Ed

He could have ED, or he might have trouble being attracted to woman. I almost hate to throw this out there, but it's not uncommon. I think the only reason a man needs to tell you that about a former girlfriend, is to over-compensate. I doubt very much, that he was actually "the best she's ever had." With that said, ED is a very real dysfunction. If he in fact has ED, he needs to speak with a Dr., to analyze the medical/psychological reasons behind this. There might be treatments, that can help him.

I'm in agreement to find another man...think about it honey, he's not with the woman who said he's the best she's ever had, it lasted a month and half... hummmmm......

time for a new boyfriend :(

Get a new man! Not being harsh, just realistic. You are three months in w/o any children, cut your losses and find someone worthy of you. He says it's not you, but by comparing you negatively to his old G., he is doing just that while also insulting you and breaking you down. You don't deserve to be treated this way.

EEEWWWW-AH! What kind of guy tells you his ex girlfriend says he's the best she ever had?!

I agree with everyone else, move on!

...okay... so you have been seeing him for 3 months?

Next, does he initiate sex? Or you?
Or is it mutual?
Have you even had intimate relations with him?
How is your relationship with him, OVERALL?????
Is it normal/good/nice etc.? Or full of problem and issues and backstories??
Is he over his ex girlfriend???

How is his feelings about you? How are you together???
Is HE bothered by his non-arousal???

Next, it was HIM... that told you that his ex-girlfriend said he was the best she ever had. So.. you do NOT know, if that is 'fact.'
Maybe, he had that problem with her too.
Men... are afraid to admit to intimacy problems....
So... that may or not be true, that his last girlfriend had a great sex life with him.

So... just concentrate on the both of you. If that is possible.
Or ditch him... if you are both just overall not compatible...
or work on it... try different things.
The issue... is probably him... not you.
He may just have had a 'history' of arousal problems... which you do not know about... because you have only been with him for 3 months. That is not long.

And, his previous girlfriend and he, only broke up 1.5 months before he met you.

Maybe too much, too soon.
Maybe he doesn't even know how he feels.
Maybe it is just not a match
Maybe he has arousal issues... that is his alone.... or needs to see a Doctor for.

Regardless... hopefully he is not making this 'your' fault.... as men naturally are real embarrassed about intimacy issues...

I would.... really reconsider... your relationship with him.
He sounds... to have issues.
Not just with you.

i had a problem similar with my boyfriend. only he has always had this problem. how long was he with the ex? maybe he has more of a fear of commitment? it can be expressed that way sometimes. i would believe him if he says its not you. there could be some ohter major things going on with him. i don't know how old you are, but ED can strike quickly as he ages...

Who tells you that his prior says he's the best she's had, her? Or him? There's a big difference...

He obviously has issues... performance related anxiety? Never had a man with that problem, not sure it really exists... men seem to have the opposite problem most of the time, a little too eager for sex...

Possible erectile problems that he's not admitting to or addressing?

I don't know, but I'd recommend a heart to heart about whether he's having some kind of medical attention worthy problem, or if there's some underlying issue he's not being honest about. If you would like to have this man in your life, I'd say that conversation has to happen, and hopefully you can get to the bottom of the issue. If you can't get to the bottom of it, may be time to move on? I'm not saying to roll if he's having a legitimate medical problem, but he certainly needs to be honest with you and try to get some help, if that's the case.

***EDITED***
Ok, so with him saying that his prior girlfriend said he was the best, that's definitely suspect. A) Why on earth would he tell you this? Unless he was over-compensating for something... B) Why would he tell you this? Sorry, I know, I already said that... it just makes it all the more suspicious. I sincerely doubt his previous GF said that... so not only does he have a problem, he's most probably lying too. If I were you, I'd really give this man and this relationship some thought...

why/how do you know this???
"The woman he was seeing a month and a half prior to me said he was the best she ever had."

Ok....he told you this?? ewwwww....that's not something a girl needs to hear from her new boyfriend (esp. one that is having issues with arousal). I think you need to move on and find someone who is worth your time and energy.

Is he diabetic? Sometimes diabetes can affect circulation. He should have a complete physical.

But if it were me, I wouldn't waste my time with the guy.

What a jerk. Who would tell a new girlfriend that!? Sounds like he's trying to make you feel that it's your "fault" he can't get things going. Move on. Sorry to be so blunt but, what a jerk!

Who care what it is? Drop him and go find the one who will drool over you. Three months is not a very long investment :)

Yeah...he doesn't seem to offer much and he's got the nerve to tell you that he rocked the other lady's world. I think he's just doing damage control. Could he be gay?

Could it be stress? Maybe he should get a physical to rule out anything medical?

I doubt it is you. I agree that he might be gay and therefore no woman could meet his desires. Move on.

Why would you continue to see someone like this? He sounds like a total dweeb.