Hi. I have a 3-month-old baby who for the most part is a happy baby. He does get pretty gassy and sometimes feedings can last awhile and be a little complicated. We went to my husbands aunts house today and he was fine at first but than when everyone came around him he lost it. He started crying and wouldn't stop no matter what we did. He was hungry but wouldn't eat and was crying so hard. He was so gassy and kept on burping but that didn't help. I think he got overstimulated --- first baby born in the family so everyone wants to hold him, etc. Has anyone experienced this and what did you do? This is the second time this has happened when we went to my husbands aunts house. The holidays are coming and I would like our son to be around our family but he is miserable. Thanks!!
Thanks for everyones response. I know my son needs to get used to everyone but I feel like I am being rude saying anything to anyone (this is my husbands family so I feel he needs to tell everyone to back off that it isn't my place). We have our son on Enfamil Nutramigen (he was nursed for two and a half months until I went back to work) and have been giving him the mylicon gas drops. Like some of you said, once the crying gets started it is nearly impossible to stop until we leave and he is in the comfort of his home. My mother-in-law tends to not want to give me him and will avoid the rooms I am in. Yesterday, I finally asked to have him but it was already too late. I am so glad to know that my son is not the only one who has done this. I was starting to wonder if something was wrong. Thanks again.
I agree with everyone on the overstimuliation. Try Mylicon for the gas tho. It workes wonders and is ok for babies od all ages. It breaks Down the gas bubbles and they fart up a storm!
My daughter was like that. Overstimulation does happen and that could have been it, however, if he has colic you could try Mylicon Drops. It's non medicated, so it's great. My daughter wouldn't burp well for the first few months of life. If you are having a hard time burping him which will contribute to the uncomfortableness of colic then you could try the drops and then usually burping gets a bit better. I noticed they worked wonders for both of my children. As he gets older he will out grow it. That was a big question for me when I asked my pedi. He told me that most parents who have babies with colic start seeing a difference around 3 months on. It was true in my case, but I'm sure not in all. Good Luck and I hope it gets better.
M.,
It sounds like you have a couple of things happening here- overstimulation being the first problem. My DD was the same way. She did not like to be fussed over and handled by all the family members- she screamed at my sister's wedding until I just held her through the ceremony (I was IN the wedding, so so was she!). Respect your child's need for comfort from you, and his need for quiet time. I wear Maia in a sling a lot, which gives her the comfort she needs, and it has a "tail" that I can put over her when she wants to nurse and gives her a little calming space close to me. I've also had to just leave the room with her or go outside to give her some quiet time. Try to take frequent breaks before he gets too much- it's nearly impossible to soothe a baby that's completely lost it already. And while I'm wearing Maia, people are less likely to ask to hold her because it looks harder to hand her over. I would also explain to your family, and anyone who asks, that he needs time to get to know someone before he is comfortable being held by them. He's a person, and too many people forget that babies have personalities like we do, and some prefer not to be passed around the table.
As for the gas- the more a baby cries, the more air they swallow, the gassier they get, the more they cry. It's a vicious cycle! Your best defense is watching his cues to try to head off the big cry, and take breaks from the stimulation. A quiet bedroom where nobody else is, with the door shut, is a great place for both of you to unwind.
Good luck!
Hi
Overstimulation , atleast with my little one was easy to correct. I too have the same problem with everyone wanting to hold the baby, and be near the baby. (Maybe once a week if that do we get together with all of the family so our daughter is not used to being around so many so quick or for so long. I have had to on several occassions take my daughter away from whoever was holding her and leave the room. Once in a quiet place she would calm right down. I would utilize that time to try and burp her since all the crying causes too much air being sucked in, therefore, she gets gassy. If I'm lucky I'll get a nice big burp out of her and then if she's hungry I'll feed her in the quiet place as well. Mylicon truly is a godsend for the gassiness. (Matter of fact I need to run out and buy more.)
Good luck, and keep me posted. (Our babies are about the same age, mine is 3 1/2 months old.)
Are you breast feeding or bottle feeding? My son had a problem with being gassy and taking forever to eat because he was on formula that didn't agree with him. Ask your doctor about it if he is on formula . . . . and if he isn't maybe it is something you are eating that is causing this problem. Good luck with the holidays and you know if he gets like that then just let everyone know that you and your husband will be the only ones holding the baby until he is comfortable around everyone . . . not fair to have him feel that way and not be able to express him self.
Hi M., Sounds like your getting some good advice so far. My son was so full of gas on Enfamil, so his Pedi switched him to Soy and it was no problem after that. Also if he is comfortable on his back try massaging his abdomen in a gentle clockwise fashion. If he lies on his side or belly same thing with rubbing in a gentle circles, clockwise on his backside, to encourage the digestion. We do the same w/Adults who are constipated when they get a massage. Just not too litely that it's an annoying tickle. The power of touch is so amazingly soothing. I've tought new moms how to massage their babies. I am so lucky... It is joyful (Massage work) Remember that you need rest as well. It's perfectly o.k. to lie down when your child goes to nap, to recharge your own batteries. The dishes and whatever can wait. You'll be no good to him or anyone if your burning the candle at both ends. My best wishes, D. EFT4Me
My son used to get very very gassy all the time to the point where he was in a lot of pain so the Pedi. has us try soy formula and not only did his gas go almost completely away but so did his spitting up!
If you are BFeeding then it could be something you are eating
also try Gas Drops, or Gripe water, and some poeple say to try a 1/2 a Teaspoon of Dark Kayro syurp added to a 4oz bottle or bigger
He could very well have a bit of colic and if you talk with his Pedi i bet he/she will have some ideas
as for him crying in groups of people i would say that he is probly getting overstimulated. dont feel bad saying that you want to take him into anther room for a few to calm down, you could always say its "nap time" to help him get used to new people holding and playing with him you can always have poeple over kinda often (one or two at a time) and just let them interact while you get some house work done or something(every mom needs some free time anyway
My molly was extremely gassy too. Always passing gas or burping alot. You little one will grow out of it, in the meantime give baby Mylicon drops after every bottle. It helps, Molly is 8 months old now and just passing normal gas now. Sounds like baby is overstimulated with too many people around. Good luck with the holidays. There is no cure for a loving family, M.!
