I love the fact that I have two boys close in age! The younger one wears almost all of his brother's old clothes! They were born in different seasons though, so a few things don't work, and I usually see some cute stuff that I want to buy the younger one, but it's been a wonderful cost-saving blessing -especially with basics like jeans, coats, pajamas, casual shirts, etc. I don't do many hand-me-down shoes. I think the kids need their own shoes because they "wear" differently. Most of my oldest's shoes are trashed anyway by the time he outgrows them, but there are a few pairs who have made it to the youngest. Right now he's enjoying these awesome light-up firetruck shoes his oldest brother didn't get to wear for very long.
As far as from others -my friends are LUCKING OUT! I didn't have friends with boys anywhere close to mine when I had my children. However, since having them, my best friend has had a boy who is 1.5 years behind my youngest, and another good friend who lives across the street just had a boy a year ago and then another best friend had a little boy this summer -so they're passing them along. We've decided to write the companies that make the items that survive 5 boys in the end!
Obviously I won't be saving any of my clothes for my boys (although the youngest has quite an affinity for my heels and lipstick -so you never know;-)
There are a few items we may save of my husband's -leather bomber, old concert t-shirts (I actually may save a few of mine since they're unisex to see if my boys want them later) -that type of thing.