Hi H.---It's really frustrating when you fear that your child is not getting the nutrition he needs to be healthy. But try not to worry too much. Kids won't starve themselves. Right now, he's learning how to exert some control over his environment. You just have to be sure that the choices he has and the decisions he makes are ones that you want him to make.
I am a wellness educator and have learned many great strategies from a series of classes I am taking from a Naturopath who has her PhD in nutrition. I also have the pleasure of working with the 3 Dr. Sears, Dr. Bill is a pediatrician and author of many great books and his son Dr. Jim, who is on the ABC The Doctors program. They have a great website, www.askdrsears.com, and there is a section on how to handle a picky eater. I also get lots of great info from www.eatingwell.com. They have a section on kids nutrition, with many great recipes.
Have patience. Keep offering different foods. He will start eating when he thinks it is his idea. Don't be a short order cook, however. Also, restrict his milk intake. He may be filling up on that to the exclusion of other foods. In fact, cows milk is really not that good for humans, even what the dairy industry would have us believe. Milk protein is a known allergen, but food politics keep that knowledge from us. Actually, the calcium from milk is not well absorbed. A better source is green leafy veggies: spinach, broccoli, kale and bok choy. I strongly recommend exploring www.strongbones.org as well as www.pcrm.org to learn why. That way you can make an informed decision for your family.
Lastly, I, as well as the 3 Sears pediatricians, recommend a great supplement made from 17 different fruits and veggies, and it comes in gummies for little ones. I also have a great protein meal replacement that is another great source of nutrition. Independent research confirms that the body is able to use it and recognizes it as food. It is my family's nutrition insurance, because I know that we don't eat as many fruits and veggies as we should...and what we do eat lacks the nutrients necessary to prevent disease as we age.
If you are interested in exploring any of the information I've shared here, please give me a call. I do not charge for 'consultations'. It is my honor to help people learn how to optimize their health through good nutrition.
Sorry about the length of the post. Best of luck! Talk to you soon. In health, D.
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