We are PRETTY sure we are done having kids. But, we cannot make that 100% committment. But, if we got pregnant any time in the near future I would be devastated, as would hubby. We had a very, VERY hard time with this last pregnancy with bed rest, hospital stays, money, stress, time off work, the list goes on. So, we know we do not want another baby for a few years for sure, and are about 90% sure we don't want any more period. But....there is always the chance.
I refuse to do Mirena based on stories from friends and based upon my own research. I hate putting things like that into my body. Also hate birth control, but I take it anyway because I don't feel I have a choice. So, what are our options? Tubes tied for me or snip snip for him? Hubby REFUSES to get snipped by the way, so this is all on me to come up with the solution. Suggestions from those who have been there?
Copper IUD. No hormones, nothing to think about. Yes, some women have heavier periods and worse cramps, but for most it's nothing a little extra advil can't fix. Personally, my periods are heavier, but no problems with cramping. AND it's as effective as a tubal and can stay in place for ten years. Strongly recommend it.
Tough position. Well You can continue to take the birth control or have your tubes tied. Which would require you to be home and resting in bed for about 6-8 weeks. Or your husband can get snipped and recover in about 2-5 days. Simple surgery for him. Can't tell you want to do but I think him getting snipped is best or you both do it. He needs to get over his insecurities and do what is best for your family or just keep taking the pill until you hit menopause and run the risk of getting pregnant again.
An easy birth control to use is the Nuva Ring. It comes to your house in an insulated box, goes in the fridge, is inserted in the vagina at the correct time of the month, can stay the full 3 weeks without being taken out, can be removed for several hours at a time if desired during intercourse for example, is very low dose, and is non-intrusive to your lifestyle since it's not a daily pill.
When you do decide you are done research the Essure procedure. My friend had it done and a few weeks later the doc checked and the tubes were fully blocked. She had it done in the office, went out to eat Sushi at a very nice restaurant afterwards, came home and felt pretty normal. She did have some cramps like a normal period later that day but had no other issues.
I used a copper IUD for 6 years with very few problems, then had two more kids. I wanted to avoid any hormonal options, because hormonal birth control kinda makes me psycho. :) For me, the only side effect of the copper IUD was slightly heavier periods...but nothing I couldn't handle.
Don't get your tubes tied unless you're absolutely sure...and it sounds like you're not. And try to make peace with yourself on the need for birth control! There's nothing wrong with spacing out your pregnancies - it's better for your family, your finances, your sanity, and your own health!
I completely agree with Vicki (above) regarding the snipping vs. tube tying. I went with my friend when she had her tubes tied, and she was really miserable for like 2 weeks after. My husband just got snipped (now that our family is complete), and he was just mildly inconvenienced for a few days. And now we're free!!! It's fair that he should be willing to do that - after all, you had the babies, and the pregnancies, and took care of the birth control for all these years.
We're just using condoms till hubby gets snipped.
The "Today Sponge" is back on the market.
I just spoke to my doc about this he asked if I was done having kids I said yes but I don't want to go on anything with hormones he asked what am I using I told him foam or film he asked if I was comfortable with that & yes i'am it isn't somethig that is going to effect my hormones plus when the time does come if we want another i'll be ready to begin that night if I wanted too.I just turned 31 hubby is 36 we have 3 already i'm done having kids but can't come to the decision to finally do something about it right now other than control that I don't concieve when I don't want to,as time goes on I will decide to get a copper iud or he will have to get snipped or there will be NO SEX I for sure don't want kids after age 33 so I have about a year that i'm going to allow myself to decide becasue sfter that there is no going back to having another baby.BTW foam & film has been my choice for many years & have never conceived using them nor do I have any interaction while they are ebing used.
Don't know much about it but what about a copper iud?
