Dear V.,
You are so lucky to have been diagnosed and your family and friends are so lucky that you plan to take your medicine. I have had two bi-polar inlaws, and it was very, very difficult to have a good relationship with them. You know, when it gets down to it, "we" are the most important thing that 'we' have. Each of us can make life comfortable or difficult for our families. So it looks to me like you have a good start toward that goal. I am so happy for you, and you will feel better and have a lot more comfortable and enjoyable life with you new medicine. It must be taken from now on. Do not let yourself think that you are 'cured' because you feel so much better. Let that be an important warning to you, that when you have thoughts of not needing the medicine anymore that you continue to take it. Yes, it takes a while for it to kick in, but it will.
Now, about your daughter, love her enough to let her have her own life. Think about when your mother or father tried to make you do things that you didn't want to do, like the clothes you wore or the music lessons or so sports, you know what I mean.
You will have to learn to curb your need to control the world around you, it will hurt to let your daughter go, but you can take it. No, I will not say that you have to get over it. Just endure it for her sake and for your love for her.
My son died suddenly almost three years ago - he was 47 and an elegant person. I hurt every single day, and people tell me that I will get over it, but I don't want to. I love him so much that I want to keep him in my mind and heart and in my life. So I'm not telling you to do anything that I haven't had to do. Hurt and love.
I say that I am so lucky to have had him that it is an honor to think of him and if I have to hurt, then so be it. Also, I have started doing things that I know that he would want me to do. I am volunteering at the local Salvation Army office one afternoon a week because he loved people so much, and had so much compassion for them. I found out after his memorial service how many people that he had helped with advice and money. And he had never told us about it. He just quietly did it, helped make a lot of people's lives better.
Go and enjoy and take your medicine. C. N.