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Maybe getting a stool to set beside her crib so you can step up and not have to "drop" her into bed. You might try warming a towel in the dryer and putting it in place while you are rocking her and then removing it as you lay her down. My brother and SIL used a hot water bottle for this purpose and removed it of course before leaving baby alone. No Cry Sleep Solution is a decent book with some good ideas, I also like www.askdrsears.com for ideas about sleep. I always tried to rock my kids until their arms and legs were completely limp before transferring them because then you know they are in deep sleep. Best wishes.