Facebook - Are Your Kids on Your Profile Picture?

My DD's pic is my profile pic. (It's the one I use on this site too, since I sign on through FB. lol)

We don't post any pictures of our kids on FB. And I've asked other family members not to post pictures with my children in them. The internet is a very scary place. I've had a lot of friends' FB accounts hacked into. Whoever hacked in then had access to all their family photos. No thank you!

American children have been showing up on billboard overseas from FB. Here is one example:
http://www.extraordinarymommy.com/are-you-kidding-me/stol...

I don't. Everthing is set on private except my name and profile pic. When I accept you as a friend you can view a whole album of my daughter. If your my friend you will also see the pics I constantly upload on the news feed.
The reason I do this is because it's MY profile, not my child's. If someone I don't know is searching me, they never see my daughter, only me.
Just my personal preference.

I think if you went at it in a nice respectful way, there is nothing wrong with asking her not to have your daughter's picture as her profile pic...."Hey, Suzie Q....that really is an adorable pic of all the kids but could you please not use it as your profile pic? It kinda wierds me out knowing any old wierdo and stranger could be looking at my daughter"?...all she can say is No...but hopefully she won't.

~I do not ever use my kids as my profile pic...because it does weird me out that any old werido or stranger could be starring at them, at any time.

My kids are generally always my fb pic. But they are MY kids...I don't even add pics to albums of them that have other children (from preschool, church, etc) unless I ask every parent first. Of course every pic and my profile is set on the highest security. So, I think it is entirely appropriate to speak with her about it and it sounds like you already keep in mind that she is your daughter's parent too...good luck!

I have our family picture as my profile picture, but there are times when my sisters have my son's picture as theirs (his birthday or one of all the "kids" together) and honestly it doesn't bother me.

Ask yourself what you are really reacting to here... the fact that the picture is on FB or the fact that you didn't expect to see the kids all together and portrayed as "hers" or the fact that she didn't ask you first? All three are legit reasons to be a little suprised, but probably not worth a confrontation.

Pedophiles scan FB, but they also scan grocery stores, playgrounds, parking lots, schools, and any place that images of children may be available. Is your child's picture anywhere on her school's website? You probably signed that waiver without thinking twice.

Mention it, but don't make an issue.

Yes, I often have them in my profile picture. However, I do restrict who can view all of my other photos. I think it's awesome that she's including your kids in the photo -- shows that they're cared enough by her that she wants people to know she's a part of their lives.

my daughter and i are currently my profile picture. My fiance's ex currently has their son as her profile picture. I really do not see anything wrong with it as long as its not a sexually posed picture. i have no problem having her picture on my profile, but i would by no means let her have her own account anytime in the next 10 years (she is currently only two).

I think that as long as an adult is showing their kids photos, it's fine. The pedophiles come out when young girls show pictures of themselves.

I think it's fine for her to have it up there. Pick your battles. If you feel that strongly, then ask her politely to remove it.

I see her point in including your daughter and if you think she is being genuine, then let it go!

My son is constantly in my profile picture. Maybe I am too laid back, but I love showing him off! :)

Not out of the question to ask, she is your daughter. As a photographer, I am very careful about putting a Childs picture on line. If I should use an image of a child, I have written permission and only use that child. So if there are other children in the image, it is not used.

As well, I always watermark the photo and reduce the size, so it will be difficult to pull the image off and reuse it, although anything is possible.

Yes, my profile photo includes me and my daughter together on the polar express. It is not a close up.

If you are worried about pedifiles due to a Childs image on an adults page, wouldnt they just end up talking to her adult step mother?

I wouldn't worry about it. The odds that a pedophile is looking at the page is slim. The odds that a pedophile is looking at the page, will see your daughters and decide to find out more about them is even slimmer.

I think it's reasonable to ask that your daughters not be connected to any personal information, but hopefully she has her privacy settings set in such a way that people can't see much anyway.

I understand your hesitation, but, and I'm not sure that this is going to make you feel better, your daughter is in much more danger every time you put her in the car. I wouldn't pick this battle.

Yes, I do. Anyone can go out there and take a picture of my kids and me not know it anyway. I don't know why people freak out so much about pictures being on the internet. I mean really - what are they going to do with a picture? You can be out in public and someone can be snapping away and taking tons of pictures of you without you knowing it.
I don't know - I am not bothered by it. I make my profile and all my pictures private, but I will once in a while put pix of my kids on there. It really doesn't bother me.

Hi,

Occasionally I put my kids as my FB photo. I have heard the same thing you did about bad people "trolling" the FB accounts. I have all my photos (and other personal stuff) blocked for the outside world. Only my friends can see it. I NEVER put other peoples children's photos on FB either. Since you are on good speaking terms with your ex's spouse, I would mention to her that you are nervous about your daughter's photo being on her page. I would also ask her if she has her account blocked so just friends can view. I know if it was me, I would ask to have her photo removed.

Yes it would be rude. As long as her profile is private I wouldnt worry about it.

Yep - my FB is very private and people have trouble finding it at all. You have to be my friend to see anything at all, so I'm find with it. And I don't have anyone I don't personally know on my FB. My kids pictures can be used for school, church, the library, etc....so they are out there on things.

Get the childrens' pics off Facebook. No reason to be respecful. It's a done deal.
Good luck.

I must be totally oblivious to this because I am not quite sure what any pedophile would or could do with a little PICTURE of anyone. There could be some strange man looking at my picture and pleasing himself....as long as I don't know about it, I can't control it and I would never even think about it. Is that wrong??? I just want to get feedback on dangers maybe that I am not aware of.
Thanks

Lol ~ you are so sweet. I'm a step mom and I would not be offended if you asked me, especially since you all get along. We always got along too. You aren't being rude. You aren't asking her to not post pictures of them in general... just not her profile. I totally agree with you. I do have pictures from time to time of my kids as my profile picture, but i try not to leave them up long ~ only if the "day" is about them directly. Like when my daughter learned a new sign language sign yesterday - I put her little face up. BUT You have to protect your kids.
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I have my kids photo as my facebook profile picture also, and I am VERY careful about websites getting pictures of my kids on the internet, etc. Setting her facebook page to private is not a cureall for the photo issue, as there are other measures that she needs to take, (and may have already done his on her own), to ensure that her photos are not "stolen" from the site and used for other purposes. One of them is in the settings at the top of each persons page, you can click on it and it goes to applications. You need to UNCLICK the box that states it is ok to share photos with other sources and searches online. Yes, I said UNcheck it. Really, if your already set to private, you should have to click that box for it to be allowed, but it is not that way. She needs to make sure that any and all pictures that she puts up are for "friends only" as well. That way, her info, pictures, etc will actually be private, and if you were to go to google and type in her name you would not see her photo. You can actually check it yourself without hurting anyone's feelings, just go to google images on any computer, type in her name and if she has not done the right thing as far as her security with Facebook, you will see the profile photo and her facebook page info right there. Then you can discuss it with her in a rational way, and let her know how worried you are about the whole thing. If it doesn't show up, then you have no worries, and she is as diligent as you are about the safety of your child as well as her own. Hooray! I wish you the best because in this computer and high tech world, almost ANYTHING is possible. You are NOT being overprotective!! :)

I personally will not have pictures of my kids on the internet and not on my facebook page. I found out that when one of your friends is friends with someone else and they tag a photo, I was able to download it on my computer. Well this means that if I have a photo of one my children and one of my friends tag it, then one of their friends can down load it, etc. I am concerned about pedophiles as well, so I have this as a reason for my decisions. I had a friend post pictures of my kids and I asked nicely for her to removed them, and she did so without a problem. I think if you are upfront and honest and get along with her that well, it hopefully won't be a problem. Good Luck.

Yes, I have my son in my profile picture.. My facebook page is totally blocked where you can ONLY see the picture and my name, nothing else!

I, personally, do not include my daughter in my profile picture because it makes me uncomfortable. So I completely understand where you are coming from. If you have a good relationship with this woman, just explain to her where you are coming from. I don't see how she could possibly be upset if you discuss it with her in a non-confrontational way and explain why you have an issue with it.

You can tell her politely that you're really not comfortable with a picture of your minor child on her page, and would appreciate it if she would take it down.

I think your concerns are valid. Whenever I post pictures of my son with any friends I ask the parents if they are okay with me doing that. I don’t want anyone getting mad at me because I didn’t respect their boundaries. Just because I am okay with it does not mean they are.

First thing I would ask her is: is your site private or public? If private, that makes a huge difference as random strangers won’t be able to troll her site. But, if that still makes you uncomfortable then I would just ask her to change her picture. Since you have a good relationship with her, this should not be an issue. She may think you are being overprotective but who cares. In this day, with social media being what it is you can’t be too careful.

I believe that you answered your own question. I don't have any pictures of my children on FB. I was going to ask my nephew to remove a picture of him and my 3 year old son but you couldn't tell it was my son. You couldn't see his face as he was throwing him up in the air in a pool when we were on vacation.
I will say this much; I have a friend who posted a picture of her newborn baby boy naked as can be with everything hanging out. I thought to myself, how stupid can she be. I know that they are ecstatic after having two girls to show off their boy; (that's exactly what they were doing). Hey look at us, we have a boy now. Like know one ever had a baby boy before. This picture was as big as can be. I'm surprised that no one complained. Any how, people are stupid and don't think of the reality of the situation. No one thinks about the future.

If you don't want your child's pic on FB, then tell her so. I will say this that my friend has pics of my son from one her family's parties on FB and I didn't ask her to take them off. They were on her site and no one's going to know unless your a friend who he is.

You are right. A friend of mine told me on the news that a predator on needs a name and date of your child and you for that matter. We don't know all our friends friends and who they are behind closed doors.

I only use FB to get a hold of people. Sometimes it's the only way. People email you through FB rather than regular email. It's crazy. I don't want the world knowing every thing that I do every minute of the day.

Well if you have a good relationship with her and feel that strongly about it you should be able to approach it as she were a friend or someone that you could talk to and would understand where you came from. As far as Facebook goes...no comment other then more then just pedofiles see you and your children.

As long as it is not an innappropriate picture of her and her setting are that only "friends" can see her other pics, I would not worry about it.