Birthday Party Invites Elementary School

I don't think it will be a problem. My kid is only in kindergarten though so we haven't gotten into this issue too much yet. Once or twice she's heard kids talking about parties that she wasn't invited to but other classmates were and it didn't seem to faze her. It's not like you can invite everybody! I wouldn't worry about it. Have fun at the party!

And umm... Denise- not to be rude but the question is right there- is it going to be a problem inviting classmates but not troop or church group members esp. since some members overlap? I guess I just don't get why ppl are so quick to respond negatively on this site. And that's how your response sounded- at least to me. Aren't we supposed to be here to support and help each other?

I am actually turned off by getting an invite for either one of my kids to someone's party when they are not friends. I know my kids (3 yrs and 1st grade) have not come home complaining that a friend was discussing a great party they were not invited. I think the proportions you are inviting should not be an issue. It is rude when you get around to inviting all but one or two from a large group

I don't see a question....

So basically... you are inviting CLASSMATES from school.
There just so happens to be some overlap.

Your daughter knows better than to talk... but the other kids... may not.

The thing is... you are inviting SCHOOL-mates. School-mates.
So that is the distinction. It is not an entire friends reunion party with everyone from everywhere invited.
IF the premise AND designation of the party is SCHOOL-mates... then fine. You are inviting her SCHOOL friends from CLASS.
THAT is what you tell... the other parents/or even mention on the invites.
Its fine.

all the best,
Susan

That sounds like a huge party! Honestly, I would just invite her friends. There isn't an obligation to invite every kid in class (unless it's a really small class? Our son's 2nd grade has 22 kids.). I think if you limit it to friends only, it will be easier to manage RSVP follow up so you know exactly how many will be attending. Also, you can include a kind note about siblings: "Due to space limitations, we're sorry that siblings can't be included."

I think it may be a little hurtful to some especially if they find out that the entire class is going and only some are going from other groups. I guess, though, it really depends on how close she is with those in her church and scout troop.
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No, not a problem. The 3 of 8 and 6 of 20 were chosen because your daughter decided she wanted a school classmate party. I see that like in the same vein as having a neighbor friend party, a family party, a basketball team party, or all the girls in the class party. She chose a certain group and included everyone in that particular group. She did not purposefully exclude anyone based on like/dislike of them. No one should feel personally slighted. The majority of children in those other groups aren't in her class anyway, it's not like just 1 or 2 kids left out. I would not worry about it.