Behavior Problems in Toddler

I tought preschool and toddlers for 10 yrs and this is a quite normal reaction. He mostly likely is just relizing that is a permenant change so he is trying to deal with it. I know how hard it is but, you must keep assuring him that everything is fine and talk about his new "school" like it is a wonderful thing. When you drop him off just say I will be back at whatever time you pick him up and tell him to have fun. This should only last a couple of weeks at the most. If it doesn't there may be something up with the place he doesn't like and is truely scared. Then you need to make a meeting with the directer and teachers and find out what the problem is. When you are at home talk to him about his day and praise him when he makes art and things so he feels proud of his "school". If they say he stops crying shortly after you leave then he most likely does and when you drop him off make it brief as possible and keep up a happy attitude so he doesn't sense that you are upset as well. If this is a good daycare the teachers are used to this kind of thing and know how to handle it. Chin up it will pass as he meets new friends and gets to know the routine.

I have a three year old. He isn't in daycare or preschool but at certain times of the day I put him and his sister in the playroom so I can get some work done. It is off of the kitchen and living room and right next to the stairs that go to the second floor, so he can see me all the time. But lately he has been saying more often, "Mommy, I need you to come be with me." So your son's behavior may be in part simply a three-year-old behavior. And although the transition to the new daycare seemed easy at first, maybe he is having a delayed reaction. As long as you don't feel there is any reason for him to be afraid or feel anxious (such as a bad daycare experience, mean teacher, etc) keep reassuring him and acting excited about the daycare.

Hi. I know it is hard to leave him. He will adjust! You cannot quit your job. It is hard to undersatnd thats how things are in a 3 year olds mind. He is testing you. I am a Mother of 5 and have been through this also. Good luck.

Becky

I honestly think it is just the age. My daughter turned 3 in June and she has started throwing tantrums in the past couple of months. She has always been a very easy going child and we never really had too bad of "the terrible twos", but we have some days of very trying "thundering threes". I think it is just one of those things that you have to ride out and remain consistent and kind and let your son know that you love him, but that there are still boundaries and consequences (we use time outs). Her tantrums are shortlived and aren't that frequent, but prior to about 4-5 months ago, didn't exist, so think it is just an age thing. Good luck.

Hi!
Being a home based childcare provider, I would definitely say that his behavior is a bit unusual- for a laid back child. However, the recent change, might be a difficult transition for him- especially if he was leaving friends back at the old place. Perhaps a talk with his teacher is necessary and maybe you could make arrangements to spend a little time with him one morning, in the class before you go off to work. I would also ask his teachers if they could start documenting anything unusual during the day. For example- is he by himself alot, is there another child teasing or bothering him, does he cry at all during theday? Answers to these questions might give you the answers your looking for.

k

I also have a 3 yeear old son. I am in college and I had to put him in daycare. He was fine the first week. He than began to throw fits also. I learned that, although they cannot tell time, he knew when I was to be back to pick him up. Just don't be late. When he starts seeing you at that certain time of the day. He'll think to himself..humm...it is snack time and my mom usually shows up after that. Just try to be very punctual. Soon he'll see you always come back. I hope I helped.

H.