Do Children Always Have an Impact on Your Relationship?

You think your husband is depressed because you make more money then him...Give your husband a little bit more credit then that. Most men do not open up about their feelings. Obviously you new him for awhile because you have a 5 year old child with him. People think that once they marry their partner that somehow they will suddenly change and be the people they want them to be.....Except your husband for him and fiqure how to make yourself change so you won't blame him for your sometimes unhappiness in your marriage. If he is talking about having another baby then it looks to me that he is happy with his marriage with you. Look at all the possitive signs in him and not the negative ones. I am sure that he has some issues as we all do but don't analyze them to closely. Enjoy your times together and don't force him to talk. He will open up in his own time. Just be a loving wife and mom and things will work out themselves....You can talk to him when all the kids are in bed but don't back him into a corner. Casualty bring up issues that bother you that you can both work out. Good luck and God Speed....

men arent as open as us women, thats probably why they dont have a daddysource to chat and vent.. :) talk to him, but dont pester him. wait until kids are in bed and you two are "relaxed" (you never fully are with kids around) and talk. maybe you should wait until he gets with the ppd to have another baby. that will take a little stress off of the two of you. is he taking meds for depression? because that may have a negative impact on his psych eval for the ppd. just be a loving and supportive wife. also, having to switch jobs, and training for ppd is hard on him. that could be why he is not as open. he just has alot on his plate right now. sorry i wasnt much help, but just have faith.

You really can't do anything to make him open up to you, but be sure to let him know you are willing to listen if he needs it and when he feels like he is ready to talk he will. I hope everything works out well and wish you the best.

Hi E.,
Oh yeah, they do! Sometimes it comes from wanting to do SOOO much for your children and family, and most people feel like they can never do enough...sometimes feeling inadequate. I don't know anyone who hasn't felt like you describe. Men handle things differently than we do. I would encourage him to open up, but also let him do so in his own time. My husband and I went through this, and I would just remind him that I am here to listen. Eventually, he started talking. Turns out that he was afraid of failure and embarrassed to tell me so. He just had to get past feeling inadequate. Just like we moms need to hear nice things from the dads, they need to hear it from us too. Casually compliment him or thank him for whatever reason. I agree, to, with the other two responses that you should probably wait until the kids are down to try and talk. Try to relax together. Tell him you know that something seems to be bothering him and that you are there to listen whenever he wants to talk, but don't force him. You may force an argument. You may also want to wait on having a baby until the other transitions are settled so that there is less stress all at once.
I hope this helps. Good luck
Jenn

In the words of my Father money does play a big part in a mans self esteem. Especially when there are kids. I think you could be right about him feeling insecure that you are making more money than him. He is most likely wanting to do everything for his family and feeling pressurred by himself to do more. Men a lot of the times don't like to talk about what is going on in their heads so I would suggest just doing little things to let him know how much you appreciate him. Send him sweet emails or text messages just to tell him you love him or get the kids involved and have a special time of the day where you make pictures and drawings for Dad. Even maybe take the camcorder and ask the kids to say to the camera all the things they love about Daddy. Then just leave them in a place where he can find them when no one is around. I think that if you go about it in a way that's not let's talk about your feelings you'll get a better responce from him. Maybe you could put the kids to bed early and make him his favorite dinner and rent his favorite movie. My fiance doesn't like to talk about what he's feeling but he loves when I do little things to let him know how appreciated he is. For instance I took a onsie and painted on it I love my Daddy and then put my sons handprint on it and pinned it up on his wall in his office. Try to be creative and not try to get him to talk. If he wants to talk he'll come around.