"Didnt Make It" Potty accidents...frustrating!

This is completely normal.. Children that train early, can have times that accidents begin to happen.. They are bored with the whole potty thing.

For a while you may have to remind her, that when she feels like she needs to go, do not wait, until it is too late. she needs to stop playing and go right away because she doe not want to have accidents.

I used to hold it forever because I just wanted to keep on playing.. I felt like whilegoing to the potty, I was missing out on something.

Set the timer again.

This typically happens at 3-4 years old.
It is common.
The child is not being "naughty."
They just do not have astute nor accurate predictions... about their body/bladder/how long they can hold it.

ALL of my daughter's Teachers, from Preschool to Kindergarten to 1st Grade... ALL unanimously said, that kids these ages have accidents. No biggie and they do NOT make a big deal of it. Therefore, in these grade levels, the parents are asked to bring in extra clothing for their child, to be kept in school. And in fact, at my kids' school, even the Health Room has extra clothing for the kids, who may have accidents. Clean clothing.

There is no point in punishing for this.

My daughter when she was that age, had that happen too. It was her age and being "busy" but also, that is when we had a 2nd child. So there was also "stress" for her, as well. You gotta remember, that a kid this age is not fully developed yet, emotionally, either. My daughter had been potty trained since she was 2 years old...but at 3.5 years old, she started to have accidents... or holding it too long etc.
They just do not "estimate" very well yet... about how long they can hold it.

Kids have accidents. It is childhood.
No matter how long the child was toilet trained, they have accidents. And then there is night-time dryness, which is a whole other different timeline. Night time dryness, does not occur until even 7 years old. Because the body is still developing and maturing. Even at 7 years old, my daughter had accidents, at night. My son is 5 and he still has accidents and is wet at night and needs night diapers.
All, normal.

I think at this age they think they have it all figured out and don't want to stop what they're doing and misjudge timewise. And since she's doing great at school/daycare you need to work on it at home.

Go back to basics and set a timer to have her go every so many minutes, but put the responsibility on her to do it when she hears it. If she has accidents stay calm but have her rinse her undies and bottom clothing out in the sink and scrub with some Zote (pink bar soap), and then place them in the dirty laundry, so she realizes it isn't just an "Ooops," it's going to take time away from her doing what she likes.

Teaching her to be responsible for her actions (or lack of them) will eventually teach her she really wants to go when she needs to and not wait.

This often happens at this age, 3 or 4, then again when they are 5, 6, or even 7. Their brain is so busy absorbing every detail it can that potty training goes on the back burner. They can also have a growth spurt in their kidneys but not in their bladder yet. It is pretty common in child care to see this then again in Kindergarten or first grade.

They ALL do this. Five yr olds who were trained at two do this. Luckily she is old enough to change her own panties and throw the wet ones in the laundry. Sometimes I get busy and put off going to the bathroom-but my muscles are stronger than hers. Would punishment help you to change your feminine protection more often so you never have an accident?

Don't punish her. This is normal. They get busy playing or doing other things and wait until it is too late. You might give her some reminders of "do you need to go potty?" a bit more frequently, but I wouldn't make her stop playing to go try. I'd just plant the seed in her mind about whether she needed to go and to do it a little earlier.

I would check with her daycare teacher to see if this is happening there as well or if it just when she is with you. If it is happening just with you, I would suggest that you make time for her to go, like every xx number of minutes/hours to give her a schedule. Sometimes, kids really get involved in what they are doing and just hold it too long. My son loved Barney and used to have accidents, but only when he was watching his Barney shows/videos, so I had to make him go on commercials or pause the videotape after a certain amount of time. If this is happening at daycare as well, maybe you and the daycare teacher can work together to come up with a solution that you can both work towards together. Hope this helps!

Hi I agree with previous posts about it being normal behaviour and to try and not punish and also add that having a new sibling was a big issue for my son and he regressed and started having frequent accidents around the time my daughter started sitting up and eating solids and again when she walked. My mother in law is an early childhood educator and gave me some good advice: the baby's milestones are the toddlers throwing stones and I have definitely noticed this. Once the excitement was over the baby walking, talking etc the accidents and the baby talk stopped.

I think this is normal and I don't think you should punish her. She is still really young and b/c of her age her bladder is still small, so she cannot hold it for too long. I understand its frustrating, but just try to not get upset and when she does it tell her ok, change your clothes, try to make it to the potty next time. If it continues to be a problem you should talk to the ped in case there is any kind of underlying med condition. If there is definately no med issues maybe try a reward chart, like if she goes for a whole day or week without accidents she gets a prize/reward.

I say set a timer. I don't at home, but we are getting ready to take some vacations to amusement parks and beaches and I will go back to the timer. Not necessarily for her, but for me to, to gently remind her to at least try. I don't count "accidents" if she has them in the bathroom. It shows me that she is really trying and just get stuck. If she has an accident anywhere else, I tell her that if she is having trouble going to the bathroom while she is playing, I will take the toy away. It worked for us. She hasn't had an accident in 4 weeks, minus the one accident she had trying to get her wet bathing suit off. She peed on her stool right next to the potty.

Yup. Pretty typical. The kiddos get so caught up in what they are doing they forget. No punishment, you just need to be the one reminding them to go. It is the tail-end responsibility of the parent in pottytraining. You are almost done!

Find out what works for your kid. I started off just telling her we'd try again. One really bad day we went through ALL her underpants and I put her in a pull up. She was not happy. I went back to some basics and we always check for "sneaky pee" or we race to the potty and see if we win (or the pee does). DD has a habit of doing one more thing instead of going straight to the bathroom.

If I think that DD is doing it on purpose (example - pulls the potty into another room and ends up peeing in front of it) then she does time out. I also remind her that it takes her much longer to be cleaned up after an accident than it would if she just went - so her own actions choose how long she doesn't get to play.

Be sure it's not happening at school/daycare and then when at home ask her ever so often if she needs to go and tell her to go 'try' at least. If enough time has gone by just say it's time to go to the bathroom and see that she pulls herself away from playing to go. She just needs reminders again but I think this should be enough as long as you follow through on it.