Hi Mommas! I have two girls, ages 6 and 9, and will have two extras all summer- a boy age 9 and a girl turning 5. I am looking for a way to recognize good choices- some kind of chart that allows them to earn rewards. Any ideas?
The way I do it with my kids is I take away allowance money for bad choices. I can't do that with the extra kids because I am not paying them an allowance.
HELP!
D.
Sit them all down and ask them something that they would like to get for a treat if they are good, and get their honest opinion on what should be taken away. Then they feel like they put their two cents in and they realize that they would rather have the treat then have something taken away.
Brainstorm together to see what you come up with.
We had a pretty simple plan last summer when I had all of mine plus a few extra kiddos that I baby sat, everyone started with the same number of silly bands which they wore, and if they broke a rule or did not follow directions they lost a silly band. Anyone who still had a silly band at the end of the day got a special treat...I did get to the point where some good behavior or even polite manners earned bands back ( I was working with a wide range of ages!)
We used this and it went over REALLY well! Some of the things we worked towards was a water balloon fight, a movie day with popcorn, ice cream sundae bar, and sidewalk painting ( you have to get creative, but you do not have to "pay" kids money to get them to mind)
Good luck!
Finding out what "currency" works for your group of kids is key. We do not have sweets that often so for my kids a sucker was a great reward= )
Brainstorm...get the kids involved, ask Them what they want to Work for = )
In my daughter's class (3rd grade) the teacher gives them play money at the beginning of each week. If they misbehave, they have to pay the teacher. If they go out of their way and do something great, she gives them additional money. The kids can save up money for treats - the teacher has a treasure chest full of dollar-store items they can "buy," or the kids can also use their money for certain privileges such as being the teacher's helper for a day, or taking an extra trip to the library (I know that doesn't sound all that exciting, but apparently they all really save their money for these privileges!). In a home setting, they could save up and earn privileges such as choosing the snack for the day, or going to the park, or... who knows. Think of a few things that kids like and that would motivate them to behave well! Trips to the library, or the pool, or making popsicles...
This is how we do it and how we teach our clients.
http://heyyougetreal.com/momblog/how-can-my-family-budget...
B.
Family Success Coach
I bought a jar for each kid and different collie stones(like the ones used for vases/plants). I made a chart what everything was worth. Example: picking up you toys-2 putting dished in sink-2 (you can set the values as high or low as you want, things you really want like play nice-10 etc.) let the kids decorate their jar with stickers and put their name on it. Let them set a goal or you can help. Example: when jar is filled you get to go to the pool or get to eat at mcdonalds. My kids worked real quick to fill those jars! Good luck!
