false positives BUT and I mean a huge BUT is that happens with those taking fertility drugs during infertility treatments. I highly doubt you are taking those so you are pregnant. This is something you have to accept and the sooner the better. When sexually active with or without birth control methods one has to understand there is always a risk of pregnancy.
You need to get the potential father involved and find out what you two both want. It doesn't matter what your mother wants but what you and he wants.

Yeah I've never heard of a false positive either. Not in a harsh way but I'm sure if you were having unprotected sex you knew this was a possibility??

Don't let your mom pressure you into having an abortion, you will resent her later. Besides, your a grown woman and I'm assuming this isn't your first child? Why would she throw a huge fit? What about the father can he help/support you in some way?

The test turning pink right away only means the pregnancy hormones are strong already in your system. Maybe it's twins? Lol ok maybe not but either way please don't get an abortion.
Hope everything works out for you.

Deep breathes.... you more than likely pregant. You have every right to be scared - but let this "sink" in. You just found out. Don't make any quick decisions without really thinking this through. I don't know what your home/personal life is like, but you're adult. Please don't let your mom have the final say in this MAJOR decision. Give this a few weeks to think about, talk about with a close friend or someone you can really have a discussion with (regarding pros and cons) and not your mom who is clearly only focused on terminating the pregancy. Whatever you decide, be 100% confindent about. You'll be in my thoughts. Best wishes :)

You CAN NOT have a false positive, the hormones that make the test say positive ONLY appear in your body when preggers - do what you have to do for yourself, do not allow any one to make the choice for you.

Bethany,

If I were in your situation, I would speak to a pregnancy counselor. I personally have never had a false positive pregnancy test.

I'm not going to judge your situation, but will share one from my own life. When one of my sisters was your age, with one child already about five, she became pregnant again... not by choice. She decided to go the adoption route and it has been a *very* good and healthy choice for everyone involved. Pregnancy counselors can help you with explaining it to your daughter and other family members. My sister told her son that she was 'doing another family a favor and growing a baby for them because they couldn't'. It's been an open adoption and a good experience, I believe.

Find someone who can give you some advice and support in person. Adoption is a very loving and mature option. For right now, however, you also need to find out more about the pregnancy, if it is viable (so many end in miscarriage) and then talk to someone who would help you explore your options realistically.

I cried for over an hour when I found out I was pregnant with my DS because of the same feelings but despite the fact my little ones are 18 months apart I am grateful that I have them. I am not going to delude you and say its peaches and cream but everyday as they get older it gets easier. You are going through a lot right now, separating from your babies father, moving in with your mother. Stability, finances ect all come into play when you add to your family. If you are pregnant evaluate all your options before making a harsh choice but don’t let your mother dictate it for you.

@ Dad on purpose - actually if she get social services to help pay for doctor bills, formula, food etc - we are paying her bills. Sorry Bethany but it's true.

I do agree with Dad on purpose that you need to get yourself together. Do you really want an abortion? Do you want to try and raise your baby? If so then you need a job, childcare set up, money for food etc. You will also want to collect child support from the dad.

False negatives can happen with a test but usually not false positives. It's still early to have symptoms.

You could have had your first surprise at 21 and living on your own...I know for you this seams tough but we all go through tough stages in our life and you just have to push through it. If you want the baby and your mom doesn't then maybe you need to move out, you wouldn't want to live with someone who has a negative insight on the situation. You are no longer young, and you are no longer a "child" you are a grown adult and now have been faced with a very important and very adult decision.

I wish you the best. I am a 27 year old mother of 3 wonderful children. First and last I must admit were "surprises" but they are a wonderful gift from God and I am so happy I have them.

You are not a minor. You do not HAVE to do what mommy tells you to. It is YOUR decision to make. It takes a lot of introspection. Do you want this child? Can you raise it? Will you be getting any kind of support from the father? Would you be willing to give it up for adoption?
The time to think about being or not being pregnant is before you have sex. At your age you should know that unprotected sex can lead to pregnancy/and or std. Worrying after the fact solves nothing.

I had a false positive test. I never knew it was possible. Mine was on the digital kind, too, so it clearly said, "Pregnant." It was very embarrassing to be in the ER thinking I was having a miscarriage when it was my period. The ER staff just said, "Well, someone has to be the 1% in the 99% accuracy rate." Yay for me. We were trying to have a second child, so it was a huge disappointment.

The only way to know for sure is through a test at the doctor's office. After my experience, I don't trust the OTC tests one bit.

Get in with a doctor and then figure out what makes the most sense in your situation if you are pregnant. Everyone will have an opinion on this, but it's your body and you decide.