Coping with Baby Blues

i told my obstetrician immediately and she gave me some temporary meds

T.,
CALL YOUR DOCTOR CALL YOUR DOCTOR CALL YOUR DOCTOR! I cannot stress enough that the "baby blues" are nothing to make light of or minimize. There is a lot of chemical disruption in your brain because of hormones and other changes and they are robbing you of the enjoyment of your newborn. Antidepressants are safe and effective. Please talk to your doctor as soon as possible before your depression gets any worse. Best of luck and congratulations on your new baby.
M.

Hello T.,
I feel you. Sorry you are going through this.
I went through it a little bit.
In my case, I made sure I went out everyday. Even if it was just for 5 minutes or just sitting at the porch. Just to get out of the house. Sometimes I stuck my face outside the window to feel the fresh air on my face. It kind of helped.
Another remedy was to have people around. If you can get somebody to come visit every so often, or you visit them and spend a few hours having an adult interaction, that,too, can help.
BUT,if all that doesn't help, please see your Dr.
Take care,

It sounds like post-partum to me. I faced a similar problem. I didn't have it so bad when I had my first son, but after I had my second one, I had serious bouts of crying at random moments, had trouble eating, etc. I finally went to the doctor who took pity on me. He told me I was suffering from depression and anxiety attacks and gave me medication. Before this I'd never suffered an anxiety attack in my life. But apparently now I was having them.

There is absolutely nothing wrong or to be ashamed of if you have to take medication. It's normal, and does not have to be forever. My doctor put me on a 3 month cycle, then I go back in for reevaluation. I would definately suggest you go to your doctor though because I can tell you from experience that it won't go away by itsself. It'll only get worse.

Hope everything works out well with you.

I.

You should contact your doctor right away. They are experienced with helping deal with the baby blues. Lots of people go through this. You should also tell your husband.

everytime your preg is different the hormones can change your body alot. Don't feel bad if you need meds just do what best for you. If your breastfeeding make sure if you do get put on meds that you tell them that

I don't really have any advice but I have a 2 year old and one on the way. I am afraid at how I will feel when the second one arrives. I think I am going to be overwhelmed and alone. My heart goes out to you. The only thing I could think of if maybe you should get someone around you. I don't think women should be alone when a baby first comes. I think it is against the natural order of things. I am going to make sure I will have people around me.

You need to call your doctors office right away. Tell them that you need to come in and see someone as soon as possible. This is why they are there. They can help you and get you medication if you need it.

Hi T.,

I wish I could give you a simple answer, but aside from talking to the doctor there just isn't one. However, it is very early days for you and hormones can be incredibly powerful, so you may find yourself feeling stronger as the days go by.

I have a 2-year old and a 3-month old, and for the first few weeks alone with them I honestly thought I was going insane. I cried all the time and just felt completely overwhelmed. Now we have good and bad days, or rather good and bad moments! We have no family or friends around us - my family are all in the UK, and my husband's family live in RI - a two hour drive away. Without the support of my husband there is no way I would cope.

My mantra when things get crazy is 'This too shall pass'. Doesn't feel like it at the time, but whatever it is it does pass eventually.

I hope you're feeling better, T..

D.

I also think it is a very good idea to talk with your doctor. You might not even need to go on medication. Many times your doctor can give you advice on coping. I personally had alot of trouble after my second, and I believe that if you can make sure to have your doctor watch this closely, and reach out for help from those around you (friends, relatives) and the more support you have, the better you will be able to adjust to having your second. Let's face it, It's hard to go from one to two children! Simplify your life as much as possible and know that this is only temporary. Don't allow yourself to feel guilty about getting those dishes done or laundry. Enjoy your child and that sweet baby. Oh, and make sure to communicate with your husband what he can do to take a load off you. Even if the extras you need is just short term. Hang in there :)

Hi there....with my history of "situational" depression and constant anxiousness, I was quite surprised that I didn't have PPD with eother of my two boys. But I am on medication and did seek pro help for the depression. From what I hear "the blues" is very normal and quite common. My suggestion is to see your doctor (even your OB can give you something). Especially if you feel the need to do something to yourself or children. PS.....you should feel a little overwhelmed at first, these kids keep us busy! I hope this helps and God Bless!
Kelley

I had my first three months ago and I had a touch of PPD. Call your Dr. if you feel you need medication or a professional to talk to. Get outside, sunshine helps. ASK FOR HELP. If you are not breastfeeding it will be easier to take a break. And who doesn't want to hold the new baby. You raised one child to the age of five already so clearly you know what you are doing. You have every right to feel more overwhelmed this time, you have another child that needs attention, not just a baby to focus compltetly on.

I can relate. My son was born in early June and by early August, I was an emotional basketcase. After trying to deal with it myself for a while, my mom convinced me to go back to my ob/gyn to see if I needed meds. I talked with her a little while about how I was feeling (took my husband with me--he was a big support) and she prescribed Zoloft for temporary use.

I didn't want to be on meds, but it was like night and day once I started taking Zoloft! My son is now almost 8 months old and I have weaned myself off of the meds about a month ago and everything is fine. You may just need some temporary help dealing with the added stress of a second child, plus your raging hormones. My doc told me that the extra stress of a baby PLUS whatever else you have going on can make life seem unbearable. For me it was going back to work that was too much for me at the time.

Long story short--see your doc--they are able to recognize the signs of PPD and help you!

One last thought--they may not prescribe anything to you just yet, since you've only been dealing with it for a short time. Usually they want to know that you've been feeling that way consistently for a month or longer. But don't let that stop you from getting it checked out!! In the meantime, I agree with the other ladies on here--get out of the house, and make sure you get a break every now and then and take some time for yourself.

Its completely normal - I think your hormones are just way out of balance - you might want to go see a doctor and get some medication. we've all been there. You are also probably more sleep deprived since you have a 5 year old to take care of....just try to sleep when you can. Good luck - It will get better

Jenn Smith
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